re: How much was your wedding and who paid for it?

Totally. The internet's obsession with patting themselves on the back specifically when it comes to weddings has always been strange to me.

I think it's just one of those things where people are so proud of themselves for bucking societal norms that the pendulum swings in the other direction and they poo poo everyone else who might be in an entirely different situation than they are.

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ETA: you can donate your flowers to a local hospice to give them a second use!

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Good to know.

My middle daughter got married last December. Her and her husband didn’t want anything really fancy. I think we budgeted around $5000 and paid somewhere around $7000.

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Like so many other things...it's a splurge and if you're solely going to concentrate on the number you'll never find those sort of things "worth it"

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exactly... if a big wedding isn't worth it to you, don't do it. but also don't act like there's no possibility that it could be worth it for others.

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The post you replied to (Captain's Wafer) made it pretty clear he's referring to people where it's not an either/or situation.

If you can have a nice wedding and it affects your home, savings, retirement, etc. basically zero, why is that so wrong to do?

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Because they think it’s a waste of money, and always have an opinion on where the money for an “expensive” wedding should have been spent.

And you hit the nail right on the head, I’m not talking about people who are sacrificing something else for what they feel is an expensive wedding.

It’s almost like they’re bitter they had a small wedding, and will continue to tell you that they had a cheap one and couldn’t be happier like they’re trying to convince themselves of the same fact.

$20,000
Father in law

Your last paragraph is just as much of a generalization as the dumbasses who think all pricey weddings are a waste of money

You certainly can.

Complaining about one and then making another immediately is definitely peak OT

I paid for the church wedding. I regret we didn't just go to the beach in flip flops with a preacher and have a better and cheaper memory.

$8,600, wife's family paid. We just used the Church and reception on a family member's property. Wife and I were against a big lavish affair. Wife's parents then gave us $41,400 for anything we wanted.

1000ish bucks- me

-Gazebo overlooking miss river in Natchez, MS. -100ish bucks to rent for an hour or 2

-free fellowship hall use @ my old church between Ferriday & vidalia

-photography was free done by my aunt who has always done that as a side hustle

-300-500ish on food. Cake was done at cost by a lady from my moms church.

-200ish for a night @ Monmouth plantation in Natchez.

Small wedding with just a couple friends each plus family. 25-40 ppl total I think. Wanted to spend the big bucks on a honeymoon instead. Mrs jkyle was happy and it was a great day. Been married 5 years.