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Thoughts on nepotism? Is it all bad?

Posted on 11/4/25 at 7:36 am
Posted by burger bearcat
Member since Oct 2020
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Posted on 11/4/25 at 7:36 am
There are absolutely circumstances where nepotism is taken to far to the detriment of the children and everyone around them. I think we can all identify these scenarios, parents should make find ways for their kids to grow and develop some fortitude and skills without having things handed to them.

But then on the reverse side, parents shouldn’t be ashamed for wanting to help their kids out. If a guy works his arse off to build a company, and would like to groom his son or sons to take over one day, and pass on his wealth to his kids.

Why else would you get up every day for 50+ years, just to what? Sell the company to an equity firm, then blow it all on a few cruises and give the rest to charity?

Posted by Hangover Haven
Metry
Member since Oct 2013
31726 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 7:38 am to
What’s nepotism?

Ask the Walton family....

Side note: Has this been troubling you for some time now?
This post was edited on 11/4/25 at 7:45 am
Posted by T1gerNate
Member since Feb 2020
1565 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 7:38 am to
I think in the world we’re going into it is not only good, but essential. You’re going to have to take care of your kids and get them set up in the workplace or they’re not gonna make it.
Posted by Joshjrn
Baton Rouge
Member since Dec 2008
31313 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 7:40 am to
Nepotism can simultaneously be utterly justifiable on a personal level and yet staggeringly detrimental to everyone and everything adjacent to it.

The disconnect is when those engaging in nepotism believe themselves to be above reproach on the subject. If you do something that helps some people while hurting other people, you shouldn’t be surprised when the people hurt bitch about it. As long as you can handle that, there’s no real issue.
Posted by BigGreenTiger
Member since Mar 2022
568 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 7:42 am to
If you can give your kids a leg up in life, you would be cruel not to.
Posted by Deep Purple Haze
LA
Member since Jun 2007
67232 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 7:43 am to
it's all relative
Posted by Antonio Moss
The South
Member since Mar 2006
49025 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 7:45 am to
I have no issue with it in the private sector.

It is a serious issue in the public sector.
Posted by Powerman
Member since Jan 2004
170142 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 7:45 am to
I've seen some nepotism in the work place that became really toxic to the point of a lot of the more talented employees leaving for their competition

Most businesses have some degree of nepotism. I don't think people mind it as long as the people that benefit actually put in the work.
Posted by burger bearcat
Member since Oct 2020
10287 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 7:46 am to
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The disconnect is when those engaging in nepotism believe themselves to be above reproach on the subject. If you do something that helps some people while hurting other people, you shouldn’t be surprised when the people hurt bitch about it. As long as you can handle that, there’s no real issue.


Agreed. It has to be done with some prudence. Take it too far and it can backfire on everyone

I’ve just noticed people feeling guilty about passing their legacy on. This should be fairly instinctual for a father to do, and they shouldn’t feel bad about it
Posted by forkedintheroad
Member since Feb 2025
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Posted on 11/4/25 at 7:50 am to
quote:

I’ve just noticed people feeling guilty about passing their legacy on.


You didn't build that business by yourself is taking root.
Posted by MorbidTheClown
Baton Rouge
Member since Jan 2015
73346 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 7:56 am to
Depends on the situation and the people involved.

I worked for a company in NOLA where the owner had all 3 sons, his wife, his sister in law and his niece's husband all working there. Other more deserving people got passed over for promotions so he could move his family members up in the company. All 3 sons were worthless and had no idea what they were doing. The wife was an entitled bitch who rarely even bothers to show up.

Oddly enough the only 2 family members who were worth a damn were the SIL and the niece's husband.
Posted by victoire sécurisé
Member since Nov 2012
5613 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 7:59 am to
If you pass over the people who worked hard for 30 years to hand the reigns to JR, whose real passion in life is clubbing but has come to the realization in his late-20’s that DJ’ing and slayin’ isn’t impressing his friends anymore, will your company’s net worth increase or decrease?

There’s your answer.
Posted by N2cars
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Member since Feb 2008
37866 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 8:00 am to
quote:

I’ve just noticed people feeling guilty about passing their legacy on. This should be fairly instinctual for a father to do, and they shouldn’t feel bad about it


Assuming they have integrity, and are competent, no guilt at all.
Posted by NIH
Member since Aug 2008
119244 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 8:00 am to
Imagine thinking that’s the only scenario possible
Posted by StringedInstruments
Member since Oct 2013
20309 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 8:01 am to
Nepotism and inheritance are the two best ways to ensure the lifestyle and community you’ve built continues into the future.

The problem is that too many people don’t know how to raise their kids to understand the values required to make it work.

A man who builds a successful company and makes his family rich can easily miss out on teaching his sons how to have that hard work ethic. Giving them leadership positions and a ton of unearned money will sink that ship quickly.
Posted by roadkill
East Coast, FL
Member since Oct 2008
2077 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 8:16 am to
I'm OK with it in the private sector. If I own a private business, it's my decision who to hire, promote, and ultimately leave in charge.

Publicly traded companies typically have boards to make those decisions and while nepotism can occur, there are checks and balances.

Nepotism should never happen in the political/elected official realm. The electorate is on average too dumb and will vote for and perpetuate dynasties, given the option. (e.g., Kennedys, Bushes, Cheneys, Gores, Cuomos, etc.)

Posted by Mlear
Baton Rouge
Member since Jun 2023
170 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 8:19 am to
Just because something has a label/title doesn't mean it's bad.
This post was edited on 11/4/25 at 8:20 am
Posted by LouisianaLady
Member since Mar 2009
82606 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 8:22 am to
I think most people generally agree that nepotism is fine as long as the person on the receiving end is also qualified and competent.

People often think of nepotism as like.. some douchebag becoming the CEO of his dad's company with no skills. But it's pretty common in areas like the trades. Plumbers, electricians, carpenters, etc. are often guys whose fathers did the same and taught them about it from an early age.

Plus, nepotism comes in all sorts of scenarios besides just parent-to-child. Technically, your friend from dental school who now owns a dental practice hiring you to be the other dentist on staff is nepotism. But I mean. You're still a licensed and qualified dentist. You just knew someone.
Posted by SouthEndzoneTiger
Louisiana
Member since Mar 2008
11346 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 8:27 am to
quote:

If a guy works his arse off to build a company, and would like to groom his son or sons to take over one day, and pass on his wealth to his kids.


I wouldn't even call this nepotism. That's a family business. If the kid sucks at it, that's on the dad.

I had an up and coming co-worker I was training to take my spot when I moved on. He went to ABC school, sat with me daily, etc. After I moved on, instead of him getting my job, the son of one of the higher ups got the job instead. Never stepped foot in a plant in his life. Still wet behind the ears. That's nepotism.
Posted by Hester Carries
Member since Sep 2012
24866 posts
Posted on 11/4/25 at 8:27 am to
Nepotism isnt bad at all. Its the whole fricking point. Build. Pass on. Lift up.

I want MY kids and MY family to prosper. I stand on the shoulders of what my parents did for me. They stand on theirs. If i was lucky enough to build something i could set my kids up with and raised them to be capable you better believe they, and I, deserve for them to get it.

The world is full of people who talk about "im independent. I dont want anything from anybody. family isnt important. nepotism is bad......but the rich are privileged. why do they get this and that"

Why? Be cause they do the things you pretend to despise.

Your kids and your family is all there is. Nepotism is good.
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