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re: is this a fair divorce deal?
Posted on 11/11/16 at 10:09 pm to gingerkittie
Posted on 11/11/16 at 10:09 pm to gingerkittie
I'm going to need pics before I can opine.
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Posted on 11/11/16 at 10:10 pm to Chad504boy
This guy gets rid of you right? Seems like a solid deal.
Posted on 11/11/16 at 11:37 pm to gingerkittie
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I also bought cows, bought his kids a car, bought him much farm equip, upgraded his tractor, bought him multiple computers, etc.
Did all of that start with you buying him Western shirts for when you guys went dancing? A lady I used to work with had one of those kept men as her boyfriend when she was in her late 30's. It started with Western shirts.
Posted on 11/12/16 at 12:04 am to gingerkittie
In any negotiation, he who names a price first is the loser!
People tend to negotiate down, not up.
You just want out. He wants to hurt you.
I once read about a military guy who got divorced. His ex made claims that he never paid child support to his base commander. He was called on the carpet and he presented copies of every check he had written his ex and proof she had cashed them. The base commander closed the investigation into the complaints. He also had his ex's lawyer disbarred for filing the complaint without proof it was valid.
The soldier then copied his documentation and sent copies to every member of his ex's family. The accusations stopped. He sent copies to his kids so they knew he met his obligations to them.
This is a symptom of an abuser.
The best defense is a good offense.
You may have to hire a lawyer and have his assets frozen. Then settle for what you want.
Freezing assets makes people want to settle quickly.
People tend to negotiate down, not up.
You just want out. He wants to hurt you.
I once read about a military guy who got divorced. His ex made claims that he never paid child support to his base commander. He was called on the carpet and he presented copies of every check he had written his ex and proof she had cashed them. The base commander closed the investigation into the complaints. He also had his ex's lawyer disbarred for filing the complaint without proof it was valid.
The soldier then copied his documentation and sent copies to every member of his ex's family. The accusations stopped. He sent copies to his kids so they knew he met his obligations to them.
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However he feels that I am totally "f*cking him over" and is furious.
This is a symptom of an abuser.
The best defense is a good offense.
You may have to hire a lawyer and have his assets frozen. Then settle for what you want.
Freezing assets makes people want to settle quickly.
Posted on 11/12/16 at 12:08 am to gingerkittie
Sounds your being more than fair. Actually it sounds like your coming out on the losing end but if your ok with it thats cool. Tell he either accept your offer or you will take him to court and rake him over the coals.
Posted on 11/12/16 at 1:04 am to gingerkittie
It seems fair on the surface.
Although it seems like this board be an echo chamber.
For all we know, you might be asking him for a 200k payment for your inheritance that was previously used to buy a house you are "graciously" allowing him to keep.
Doesn't stop it from being fair, but it does stop it from being as one sided as first glance would suggest.
Although it seems like this board be an echo chamber.
For all we know, you might be asking him for a 200k payment for your inheritance that was previously used to buy a house you are "graciously" allowing him to keep.
Doesn't stop it from being fair, but it does stop it from being as one sided as first glance would suggest.
Posted on 11/12/16 at 1:15 am to gingerkittie
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No doubt i love his family and they stand beside me. The stealing from a disabled child was recent and he has also recently gone radical with his views on many things.
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and there is more to the reason on why I am divorcing him but I am not revealing that yet although my lawyers and the law know about that. He was not always this bad but in recent years i am beginning to think something has gone very wrong with him mentally. He has some very radical and hateful views about situations that are frankly delusional and paranoid.
So you voted Trump and he didn't. Take him down like Obama's legacy and don't look back. Fuccum
This post was edited on 11/12/16 at 1:17 am
Posted on 11/12/16 at 4:34 am to gingerkittie
He has no right to anything you had before you married and anything you inherited.
The only thing considered community property would be anything you or he purchased during your marriage or anything y'all made payments on together.
The only thing considered community property would be anything you or he purchased during your marriage or anything y'all made payments on together.
Posted on 11/12/16 at 5:25 am to bulldog95
Didn't read through all 7 pages, but I would image this might be the issues
as I am guessing that this might have substantial value
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I only want what i bought before we were married, my inheritance and the things my family has bought for me thru the years.
as I am guessing that this might have substantial value
Posted on 11/12/16 at 5:52 am to gingerkittie
Pics? How big of an inheritance? Sounds like you may need to marry me.
Posted on 11/12/16 at 6:15 am to gingerkittie
What did you expect?
Sounds like you have been letting him wipe his feet on you for years.
Sounds like you have been letting him wipe his feet on you for years.
Posted on 11/12/16 at 6:54 am to gingerkittie
So have you told us about your holdings? Money, stocks, retirement, etc etc etc.
If that adds up to a ton and his half is less than what your offering (house, etc), then yes, your not being fair and you are essentially blackmailing him by airing his dirty laundry. And that would make you mean.
If that adds up to a ton and his half is less than what your offering (house, etc), then yes, your not being fair and you are essentially blackmailing him by airing his dirty laundry. And that would make you mean.
Posted on 11/12/16 at 7:00 am to the LSUSaint
And also, it seems as though your making a case FOR him possibly being totally dependent on you, so get ready to pay support, you greeedy lady.
No one, and I mean NO ONE who is being mistreated, cheated on, and with a criminal...aggrees to walk away and give him the home and pay for lawyers etc.....without having a shite ton of money they are hiding from him or trying to keep him from touching.
My guess is your lawyers told you to offer him a good deal so he won't go after more, which he would no doubt get if he hires his own attorney.
So yes, I think you're hiding a lot and trying to frick him as it pertains to the law.
No one, and I mean NO ONE who is being mistreated, cheated on, and with a criminal...aggrees to walk away and give him the home and pay for lawyers etc.....without having a shite ton of money they are hiding from him or trying to keep him from touching.
My guess is your lawyers told you to offer him a good deal so he won't go after more, which he would no doubt get if he hires his own attorney.
So yes, I think you're hiding a lot and trying to frick him as it pertains to the law.
Posted on 11/12/16 at 7:10 am to gingerkittie
Obviously more than fair divorce. I'm more interested in this:
Explain yourself. Why did you marry a dirtbag?
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Mind you, he is the one at fault in the divorce because I caught him stealing (from a disabled child) and cheating (multiple times but didnt care because I knew how he was). However I love his kids, grandkids, family etc, so I was never bothered by the crap he did.
Explain yourself. Why did you marry a dirtbag?
Posted on 11/12/16 at 7:49 am to gingerkittie
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Quite enough for me to live on comfortable and to spoil my next man with.
*Paging Rouge*
Posted on 11/12/16 at 8:37 am to Cdawg
quote:appreciate the offer, but I'm good
*Paging Rouge*
Here's looking out, though....
Posted on 11/12/16 at 8:41 am to gingerkittie
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only want what i bought before we were married, my inheritance and the things my family has bought for me thru the years.
Honest question. What did your lawyer say?
Because a few of the things you listed are usually legally not part of community property and your lawyer should know that
Posted on 11/12/16 at 10:10 am to gingerkittie
Yes, of course it's a fair deal.
Problem is, guys offer similar fair deals all the time and still end up screwed over x 2 in the end. It's rare for the female to end up on the short end of a divorce. Like the old saying goes, if it's good for the gander then it's good for the goose. Can't pick and choose when that applies, and maybe with more females becoming primary breadwinners like yourself and getting screwed over, things will become more equitable for all.
Problem is, guys offer similar fair deals all the time and still end up screwed over x 2 in the end. It's rare for the female to end up on the short end of a divorce. Like the old saying goes, if it's good for the gander then it's good for the goose. Can't pick and choose when that applies, and maybe with more females becoming primary breadwinners like yourself and getting screwed over, things will become more equitable for all.
Posted on 11/12/16 at 11:35 am to gingerkittie
Don't play nice.....hit him where it hurts.
Women win in court of law & he can fuss and shite all he wants to. Let the court handle it.
:speaking from experience:
Women win in court of law & he can fuss and shite all he wants to. Let the court handle it.
:speaking from experience:
Posted on 11/12/16 at 11:44 am to Screech
Here come all the ot desperados...
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