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re: Do you ever feel like you’ve wasted your life?
Posted on 2/24/21 at 7:37 am to bigberg2000
Posted on 2/24/21 at 7:37 am to bigberg2000
It is tough. Trust me I still throw myself the occasional pity party. But I’m noticing those aren’t as frequent now...so that’s progress right there.
I can sit and feel sorry for myself and stay stuck in the past and all the bad that happened..or I can start figuring out what my new life will look like for me. I’m just now getting to a point where starting all over isn’t so scary....and kinda a little exciting at times.
I can sit and feel sorry for myself and stay stuck in the past and all the bad that happened..or I can start figuring out what my new life will look like for me. I’m just now getting to a point where starting all over isn’t so scary....and kinda a little exciting at times.
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Posted on 2/24/21 at 8:21 am to SaintlyTiger88
Not at all. Delaying gratification and making sacrifices as a youth can really pay off in one's future. Delaying it now to a degree and making the less fun decisions can keep the ball rolling.
This post was edited on 2/24/21 at 8:23 am
Posted on 2/24/21 at 8:27 am to CatsGoneWild
quote:No. You wasted being single in your 20s but now you've got a second chance. Enjoy. There are people who would love a second shot like you have.
Im 42 and I've wasted 20 years of my life. When your wife wants to leave you after 20 years and you have to start over..
Posted on 2/24/21 at 8:29 am to HailHailtoMichigan!
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man, I want to be uplifting to you, but 33 isn't "young" in many ways, especially regarding career.
I changed careers in my 30s. And more than doubled my salary.
Posted on 2/24/21 at 8:31 am to HailHailtoMichigan!
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man, I want to be uplifting to you, but 33 isn't "young" in many ways, especially regarding career
Go check places like medical schools. There are many older students. Of course, it takes real sacrifice. Most are not equipped for that.
Posted on 2/24/21 at 8:43 am to lsunurse
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Also...stop comparing yourself to others. It doesn’t help you in any way and that other person likely isn’t doing as well as it may seem to you.
So much this. The kids fed? Roof over your head? Can make the car note? If the answer to these is yes, then your head is well above water my man. Only compare yourself today from what you were yesterday. Improve that and you’re headed in the right direction.
Posted on 2/24/21 at 9:04 am to Jake88
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Go check places like medical schools. There are many older students. Of course, it takes real sacrifice. Most are not equipped for that.
My friend is 40 and was just matched and will start her psychology internship this fall to become a psychologist.
I went to nursing school with people in their 50s.
Posted on 2/24/21 at 9:10 am to SaintlyTiger88
yep
Posted on 2/24/21 at 9:11 am to SaintlyTiger88
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but it just sucks knowing things could have been a lot better at this point in life.
Count your blessings. It could be a lot worse.
Posted on 2/24/21 at 9:17 am to SaintlyTiger88
I always had a dream to fly for a living. I'm that weird type of human that enjoys airports and people.
My first error was having a child out of wedlock at 19 but he is amazing and not a regret and never viewed as such.
My next error was not taking the small opportunities with decent cash on hand to cover all my training costs or paying off my single wide (long time ago).
In the end it doesn't really matter though... just as soon as I was poised to begin my run at that dream career, Covid hit and my health is going downhill fast (thanks bad genes, not a fatty).
So now I am sitting here wondering what the hell I will do to re-discover that motivation and drive that kept me rolling the last 10 years in my pursuit of a flying career. It's pretty tough considering I also lost my normal 8-5 in aviation admin during Covid.
My first error was having a child out of wedlock at 19 but he is amazing and not a regret and never viewed as such.
My next error was not taking the small opportunities with decent cash on hand to cover all my training costs or paying off my single wide (long time ago).
In the end it doesn't really matter though... just as soon as I was poised to begin my run at that dream career, Covid hit and my health is going downhill fast (thanks bad genes, not a fatty).
So now I am sitting here wondering what the hell I will do to re-discover that motivation and drive that kept me rolling the last 10 years in my pursuit of a flying career. It's pretty tough considering I also lost my normal 8-5 in aviation admin during Covid.
Posted on 2/24/21 at 9:26 am to lsunurse
Yep. Just takes some sacrifice.
Posted on 2/24/21 at 9:34 am to Muthsera
What industry are you in?
Posted on 2/24/21 at 9:38 am to SaintlyTiger88
The answer to reversing this in your life is simple. Doing the work is hard. I’m fortunate that I get to help people and companies figure this out for a living. Here’s the process:
1. Pick a date 5-10 years from now.
2. Write out exactly what you WANT your life to look like on that day in great detail. Be exact and write those things as though they have already happened <— very important. Like this: I am making $159k per year. Or, my wife and I have been happily married for XX years.
3. Look at what you wrote and identify some things you can go do by 12/31/21 and write those down.
4. Put that list somewhere you can see it every day. Mine is on the inside of my bathroom mirror where my meds are.
5. Find a close friend/colleague who you can tell these things to and ask them to hold you accountable to getting them done. Meet with this person 2x per month and have them check your progress.
Do this and things will change. In fact, they will change much faster than you believe they will today.
1. Pick a date 5-10 years from now.
2. Write out exactly what you WANT your life to look like on that day in great detail. Be exact and write those things as though they have already happened <— very important. Like this: I am making $159k per year. Or, my wife and I have been happily married for XX years.
3. Look at what you wrote and identify some things you can go do by 12/31/21 and write those down.
4. Put that list somewhere you can see it every day. Mine is on the inside of my bathroom mirror where my meds are.
5. Find a close friend/colleague who you can tell these things to and ask them to hold you accountable to getting them done. Meet with this person 2x per month and have them check your progress.
Do this and things will change. In fact, they will change much faster than you believe they will today.
Posted on 2/24/21 at 10:21 am to SaintlyTiger88
Almost 60 and never really done anything of note. No George Bailey, but still punching.
Posted on 2/24/21 at 11:11 am to SaintlyTiger88
You still have time to pull your head out your arse and make something for yourself. You just have to find a way to get MOTIVATED
Posted on 2/24/21 at 11:20 am to SaintlyTiger88
Well, When Julius Caesar, at the age of 33, considered the achievements of Alexander the Great, he wept. His sighs and tears did not come as a result of mourning or fear for his own life, but from a sobering recognition: Alexander had conquered the world before the age of 33 and yet he (Caesar) had done nothing remotely similar, nothing that would warrant remembrance by future generations in the same amount of time.
So there is still time.
Although he was Roman governor of Spain at the time so this may not make you feel any better.
So there is still time.
Although he was Roman governor of Spain at the time so this may not make you feel any better.
This post was edited on 2/24/21 at 11:27 am
Posted on 2/24/21 at 11:24 am to crash1211
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Alexander had conquered the world before the age of 33 and yet he (Caesar) had done nothing remotely similar,
baw was selling himself short, he invented a hell of a good salad
Posted on 2/24/21 at 11:25 am to SaintlyTiger88
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This post was edited on 2/26/21 at 2:55 pm
Posted on 2/24/21 at 11:28 am to 777Tiger
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baw was selling himself short, he invented a hell of a good salad
Also the creator of the New Iberia haircut. So he had that going for him.
Posted on 2/24/21 at 11:28 am to SaintlyTiger88
Wasted? No but I don't feel like I really started living until I had kids; especially my daughter.
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