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Workplace Romance? Many Millennials and Gen Zers Would Never.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 12:10 pm
Posted on 11/23/20 at 12:10 pm
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Our generations’ careers have not so much been informed by, but violently buffeted by, forces like the 2007-09 recession, the #MeToo movement and the coronavirus pandemic. With the job market so precarious and workplace harassment under the microscope, many young people see dating a colleague the way Ms. Roszko does: as a bad idea.
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“We started to see a decline in workplace romance around 2013,” says Amy Baker, an associate psychology professor at the University of New Haven. From 1995 to 2017, the percentage of heterosexual couples who met “through or as co-workers” dropped from 19% to 11%, according to a long-running Stanford University study called “How Couples Meet and Stay Together.”
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We live in a deeply awkward time for workplace romance. Companies have experimented recently with intense disclosure policies like one at the investment firm BlackRock requiring employees to reveal relationships not just with their 16,000 or so colleagues, but also anyone employed by the firm’s external business partners. There are even so-called “love contracts” between romantically involved co-workers who can pledge not to do things like engage in PDA at the office.
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Posted on 11/23/20 at 12:12 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
The internet, social media, and dating websites/apps have also widened the pool of choices for people so they no longer only see and flirt with people from work/church/book club/neighborhood bar.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 12:13 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
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the percentage of heterosexual couples who met “through or as co-workers” dropped from 19% to 11%, according to a long-running Stanford University study called “How Couples Meet and Stay Together.”
That seems very specific.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 12:15 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
I've always avoided any workplace relationships. Tooo much potential gossip.
I'm 59, BTW.
I'm 59, BTW.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 12:16 pm to Ash Williams
Larger dating pool online plus Also the push with workplace sexual harassment trainings and liability has made the benefits of going for a coworker a lot less. Better to hit up a rando on the internet.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 12:17 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
I never dated a current coworker. Dated a past coworker once.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 12:18 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
Met my wife at work.
I figured if I eat in my house and shite in my house then at the end of the day it's just a meaningless saying.
I figured if I eat in my house and shite in my house then at the end of the day it's just a meaningless saying.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 12:19 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
With metoo and all this shite who wants to ruin their careers or lives for a piece of tail.
You can have some bitch lie and ruin your life with ZERO evidence
She can lie and you have no recourse
You can have some bitch lie and ruin your life with ZERO evidence
She can lie and you have no recourse
Posted on 11/23/20 at 12:20 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
I've never worked with a woman I'd care to date that wasn't already married.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 12:58 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
Also if you tell a girl how you feel and she’s just not that into you can get fired for sexual harassment.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 1:45 pm to jbraua
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Also if you tell a girl how you feel and she’s just not that into you can get fired for sexual harassment.
There's 3 outcomes
1. She likes you too, mission accomplished.
2. She's not interested, but she's flattered and enjoys the confidence boost from you liking her.
3. HR needs to speak with you.
You can totally still have workplace relationships, you just better be damn sure you know you're not dealing with a #3 type of girl.
Luckily for me, all the single girls I've worked with haven't moved the needle so I haven't had to deal with this. Seems like the hot ones are always married already.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 1:48 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
In my entire working career, I had exactly one job when I ever had an attractive female coworker around my age. We were both interns at the same construction company one summer in college. She only worked a couple days a week, so I only saw her infrequently, but I definitely developed a little crush. I never acted on it, though, because I was in a serious relationship at the time.
This post was edited on 11/23/20 at 1:55 pm
Posted on 11/23/20 at 2:03 pm to jbraua
quote:maybe if you’re ugly
Also if you tell a girl how you feel and she’s just not that into you can get fired for sexual harassment.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 2:29 pm to fr33manator
It’s incredibly dangerous.
You’re putting your life in someone else’s hands and hoping they won’t screw you over if the relationship falls apart.
And nothing you say will matter, if it does fail. Your version of events will be irrelevant, if and when they make a complaint.
I’ve had a few employees ask me for advice, and I always tell them to think it over - is this the woman you’re going to marry? If not, then don’t do it.
You’re putting your life in someone else’s hands and hoping they won’t screw you over if the relationship falls apart.
And nothing you say will matter, if it does fail. Your version of events will be irrelevant, if and when they make a complaint.
I’ve had a few employees ask me for advice, and I always tell them to think it over - is this the woman you’re going to marry? If not, then don’t do it.
This post was edited on 11/23/20 at 2:35 pm
Posted on 11/23/20 at 2:31 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
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maybe if you’re ugly
Fortunately, I've never experienced that personally. I have been advised by HR that I had grounds to file my own SH case before though against this chick that got fired in my office. As a dude I would never do that, but still it's crazy the extremes some people go to.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 2:37 pm to jbraua
It’s insane
Hell, I’ve seen women turn around and undermine coworkers because they refused to date them.
It’s a lose/lose.
Hell, I’ve seen women turn around and undermine coworkers because they refused to date them.
It’s a lose/lose.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 2:38 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
all the women i work with are ugly. so, no temptation here.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 2:39 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
Times change.
At one point there were four separate married couples working in my office just within my division.
OTOH, some contractors in my office discourage that due to some issues they had at other sites. Apparently leaving your husband to shack up with another woman while all three of you work together is awkward.
At one point there were four separate married couples working in my office just within my division.
OTOH, some contractors in my office discourage that due to some issues they had at other sites. Apparently leaving your husband to shack up with another woman while all three of you work together is awkward.
Posted on 11/23/20 at 2:47 pm to jbraua
quote:That's a mistake in and of itself. You don't tell a girl you have interest in how you feel from the jump. You start up conversation and maybe ask her for her phone number or if she'd like to go out for drinks/dinner, but to tell her about any feelings you have from the get go is just creepy.
Also if you tell a girl how you feel and she’s just not that into you can get fired for sexual harassment.
This post was edited on 11/23/20 at 2:50 pm
Posted on 11/23/20 at 3:02 pm to kingbob
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In my entire working career, I had exactly one job when I ever had an attractive female coworker around my age. We were both interns at the same construction company one summer in college. She only worked a couple days a week, so I only saw her infrequently, but I definitely developed a little crush
Working in heavy equipment myself, I’ve found the teacher effect comes to play. Basically any remotely attractive girl gets a massive bump because I am surrounded by grumpy old techs, fat dudes and chain smoking women all day
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