For anyone who has suffered serious trauma.. do you ever get to “normal” again?

several people I know have had success with EMDR

The pain stays, but it lessens over time and some of the focus shifts to fond memories.

Good luck!

Never again

One thing to think about is that we always tend to idealize past memories of thing we lose and undervalue what we have now. It's just human nature.

I just watched an autobiography documentary on Elizabeth Smart. What she went through for 9 months is traumatic to say the least, yet she didn’t let her experience control her. She looks to be normal and thriving with a good marriage and kids.

Serious Physical trauma or like a lil bitch woman and you traumatized by someone taking your parking spot & need therapy women call the latter also serious

Physical or mental? Serious question.

I watched my brother die in an accident 37 years ago. It gets better. It takes time…a ton of time.
IDK if “normal” is the right term, but I promise, you will be ok. It’s tough, but so are you and you will come out the other side a better person.

quote:

---

Does it ever get better?

---

In a 6 month span, my son was born, my wife left, I lost a very good paying job, and buried my brother.

That list of life changing events?



Yeah, I was going through trauma I never thought I’d get through.




Here, 10 years later, let me tell you. The storms will pass, things will get better and you will recover if you allow yourself to and surround yourself with those that love you. Trust me. I’ve been there and walked through the fires. And it’s all been here as a testament.


Now, I’m not going to sugarcoat it, it’s not going to be easy, and you will never be the “same”. But you were never going to be anyway. You just ARE. And you’ll have to learn to adapt and survive. It’s akin to losing a limb, or an eye.

Not gonna grow back. You might find a substitute, but it’s never going to be the same. And it will take you down different roads. But you learn to live, and love, and laugh again. Even when you thought you’d never find them.

The losses never go away, but grass grows over graves. It gets easier to handle.

Some losses will haunt you. Others will end up seeming like you came out better because of them.

Have you ever looked at the beauty of trees? All the whorls, the bends, the rings. All that is, is pain, and trauma, and hard times, feast and famine. And they just keep growing. And new bark covers old wounds. And the scars create something beautiful.

Own your scars. Bear them proudly. They mean you survived.
If you need to talk, I’m here