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Son might not make a team.
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:05 am
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:05 am
Not here for excuses or to bitch about coaches. Just wondered how you other dads handled it?
Last night I just listened to him bitch and get a little upset. Get it out. I didn’t correct or instruct him… Yet. I felt he needed to pout for a bit. Today I will build him back up. In addition the selections aren’t complete until today. So this all may be a moot point.
Life will be full of disappointments. He needs to learn that. But also needs to know that I care and will continue to support him. Has to be a medium between “coaches suck” and “life sucks” and just blowing sunshine up his arse.
Last night I just listened to him bitch and get a little upset. Get it out. I didn’t correct or instruct him… Yet. I felt he needed to pout for a bit. Today I will build him back up. In addition the selections aren’t complete until today. So this all may be a moot point.
Life will be full of disappointments. He needs to learn that. But also needs to know that I care and will continue to support him. Has to be a medium between “coaches suck” and “life sucks” and just blowing sunshine up his arse.
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:10 am to LSU alum wannabe
I think whatever you do will be better than most of the advice you will get here. Haha!
You seem to have it under control.
You seem to have it under control.
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:11 am to LSU alum wannabe
Best thing ever happened to my daughter was when she didn't make the high school dance team as a freshman. She thought she was a shoo in and didn't practice the routine very much. She learned a hard lesson when a couple of her friends made it on account of their hard work even though they didn't have the natural ability. She busted her tail her sophomore year and accomplished her goal
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:11 am to LSU alum wannabe
Who cares. Focus on shite that matters for his future. Making the travel dance team doesn't matter
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:11 am to LSU alum wannabe
Baseball? Know a guy who's son just quit a 5A team where he was batting cleanup as an underclassman. The coach had them practicing three hours a day 4-5 days a week. He said frick all that. These coaches are insane.
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:26 am to LSU alum wannabe
Michael Jordan got cut from his JV high school bb team.
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:27 am to Big Bill
He will be fine
On to the next thing
On to the next thing
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:31 am to LSU alum wannabe
Keep him grounded. There are plenty of other activities. Leave that shite to Cayden and Jaxston.
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:37 am to Cosmo
Making a sports team is huge. Sports teach discipline, comradery, team skills...... it is huge in a young ones development in my opinion.
The lesson he learns about not making the team (if that happens) also will be huge.
Edit: To OP sounds like you're a good dad and like you got it handled. He will be fine, just gotta stress the importance of practice.
The lesson he learns about not making the team (if that happens) also will be huge.
Edit: To OP sounds like you're a good dad and like you got it handled. He will be fine, just gotta stress the importance of practice.
This post was edited on 11/2/22 at 6:40 am
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:42 am to Puddenn32
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Making a sports team is huge. Sports teach discipline, comradery, team skills...... it is huge in a young ones development in my opinion. The lesson he learns about not making the team (if that happens) also will be huge.
There’s a point of diminishing returns on all of those though.
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:46 am to cypresstiger
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Michael Jordan got cut from his JV high school bb team.
pretty sure he played JV his sophomore year bc he didn’t make the varsity team.
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:51 am to LSU alum wannabe
Man this can be a tough one as a parent and especially as a dad. I think that a lot depends on how much love your kid has for the sport and how much of his identity is wrapped up in it. If he is a casual participant than I would try to reflect on how important the sport is to his future…if he wants to stick with it then he needs to commit himself and work twice as hard as everyone else to get better, but if he doesn’t care that much then he should find another interest and perhaps close that chapter. If it is currently a big part of his life and identity now then I would see what happens but use it as a learning experience and motivate him to work harder for next year. As previously pointed out by others, some great athletes have been cut and then later excelled. I think that some reasonable criticism of the coaches may be ok but I would keep the focus on your son and his effort/talent and what needs to be done to improve. It may not make a difference in his life overall whether he is or isn’t on a particular team but how he reacts to the disappointment and setback very well could impact how he handles similar situations in life going forward.
My son lived and breathed basketball and I held my breath every year during tryouts.
My son lived and breathed basketball and I held my breath every year during tryouts.
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:55 am to LSU alum wannabe
How old is your son?
Posted on 11/2/22 at 6:56 am to LSU alum wannabe
It’s a Tough pill to swallow but you have to balance the disappointment with the responsibility to teach your son the harsh realities of life. It’s a reality you probably feel shouldn’t happen at a young age especially when you may not agree with him being cut but the reality is…. There’s usually a bevy of somewhat equal kids trying out. The best are usually easier to spot but the meat of a team is extremely subjective.. that somewhat interchangeable group of players are chosen for many reasons that are legitimate, confounding and infuriating depending on who you ask
This post was edited on 11/2/22 at 7:48 am
Posted on 11/2/22 at 7:13 am to LSU alum wannabe
That sucks, have him ask the coach what he need to get better at and what he can do to improve. If he really wants to be on the team next year have him work his arse off on what the coach tells him. It will also let the coach know that he is serious about being on the team and willing to work for it.
Posted on 11/2/22 at 7:21 am to LSU alum wannabe
It sounds like you already have a good handle on it. You’re rightly worried for your kid. And you’re right. It’s a balance you have to walk between blaming it on the coach, blaming it on politics, blaming it on life, and asking your kid to examine whether there was anything more he could have done. Sometimes there just isn’t anything more you could do.
Most people have their athletic careers end before the age of 13. Personally I think that’s sad, especially for kids who prefer team sports and want to continue. Individual sports aren’t as rough in that respect. You can play golf and tennis your whole life. But what happens when you’re the 17th best baseball player at your school of 3,000 kids, and you still want to play baseball? You don’t. That’s what happened to me. Done at the ripe old age of 16.
I should have spent all that time playing golf or fishing instead.
If it were me advising your son, I would just encourage him to get ready for the next phase of life. Start getting better at school, learn to drive, start activities you can do your whole life. Do some outdoors stuff with him. Make it a big hunting/fishing/camping year. Travel somewhere cool. It will break the pattern of whatever sport that was dominating his time.
Good luck! I feel for you, man.
Most people have their athletic careers end before the age of 13. Personally I think that’s sad, especially for kids who prefer team sports and want to continue. Individual sports aren’t as rough in that respect. You can play golf and tennis your whole life. But what happens when you’re the 17th best baseball player at your school of 3,000 kids, and you still want to play baseball? You don’t. That’s what happened to me. Done at the ripe old age of 16.
I should have spent all that time playing golf or fishing instead.
If it were me advising your son, I would just encourage him to get ready for the next phase of life. Start getting better at school, learn to drive, start activities you can do your whole life. Do some outdoors stuff with him. Make it a big hunting/fishing/camping year. Travel somewhere cool. It will break the pattern of whatever sport that was dominating his time.
Good luck! I feel for you, man.
Posted on 11/2/22 at 7:25 am to LSU alum wannabe
Get him this book:
Posted on 11/2/22 at 7:28 am to LSU alum wannabe
I think the biggest thing I impress upon mine when he isn't starting or isn't getting PT and bitches is this - you gave the coaches an option when you were chasing girls instead of lifting, when you were drinking soft drinks instead of water/electrolytes, when you were sitting on your arse all weekend instead of working on footwork, hand movement (he is a O lineman) in the yard.
Choices were made that put you in a less than optimal state to best help the team. And that's fine - life is full of choices. Those choices have consequences. And its not the end of the world not to start and/or get "enough" PT. I know all of this because I was basically him in high school just in a different sport (bball for a short year + part of a season).
Choices were made that put you in a less than optimal state to best help the team. And that's fine - life is full of choices. Those choices have consequences. And its not the end of the world not to start and/or get "enough" PT. I know all of this because I was basically him in high school just in a different sport (bball for a short year + part of a season).
This post was edited on 11/2/22 at 7:28 am
Posted on 11/2/22 at 7:46 am to LSU alum wannabe
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Life will be full of disappointments. He needs to learn that. But also needs to know that I care and will continue to support him.
Honestly man, I don’t think you need any advice. You’re doing just fine dad.
Posted on 11/2/22 at 7:47 am to LSU alum wannabe
Sounds like you are doing it right for your kid. All kids are different and handle things like this differently.
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