re: My girlfriend gave me an ultimatum.

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It should be to leave immediately, which hopefully is what the OP’s girl does.

Almost every heterosexual woman on the planet wants to be married someday. Only an idiot would be surprised by a negative reaction from his girlfriend after he tells her he doesn’t want to marry her.

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I didn't say the average girlfriend of X years, I said the average woman, period, whether in a relationship with you or not. That comment was in response to an entirely separate line of conversation that's not worth rehashing.

I think OP's girl is right to leave, although part of me suspects OP is just being a clown with how he's phrasing things and causing problems that don't need to be caused. I don't think most girls who are thinking of marriage are thinking about it in the sense of a dry legal arrangement that entitles the couple to various benefits while married and property division upon splitting. They're thinking of it as a permanent commitment with a beautiful formal ceremony where they're the star of the show for a day. You can have the latter without the former. OP is just being kind of an abrasive dick about it when he doesn't have to. (Unless he just doesn't want the commitment at all, in which case they ought to just split)