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Shift workers.....dealing with family and missing holidays cause you are working
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:18 pm
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:18 pm
Anyone else have troubles with this? My inlaws know my job requires me to work some holidays yet every holiday where I have to work....I feel like I get this passive guilt trip over it from them. Am I the only one?
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Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:21 pm to lsunurse
shoulda gotten better inlaws
This post was edited on 3/30/15 at 11:21 pm
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:21 pm to lsunurse
Maybe you should get knocked up and quit work forever.
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:22 pm to 4LSU2
she can't. her husband is a gay.
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:23 pm to boosiebadazz
They are not bad. And I appreciate that they want to plan holidays around my schedule. It's just sometimes...I won't be able to attend at all. And I've accepted that long ago as part of being a nurse working in a hospital. And I'm ok with that. But telling them that? Another story.
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:23 pm to lsunurse
Soooo, you were already working shift work when you got married, right?
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:24 pm to lsunurse
No law says you have to celebrate the holiday on that day.
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:26 pm to Jack Daniel
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Soooo, you were already working shift work when you got married, right?
Yup. I never had this issue with my own family back when I still lived in LA. They understood I had to work some holidays and never made me feel bad when I had to miss family stuff because of it.
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:29 pm to lsunurse
Should start working at the Belle again.
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:32 pm to Jim Rockford
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No law says you have to celebrate the holiday on that day.
I agree and that is what I've done with my parents in the past.
It's mainly this pressure I feel from his parents(mainly his mom)to attend in some way around my schedule. I hate making everyone else fit it around my schedule. Just do it when it's best for most of the family...if I can go great, if not...it's really not a big deal. I've worked the night before a holiday and gotten no sleep the next day so that I could attend and I'm asked all day why I'm so quiet or if something is wrong.
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:34 pm to lsunurse
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Soooo, you were already working shift work when you got married, right?
Yup. I never had this issue with my own family back when I still lived in LA. They understood I had to work some holidays and never made me feel bad when I had to miss family stuff because of it.
Then maybe you should move back to La
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:34 pm to tgrbaitn08
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:34 pm to lsunurse
This is one of the reasons I will never do shift work.
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:35 pm to lsunurse
Can't fix stupid. I'm pretty blunt with family about it.
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:37 pm to lsunurse
I just tell them I'm working. If they get upset so be it. But they knew from the get go working in the hospital I would miss things
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:37 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
It has a lot of perks. This is just one of the negatives about it.
But I'm just used to working holidays that it doesn't upset me when I have to work them. Cause I know I'm not working all of them and it makes me just enjoy the ones I'm off that much more.
One perk of working night before Easter and Christmas....we get to play Easter Bunny and Santa with our patients. We sneak in their rooms while the kids are asleep and set out toys and stockings for Christmas and Easter baskets for Easter.
But I'm just used to working holidays that it doesn't upset me when I have to work them. Cause I know I'm not working all of them and it makes me just enjoy the ones I'm off that much more.
One perk of working night before Easter and Christmas....we get to play Easter Bunny and Santa with our patients. We sneak in their rooms while the kids are asleep and set out toys and stockings for Christmas and Easter baskets for Easter.
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:40 pm to Lithium
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I'm pretty blunt with family about it.
I could do that with my family...not so much with the inlaws
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:44 pm to lsunurse
Who would you really rather make happy, a sick kid or your mother-in-law?
I have a brother who I'm convinced takes call to avoid family gatherings. In his defense, I know there are times when I wish I could do the same thing...
I have a brother who I'm convinced takes call to avoid family gatherings. In his defense, I know there are times when I wish I could do the same thing...
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:47 pm to lsunurse
First of all. Frick the in laws.
It does suck when you miss holidays with your spouse/kids. However most everyone has sacrifices in some form or fashion relating to their careers and family lives. Each person must decide the best balance and then make it work.
If you are there for your family when it counts then they will understand. Get creative with celebrating holidays on different days. Also if work allows visitors try to have days where your family comes to you. I have spent multiple holidays with miniature celebrations with family at the office.
It does suck when you miss holidays with your spouse/kids. However most everyone has sacrifices in some form or fashion relating to their careers and family lives. Each person must decide the best balance and then make it work.
If you are there for your family when it counts then they will understand. Get creative with celebrating holidays on different days. Also if work allows visitors try to have days where your family comes to you. I have spent multiple holidays with miniature celebrations with family at the office.
Posted on 3/30/15 at 11:53 pm to Who Me
This all started because she texted me asking my schedule for easter weekend so they could plan when to get together. I just found out that I will have to work all weekend now(2 nurses out on medical leave...one actually in the hospital so they are really short Easter sunday now). I originally was off this Sunday but I was off last year so I was told I may have to work it now. When I relayed that info to her instead of her replying that she was sorry to hear that I coudln't come she was asking "so what time would you be able to come over". They live a 45 minute drive away and I'm working 7pm-7am 3 nights in a row....I don't get home until 8 am and have to leave for work again at 6 pm, you do the math how many hours that leaves for me to sleep, shower, eat and get ready for work(plus 30 minute commute each way to work). Doesn't leave time to drive 45 minutes each way to hang out with family.
This post was edited on 3/30/15 at 11:55 pm
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