re: Psychology Today==> Women cheat for their spouse's benefit

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But let’s talk about another practical move these women made: not putting all their eggs in one basket. Many women maintained multiple affair partners at once. Not because they were greedy, but because they’d already learned from marriage that relying on just one man for everything was a risky bet. So, they kept a “roster” or “herd” of partners to ensure they always had options.

One woman put it best: "Why would I expect one affair partner to meet all my needs when my husband couldn’t?"

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Jesus Christ

You guys are way too hard on SFP. Most of what he posts is intellectual exercise.

He takes unpopular opinions to see if he can defend them. Lawyers love doing that shite. . .hell they are taught to do it in law school

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Your post is further proof that some males are part of the problem when it comes to society not holding women accountable for their actions

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Where is this world where women ain't held accountable for their actions? In the vast majority of divorces and children being born into single parent homes the mother is the only parent held to any kind of accountability.

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Its almost like we are some kind of animal that is subconsciously either always trying to either get pregnant or get someone else pregnant.

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It is a biological imperative and the only reason any organism exists, to procreate. Society is the problem, not human nature. Monogamy was fine when folks died when they were in their 30s and 40s and a 60 year old was a village elder. It did not exist for the vast majority of human existence as even a hinted at expectation because it is a fricking silly notion and it is pretty regressive biologically. Animals frick and folks is animals...its what we do.

Do you think pointing out that we are primates in the animal kingdom excuses certain behaviors? We’re biologically wired to kill to endure. Only in the last blip of time of humans on this planet have we stopped doing it so callously. 10k years ago you’d have stolen your neighbors food to survive.

7 year itch.

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Both sexes need to consider “Is it worth it?” Is a few weeks or months of fun worth breaking up a family for?? I say No. While the short term will be a good time the long term consequences will be a lifetime of regret.

The wrong thing is always fun for a season.

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While I agree with your premise it begs the question why would sexual infidelity break up a family? I know it will and would in my own marriage BUT that is not the same thing as why. The fact that this is considered pretty much universal is the problem, not infidelity. It breaks up families because of egos and self-absorbed emotions on the part of the cheater and the cheated on. Again, that is the current societal norm but it is not normal in the history of man. As a mere expectation it accounts for about 3.33% of the time we have existed as a species - the other 96.67% of the time we were polygamous and for good reason...it was and is biologically necessary. Only about 3-5% of mammals on the planet practice any form of monogamy and in most of those instances it lasts for one breeding cycle. Some human societies expect an adult human being to remain chaste the rest of their lives no matter how young they are when their mate dies. That is unheard of outside of humans.

There are a couple of factors working against human monogamy. The first is obvious...fricking is fun. The second is almost unique to humans and has only recently been though to be present in other mammals and that is the emotional aspect of sex...its comforting, a sign of affection, all manner of emotion tied in the most basic act we as animals perform. This is where the idea of monogamy comes from...emotion. Not a bad thing since there is nothing we choose or can do about it. When that emotional bond is severed or not present it is a strong inducement to seek it elsewhere. Monogamy and the societal restrictions and punishments we dole out is not conducive to that and is bought at the expense of human nature. It ain't natural to be monogamous....almost no other species does it and the few that do usually do it for one breeding cycle and one only. It is a societal construct that has not existed for the vast majority of human existence.

Also

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It is entirely possible that our most distant ancestors were monogamous. Fossil evidence, says anthropologist C. Owen Lovejoy of Kent State University, suggests that monogamy predates even Ardipithecus ramidus, the species best known from a 4.4-million-year-old partial female skeleton, nicknamed “Ardi,” discovered in the Middle Awash region of Ethiopia.

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Even in countries where polygamy is legal, very few participate. . .a tiny minority. I mean. . .nuff said

Also, let me add that 100% of the time I have heard married men argue against monagamy, they were being unfaithful. It is like all this is a rationalization to themselves that they are still a good person. . .society just doesn't understand (coincidentally the same rationalization pedos use).

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Absolutely...but that contract is about 3% of the age of homo sapiens on the plane

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i just linked a Scientific American article arguing monagamy predates Homo Sapiens.

Also, in countries where polygamy is legal, hardly anyone participates. Almost like we are hard-wired for monogamy.