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Tips for dealing with young kids and "traumatic" experiences?

Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:40 am
Posted by TIGER984
Opelousas, La
Member since Sep 2011
152 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:40 am
So, a little background first. I have a 3 1/2 year old girl who absolutely loves animals! We have 4 dogs at our house, two of which she doesn't play with because they are my hunting dogs and stay outside, and they tend to knock her down, but she will go to the fence and pet them and talk to them. The 2 dogs inside are a 5 year old shih tzu, and we just got a great dane and she is 8 wks old. My mother in law has several dogs, and my mom had a rat terrier that was three or four. She got him about a year and a half ago from an elderly couple who couldn't care for him. Instantly my daughter fell in love with this dog, and him with her, he would whine and get super excited when my mom would say my daughter was coming. She would sometimes beg to go to nana's house just to see Ace. Since she was 2 months old she goes to my moms on thursdays because my mom wants to spend time with her. Well this past thursday at about 9am my mom and my daughter were outside letting ace use the bathroom and from across their backyard( it's surrounded on 3 sides by a piece of woods about 20 acres)a coyote runs out and up to the dog and wrestles him to the ground and then picks him up behind the head and runs back into the woods with the dog still hollering and yelping, all while my mom and daughter watch in horror from 30 feet away! My mom tried screaming to see if he would drop him, but no luck. She didnt want to go after him because my girl would have followed. My mom calls me pretty hysterical at this point, as ace was pretty much a member of the family, and says something got ace, and in the background i can hear my daughter freaking out too. so i haul arse there to see about her and she is crying and asking to go home to see her puppies. Well now she wont go anywhere in our house by herself, and on 2 seperate occasions(the only two times she had to come outside after dark) when we were leaving somewhere after dark she really freaks, almost to the point of hyper-ventilating. Shes never been scared of the dark or anything like that before, and when i have to bring our puppy out at night she begs me not to go and when I explain i have to she tells me to not let anything get the puppy. I understand this was very troubling for her to witness, im just wondering how long its going to take before she somewhat gets over it, or what, if anything, i can do to help her! Its pretty hard knowing what she saw , and seeing her be so scared! I know this is ridiculously long, but thanks in advance for tips!

This was ace:
Posted by GeauxxxTigers23
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Member since Apr 2013
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Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:42 am to
shite happens

Kids are resilient

she'll get over it.
Posted by tigahfromtheham
On your left
Member since Jun 2005
5800 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:43 am to
Buy her the movie Lion King
Posted by SabiDojo
Open to any suggestions.
Member since Nov 2010
83922 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:43 am to
If you stare at the words long enough you see a picture. Crazy!
Posted by kingbob
Sorrento, LA
Member since Nov 2010
66967 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:43 am to
There is only one way. Take the girl with you and hunt down and kill the coyote. This will teach her vengeance, justice, and that violence solves everything. These are the tools she will need to grow up to be batman.
Posted by iAmBatman
The Batcave
Member since Mar 2011
12382 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:45 am to
Holy wall of text. Is your enter key broken or something?
Posted by tigahfromtheham
On your left
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5800 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:45 am to
quote:

If you stare at the words long enough you see a picture. Crazy!


Is it a jackal?
Posted by chryso
Baton Rouge
Member since Jul 2008
11848 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:47 am to
While it is unlikely for your daughter to become Batman, it could be beneficial for you to kill the coyote.
Posted by VABuckeye
Naples, FL
Member since Dec 2007
35462 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:47 am to
Posted by tigahfromtheham
On your left
Member since Jun 2005
5800 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:47 am to
quote:

These are the tools she will need to grow up to be batman.


quote:

iAmBatman


Too late
Posted by brass2mouth
NOLA
Member since Jul 2007
19666 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:48 am to
I came in here thinking this was something legit, but its just a story about how your mom just stood there while a "member of the family" was carted off into the woods to be eaten.

Glad I'm not in that family.
Posted by oleyeller
Vols, Bitch
Member since Oct 2012
32015 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:52 am to
just be there for her. Its about feeling "safe" when ever she feels safe she will come around. She is young, and it will eventually get pushed to the back of her mind. Try doing things fun with her she enjoys, or seeing if she wants to go somewhere she enjoys. She will come around.
Posted by jbgleason
Bailed out of BTR to God's Country
Member since Mar 2012
18889 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:53 am to
Serious Answer:

quote:

Kids are Resilient.

She will get over it.

shite happens.


OT Answer:

quote:

I came in here thinking this was something legit, but its just a story about how your mom just stood there while a "member of the family" was carted off into the woods to be eaten. Glad I'm not in that family.
Posted by Sellecks Moustache
NC
Member since Jun 2014
5994 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:53 am to
quote:

it could be beneficial for you to kill the coyote.

I would seriously go HAM on every single coyote I saw.
Posted by ctiger69
Member since May 2005
30576 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:55 am to
TLDR



Tell your kid to get over it. Give them some ice cream. Done.

Welcome
Posted by GeorgeTheGreek
Sparta, Greece
Member since Mar 2008
66380 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 10:56 am to
Could have gone without reading this. Happy Tuesday morning.
Posted by TIGER984
Opelousas, La
Member since Sep 2011
152 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 11:00 am to
quote:

I came in here thinking this was something legit, but its just a story about how your mom just stood there while a "member of the family" was carted off into the woods to be eaten. Glad I'm not in that family.

So your mom would run after a wild animal, thats defending a meal that he is in the process of killing? Im glad she didnt, especially since my Daughter would have followed to stay close to her!
Posted by LucasP
Member since Apr 2012
21618 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 11:03 am to
quote:

These are the tools she will need to grow up to be batman.


The number one prerequisite to being Batman is murdered parents. So it gets a little tricky when you're trying to bring up your kids to be Batman.
Posted by TIGER984
Opelousas, La
Member since Sep 2011
152 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 11:06 am to
Ive sat out there a couple times trying to call em in, and even put a freshly killed squirrel out for scent..... He came and ate the squirrel but it was about 3am... I set my game camera up so i could get pics and see if i can pattern him so ill know what time to set up next time. But i will try to kill every damn yote within 5 miles!
Posted by MSMHater
Houston
Member since Oct 2008
22773 posts
Posted on 3/3/15 at 11:07 am to
That's tough, man.

Mine are 4 & 6, and I think I would just try and make them understand that whole "circle of life" thing. Animals eat other animals. it's ok to be sad but there is nothing for her to be afraid of. It won't help much, and I completely understand the misery of watching your little one hurt like that while you are unable to do anything about it, but as another poster said...kids are resilient. It will pass.
This post was edited on 3/3/15 at 11:08 am
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