re: Why are guys not able to see a cheater?

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She cheated on him while they were engaged.

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Huge red flag #1 - he should have walked away from that on the spot.

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convinced himself it was not going to happen again.

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Red flag that HE has a problem.

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She had him believing it was nothing and he was a drinking buddy.

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Red flag #2.

And there were plenty of other red flags. He chose to look the other way. She will cheat on him, her boyfriend, future husband(s), etc.

He's in love with something in his head that doesn't exist in his real world.

Love is an illusion anyway but it feels real.

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quote: A whole lot of side dick is getting the text of "we can only meet in the middle of the day now while he's out looking for work."

that is ice cold

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There are some sub-zero bitches out there

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nah he keeps buying her drugs and alcohol. She's been using him since she's got here, he takes her out to eat every night and buys her groceries. She has no job, no phone, no car. Like wtf

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you're all trash

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She had him believing it was nothing and he was a drinking buddy.

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well this may not be entirely a lie. They probably did drink when they fricked, and it was probably nothing but good sex to her, nothing more.

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I had a similar situation with a friend in college and he told me years later that he was afraid to leave her because he didn't think he could find anyone else. I think guys with low self esteem are the only ones who put up with this sort of shite.

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I could have been your college friend. I had terrible self esteem in high school, and stayed with the only girlfriend I had ever had even though she cheated on me several times. I eventually grew out of it, but I wasted years in a terrible "relationship".

Yep, not meant to you, was meant to him. I fricked it up. Repost to his sorry arse

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who found out his wife cheated on him today. She cheated on him while they were engaged. He blew a gasget but convinced himself it was not going to happen again. He was wrong. It happen again and this time they were married. I have never heard a dude cry that hard. They

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So he found out today that she cheated on him when they were engaged, then she cheated again today and he found out again today too? Hmmmmm



ETA: gasget

I learned the hard way when I was 24 finishing up my degree at UGA. I worked at Longhorn in Athens and had banged at least half of the female servers over 4 years. But I took a real liking to Julie. She was a sweet little bartender. I got a little serious with her over 5 months. But Julie had all kinds of regulars who came in either by themselves or with a buddy a few nights a week. She flirted like an expert not only with them but with my co-worker male friends. Suspicion was in my mind and I tried to catch her lying but she was wily enough to outsmart a fox. Always had a plausible excuse about where she was. I grew so suspicious because my gut instinct was telling me that she was screwing other guys.

But I had no proof. For instance, she had everyone believing that she was taking a full course load at UGA. She would meet me on campus in between one of my classes or after one of her fictional classes. She would walk out of the chemistry building at the time I was told her class let out and we would talk a few minutes until she would put her backpack back on and walk to her fictional next class. But I found out later that she was not even a student at UGA.

One day after work, one of my co-workers asked if me and Julie were in a committed relationship. I said "as far as I know we are." He looked disturbed and I asked why he asked me that. " Well, that's not what she told me." " Wait a second" I asked, "are you and her messing around?" His answer was no but he wasn't sure I should trust her. My suspicion went into overdrive and I was determined to catch her in her lies . Should have just broken it off there but I was young and dumb. I wanted....needed....to prove I was smarter than her. How could this girl be some damn good at covering up her web of deceit? I could not get any proof and I wanted proof.

Proof came later that week. We were supposed to meet at a bar but she called and told me she had something come up and we would catch up late night. I drove over to her apartment around 11pm and eased up the stairs likens stalker psycho. All her lights were out but I heard music. Peeked through the slit of her blinds and because of the microwave light could see her getting railed doggy style by one dude and jacking off another at the same time on her couch. Saw two other guys just walking around naked. I left and somehow felt that I won. LOL.

I waited until the morning and went by her place. Beer cans and boxes all over her apartment. Said " looks like you had a party last night." She gave me some lame excuse about her friends using her apartment before they went out but that she was not there. Told her I saw her getting gang banged by 4 guys but she even tried to spin that as not her. Must of been one of her friends. I told her to frick off and left.

My co-worker fessed up to me the next day at work that he and 3 of his friends had gang banged her the night before and she had told him that she and I had broken up that week.

Good lesson learned at an early age. Trust your instincts.