Long term divorced, looking to travel in the next 18 months. Never traveled alone.

This is an OT thread not a Travel Board thread (if this isn’t a response troll thread)

You do you man. I would say perhaps travel with the intent of traveling, having great experiences, bettering your own outlook on life and yourself in the process, and women you don’t have to meet for green cards will come


Or go to Eastern Europe or Thailand

That's good advice. thank you. I will do just that, take some time to research places, people, cultures. I'll adjust my goal to finding somewhere that looks great to visit, and ill go mainly as a 'vibe-check' between me and the culture.

if it ends up really drawing me in, it would create opportunities to meet some of the locals, or maybe just give me a fresh outlook on life, who knows.

I'm sure this thread will get whacked soon, but...

1) You can't just go into this cold turkey. You need to warm yourself up. You need to try to go on dates locally to refine your tastes, and up YOUR game. No woman wants to be around a wet blanket. "Jaded to Americanized women," no offense, means there is something wrong with you that you blame on the women you pay attention to. There are plenty of latinas and asians that are single (both present a different set of problems) that are not Americanized in any metro area.

2) Do not even consider Eastern Europe. You will get eaten alive, if anyone pays attention to you at all. Again, I'm not trying to be offensive, but you exude the opposite of man energy, and they don't have time for that. South America is likely to get you married, but then divorced once they get a green card for a Primo, because they also like confident men, which you don't seem to be.

3) This sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. You need therapy now, before you attempt to plan this. You are a scam target, "just send money to my family in Vietnam before the wedding," is built for you because you're so vulnerable.

As others have said, you will not find happiness in this route. American women are fine, don't let twitter doomscrolling tell you otherwise. Yes many suck, but many don't, just like any people

Better yourself. Work out, make money, go to therapy

What is a place you have always wanted to go to? What is something that you just have to see?

Go there. Do that. Don't worry about other things

You've over exaggerated the situation severely in your own head :)

I appreciate the disdain thinly disguised as concern, but maybe I wasn't clear. I've devoted the last few years of my life to the kids by choice.

I really don't want an americanized woman. I'm not an incel. I have sex. I'm just not interested in settling with an american woman who is addicted to social media, narcississtic, and selfish.

when I say i'll be lost, I just mean that I enjoy doing thingsa with family, but this family is about to take flight. I think i'll want to recreate it, I enjoy having a family.

You could just find an American woman that isn’t any of those things.

This doesn't have to turn into an OT thread, and wasn't sure I should even respond again, but here we go. I will amend my advice based on the fact that your primary goal appears to be finding a long-term romantic partner (and not to travel to try new things, see new places, explore your freedom as an empty nester, and generally meet new people). I'm not judging, just saying.

First, don't spend your time and money taking short trips, instead do lots of research on places and cultures, and start learning a new language, maybe Spanish. You will have to do this anyway, so start exercising those muscles now.

Second, consider spending time/relocating to a large global city closer to home (NYC, Toronto, Vancouver, Chicago, and my choice #1 choice Mexico City) where you can meet women of all cultures.

Third, consider a career change that moves you around, especially if its global hospitality. Traveling for professional reasons often forces meeting new people and gives you an answer when you meet someone in another country that isn't "my kids are grown, my wife screwed us, all American women suck".

Fourth, and really first-last, take care of yourself first. Family is so important, but if you're broken family won't fix that, I know.

Try dating apps and set location in places you want to visit. See if you connect.
Even in other countries.

Have you dated at all since divorce? It sounds like your follow up was as bad as your marriage.

Idk I've enjoyed my divorce. But the key is you have to believe in yourself. Cliche but you need to always be confident. Never doubt yourself.

I think that some of you don't really understand what OP is trying to do. He's about 50 and wants a new, pretty, 30-year-old wife to start a second family with. He wants more kids. If he's bald, a little overweight, and doesn't have an elite income, he would struggle to attract that woman, and those of you telling him to find an American woman need to look at the situation honestly and quit telling him that he has a problem for not believing in himself that he can find her. He's realistically looking at the situation and correctly assessing that there are lots of foreign women who meet his criteria who would be interested in him.

this thread is awesome