re: Dealing with Teenage daughters

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If you made it to 17 without hearing I hate you from your daughter

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I have a daughter and two sons, the daughter is the oldest and was and is perfect, valedictorian in hs, paid almost her entire way through an expensive Ivy League type school, graduated summa cum laude, has had three great jobs since graduating, all significant upward moves, I thought with her, this parenting shite is easy, then came the two boys, holy terrors when kids and still a pain in the arse

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Boys mostly are much easier to raise.

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they are NOT!! That’s just some bullshite men spit out to make themselves feel better

I don’t have kids, and didn’t get in much trouble myself and could basically do whatever I wanted once I graduated HS, so this “adult parenting” stuff is pretty interesting to me

My cousin’s daughter graduated high school in 2019 (I believe), started college at a big SEC school, then left due to Covid (she was basically a prisoner in her dorm) to move back home and do community college for a few years. Well, her parents were super strict with curfews, didn’t “let” her drink AT ALL, etc.

Hearing her parents talk/gloat about their rules was pretty strange. I get “my house, my rules”, but it was odd.
A couple years later… no degree, she got knocked up by a barista, and they are living with his parents.

(Sorry for the Oweo style post)

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it seems that way

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no teenage boys are a$$ holes

They’re cocky, uncooperative, and think they are adults but can’t understand why trash has to be taken out or how they need to pitch in

Stupid

My daughter was the same way, but my problem was her mother always wanted to baby her and that didn't fly with me. At least you have your wife on your side. We're divorced now and that was one of the reasons!

I'm old school, but my ex-wife wanted to be her best friend. I told her she had plenty of friends and that she needed parents to guide her in the right direction. One big thing for me was no boys in her bedroom, but I came home one day and she's in her BR with her boyfriend and the door was closed. I became unglued and burst into her room and politely told them to move to the living room, movie room (it had double doors so we could easily see in), kitchen or go outside!

The boy was a nice kid, but that still didn't fly with me. Of course, I was made out to be the bad guy, but I didn't care! Raising a teenage daughter is like manually pulling out teeth with pair of pliers - it's painful and gets more painful as time goes along.

On the other hand, my son was a walk in the park. No drama, a lot less talking back and he actually listened to what I had to say!

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Boys mostly are much easier to raise.
they are NOT!! That’s just some bullshite men spit out to make themselves feel better

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Well, in most cases a girl is fairly certain that Daddy's not going to punch her in the mouth. A boy always has that grain of doubt.

Have had a few moments with our oldest child. Their opinion of me means nothing if I know I am right. Words are just that. They will still come to you when they get themselves deep in a bad situation, and you receive a phone call from college at 1:00 in the morning. They have to know that you are there no matter what.

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So, that’s the cure for boys? I’ll punch my 17 year old in the mouth next time he answers back

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yeah, that was a pretty dumb take, if you’re at the point of punching your kid in the mouth it’s too late and you’ve done it wrong

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No, but he needs to worry that you might.

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my 17 y/o is bigger than I am, I’ll get my 18 y/o to do it

But then again, that smart arse kid will probably call the cops