re: Cant stand this guy in my new GF's social circle

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MessageCant stand this guy in my new GF's social circle

Posted by SirWinston   on 11/24 at 4:01 am

Guy definitely seems like a threat to me and is a complete a-hole. My GF worships him because they're been friends for ages and he's a professor in a field that she's passionate about (that's how they met). 

I know to "act alpha" and shite, but it's tough for me to appear cool in social situations with the guy because by definition when we meet up with him and his GF and his group it's automatically not going to be on my terms - he'll know everybody in the group and he's a regular at the bars we meet them at, and I'm the new guy who has no background or nothing to talk about. 

This dude is one of those people that has no problem talking about all the irons he has in the fire, all the side projects he's got going on, the people he socializes with, etc. So annoying. The thing that pisses me off is that I know for a fact that I make more money than him but my job just isn't that interesting. I only bring this up because it just adds to my frustration - like "I'm better than this dude - it's not like he's Tom Brady or Ben Affleck. WTF are my relatively strong social skills and situational schmoozing rendered to ineffective to others around the table when I'm in this rotten crowd?". 

Yes he's clearly in my head and I realize that's a problem. I think my GF knows that I'm not a fan, which makes it worse. Any suggestions or tips for how to handle this - I really don't want to keep hanging out with this dude.

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Posted by TigerChief10  on 11/24 at 4:04 am toSirWinston

Start talking to his gf more

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Posted by SirWinston   on 11/24 at 4:08 am toTigerChief10

I try but she's miserable that her BF is obviously flirting and having a great time schmoozing other women. I also try talking with other people in the setting but it just gets old. I know the textbook answer is to mingle and flirt with other women myself so I guess I just have to buck myself up and do that next time. 

I fricking hate these games though - I was way happier dating multiple women where I had the power and didn't have all my eggs in one basket. I feel like I cuckolded myself by sticking only with this chick and now that she has me she can pull shite like this. She'd have never acted this way before we went exclusive b/c she was still trying to win me over.


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Posted by euquol  on 11/24 at 4:13 am toSirWinston

You have absolutely nothing in common with her friend? I mean I think most people have at least one thing in common with another person, no matter how small. 

Or is it that you just do not like him and do not want to find something in common?


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Posted by SabiDojo  on 11/24 at 4:13 am toSirWinston

You're posting about this at 4 in the morning. Think about that. If your gf hasn't fricked him already, she's going to. 


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Posted by euquol  on 11/24 at 4:14 am toeuquol

Nevermind scratch all that


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Posted by SabiDojo  on 11/24 at 4:16 am toSirWinston

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She'd have never acted this way before we went exclusive b/c she was still trying to win me over.



She is testing boundaries, dude. She's the cheating type.


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Posted by TrueTiger   on 11/24 at 4:16 am toSirWinston

You could Dexter his arse. 


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Posted by BRgetthenet  on 11/24 at 4:17 am toSabiDojo

Yeah 

SirWinston prolly wouldn't mike gargling his cock a little his ownself.


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Posted by SirWinston   on 11/24 at 4:18 am toSabiDojo

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You're posting about this at 4 in the morning. Think about that. If your gf hasn't fricked him already, she's going to.



I'm sure that she has fricked him in the past. I am focused on the go-forward. 

And no, he has no interest in talking to me - he only wants to talk to other women. I know everything about this guy b/c my GF talks about him all the time. I'm sure he has no interest in my MBA or does not care or could not name what I do for work. 

So how do I handle this when my GF bring him up again and again or when she talks to him the entire time at the bars? I'll make sure that next time we may meet them out that I'll look my best and have some intro lines to talk to other chicks with. If I put it out in the open it will make her more interested in him. If I ignore it than I'm miserable. I'm not really sure how best to handle this.

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