re: Is this a bad person to start a relationship with?

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so....what happened here?

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THIS?

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34

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divorced twice

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Neither marriage lasted very long

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HUGE RED FLAG

I speak from experience. She was married and divorced THREE times by the age of 28.

Yoga, do yourself a favor and RUN.

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He's 34, works in banking

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He lives with his mother

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So he's a bank teller?

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He told me he has credit issues because of his divorces

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We've all been there.

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He went to the University of California. He's against guns which is an area we disagree on

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So he's a liberal snowflake?

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Dad says he's "full of shite" and just telling me what I want to hear.

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I'll let you in on a little secret. That is Guy 101

Met with dad yesterday, then I had dinner with the guy I'm talking about. The guy (I'll call him "John" since I'm tired of typing "the guy") does not work in banking. He has a little company of his own, with no employees. John says he's working on computer programs and the work is confidential so it is easier to say "I work at a bank." He didn't want to address questions about what he specifically is working on, and it is easier just to say he works at a bank. This makes sense (Dad says "no it doesn't).

I was mad at dad for not minding his own business and investigating John. Dad learned (1) John has weak credit (which I knew), (2) John has a child from his first marriage (which John denies)(Dad just heard that from John's dad and had no copies of legal paperwork though dad implied he did!), (3) John has no visitation and the child and the ex-wife has all the custody (this is also just what John's dad said), (4) John's car is in his mother's name, and (5) John has two DWIs and might have been in drug rehab (John denies the latter). This sounds just like John's dad is trashing him because they don't get along.

My dad should have minded his own business. I could have sorted all this out and I will. John's been mistreated by his ex's and it makes sense that he is still having financial problems. Dad says that John wasn't married long enough to either to have them in a position to cause problems, but I disagree.

I didn't ask John if he had a child. I thought about driving downtown and seeing if I can look at his divorce file at the courthouse but I'm not sure if his first divorce was in Dallas (his second one was, he mentioned it in a conversation).

This is all confusing but I think I can sort it out.

Had dad minded his own business, I would have figured all this out on my own. I don't think John is full of it, but I'm a little concerned about the job lie. I'm going to be very concerned if he has a child that he's lied about, or if he's not allowed to see it for some reason.

The only big "red flag" at this point is whether he does have a child, and if so, can he visit the child, and if not, why? A huge NO if he has a child and doesn't want to see it, or worse, is barred from seeing the child.

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John's been mistreated by his ex's

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By his ex's what?

Do you mean both of his exes mistreated him? If you would have said "he was married once and got a divorce because his wife mistreated him" then I would think "there is always two sides of the story, but you can give him the benefit of the doubt", but for both of them to "mistreat" him, it is probably more of an issue with him than them. The red flags are there, but if you want to roll the dice... Go for it.

Nope. They don't give g-mail addy's to crazy people.

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Had dad minded his own business, I would have figured all this out on my own

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You mean, the OT would.

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Met with dad yesterday, then I had dinner with the guy I'm talking about. The guy (I'll call him "John" since I'm tired of typing "the guy") does not work in banking. He has a little company of his own, with no employees. John says he's working on computer programs and the work is confidential so it is easier to say "I work at a bank." He didn't want to address questions about what he specifically is working on, and it is easier just to say he works at a bank. This makes sense (Dad says "no it doesn't).

I was mad at dad for not minding his own business and investigating John. Dad learned (1) John has weak credit (which I knew), (2) John has a child from his first marriage (which John denies)(Dad just heard that from John's dad and had no copies of legal paperwork though dad implied he did!), (3) John has no visitation and the child and the ex-wife has all the custody (this is also just what John's dad said), (4) John's car is in his mother's name, and (5) John has two DWIs and might have been in drug rehab (John denies the latter). This sounds just like John's dad is trashing him because they don't get along.

My dad should have minded his own business. I could have sorted all this out and I will. John's been mistreated by his ex's and it makes sense that he is still having financial problems. Dad says that John wasn't married long enough to either to have them in a position to cause problems, but I disagree.

I didn't ask John if he had a child. I thought about driving downtown and seeing if I can look at his divorce file at the courthouse but I'm not sure if his first divorce was in Dallas (his second one was, he mentioned it in a conversation).

Had dad minded his own business, I would have figured all this out on my own. I don't think John is full of it, but I'm a little concerned about the job lie. I'm going to be very concerned if he has a child that he's lied about, or if he's not allowed to see it for some reason.

The only big "red flag" at this point is whether he does have a child, and if so, can he visit the child, and if not, why? A huge NO if he has a child and doesn't want to see it, or worse, is barred from seeing the child.

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This is all confusing but I think I can sort it out.

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Are you fricking retarded?

What in the frick is this shite?
Just say you want to frick him and move on.....


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