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re: Shift workers.....dealing with family and missing holidays cause you are working
Posted on 3/31/15 at 7:25 am to Prominentwon
Posted on 3/31/15 at 7:25 am to Prominentwon
Unless they are willing to pay your bills, screw them.
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Posted on 3/31/15 at 7:27 am to PPL
Congrats to all of you for being able to pay your bills, buy the extras that make life more fun, and providing for your families.
As a fellow taxpayer, thanks for not being in the 47% and increasing the burden.
Nurse, tell your MIL that you cannot make it. Invite her for breakfast, or lunch when you can make it. For Easter day, have your husband deliver a small, but thoughtful, gift from you to her.
Chin up and whatnot...
As a fellow taxpayer, thanks for not being in the 47% and increasing the burden.
Nurse, tell your MIL that you cannot make it. Invite her for breakfast, or lunch when you can make it. For Easter day, have your husband deliver a small, but thoughtful, gift from you to her.
Chin up and whatnot...
Posted on 3/31/15 at 7:28 am to lsunurse
With no kids I would not even care. With kids it was hard working when the easter bunny and Santa showed up and dad wasn't home. They are older now and they understand on what I did to support them. My other family members understood because I had and still support myself and my children oh and my ex with child support 
Posted on 3/31/15 at 7:31 am to lsunurse
Mother in law will walk all over you unless your husband stands up for you or you do it yourself.
Posted on 3/31/15 at 7:33 am to lsunurse
You should have married into an oil field family. They are used to missing holidays already.
Posted on 3/31/15 at 7:39 am to lsunurse
Same here. I'm not permanently doing this stuff though so I don't feel so bad
Posted on 3/31/15 at 7:40 am to yellowfin
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Mother in law will walk all over you unless your husband stands up for you or you do it yourself.
^this times 1000
Posted on 3/31/15 at 7:44 am to lsunurse
tell them to pound sand. you have to work to live. its your life, not theirs. see if they can celebrate on a different day so you can be there.
Posted on 3/31/15 at 7:45 am to FLBooGoTigs1
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With kids it was hard working when the easter bunny and Santa showed up and dad wasn't home.
Eh. I just started shift work And was off for Christmas. But we discussed it and my guess is that the kids will have no problem whatsoever having Santa coming early.
I'll be honest. The worst part of shift work that I'm not looking forward to is when my kid/kids start playing sports. To me, that's going to be harder to miss than holidays. But again, we will adjust and make it work. I work 7 nights a month (barring any OT). That's not a ton. Otherwise, I'll get off at 5 and will have plenty of time making events on weekdays. I'm sure weekend will be a different story.
Posted on 3/31/15 at 7:53 am to lsunurse
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Yeah we can never get his parents to come on our side of town to visit...and it's only like 45 minutes away. We always have to travel to them. And when we've suggested stopping by on a regular weekend to visit...they all of a sudden get moody about it and have other plans. Even though they are retired and have much more free time than we do.
I can remember when we first moved to Scottsdale and his mom whining about how far away we would be to them. I had to bite my tongue and not say "umm, hello, my parents are 1400 miles away...I'm sure they would be plenty glad to only be 45 minutes away from me and not whine about it"
This is a troubling sign that needs to be addressed now or it will cause a long term problem for you. I have to ask, why has your husband not addressed this directly with his mom? He should not put you in the awkward position of having to deal with her passive aggression on an ongoing basis. he needs to handle things.
He should directly address the issue of them not ever coming to visit your side of town even though they are retired. some men haven't learned to cut the chord. The bible says a man should leave his father and mother and become one with the wife. he needs to step up.
Posted on 3/31/15 at 7:56 am to Tiger Ryno
They should also recognize that since she's the bread winner her work is more important no matter what or when it interfers with holidays.
Posted on 3/31/15 at 7:57 am to tgrbaitn08
does her husband not work? that is an even bigger red flag
Posted on 3/31/15 at 7:59 am to Tiger Ryno
I think he stays home with the dogs
Posted on 3/31/15 at 8:03 am to Tiger Ryno
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does her husband not work? that is an even bigger red flag
Hey now, a few of my buddies are stay at home dads. I wish my yard and house looked that good.
I couldn't do it.
Posted on 3/31/15 at 12:04 pm to BayouBlue386
Really? Stay at home dad? My wife would have to make major bank for that to even be in the realm of consideration
Posted on 3/31/15 at 12:10 pm to Tiger Ryno
i do not do shift work, but my busy time of the year is right around christmas. As is the wife's.
So we don't normally travel for Xmas b.c we would have to work. We did it 2013, and my father wouldn't STFU about me having to work on Dec 23rd/26th. It was annoying, I told him I would have to work.
So we don't normally travel for Xmas b.c we would have to work. We did it 2013, and my father wouldn't STFU about me having to work on Dec 23rd/26th. It was annoying, I told him I would have to work.
Posted on 3/31/15 at 12:13 pm to lsunurse
quote:Go work for the VA and you will not have this problem, and you'll be doing a good deed for veterans...
won't be able to attend at all. And I've accepted that long ago as part of being a nurse working in a hospital.
Posted on 3/31/15 at 12:21 pm to Tiger Ryno
my husband works Right now I make more....but he's been getting promotion after promotion at his job with a ton of recent bonuses and them granting him a bunch of stock options (neither of which I get at my job....I haven't gotten a raise or bonus in years). He will likely pass me up in salary in a few years the way things are going for him at his job.
Posted on 3/31/15 at 12:25 pm to lsunurse
Are you complaining about having to work a few holidays? You work like 3 fricking days per week.
Posted on 3/31/15 at 12:29 pm to terd ferguson
I'm not complaining at all about working them....that is the trade off for only working 3 days a week. I've accepted that I have to work some of the holidays. I just wish my inlaws wouldn't give me the passive aggressive guilt trip when I'm not able to attend a get together cause I'm working.
My husband usually handles his parents on this, cause his mom usually texts him asking if I'm working. Lately she just texts me directly asking about it. My husband is out of town on a business trip with his boss so I didn't want to bug him over this matter and make him deal with his mom.
My husband usually handles his parents on this, cause his mom usually texts him asking if I'm working. Lately she just texts me directly asking about it. My husband is out of town on a business trip with his boss so I didn't want to bug him over this matter and make him deal with his mom.
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