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How would you gauge this relationship situation?

Posted on 2/28/15 at 12:58 am
Posted by zacata88
Member since Mar 2014
1682 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 12:58 am
a. known each other for four years, have been seeing each other for ~5 months
b. live roughly 8 miles apart
c. she brought up the exclusivity conversation (not seeing anyone else) in month #2 and it's been upheld on both sides since then
d. only see each other between 1-3 times a week, only on weekends (i.e. some combination of Friday/Saturday/Sunday) because she's relatively busy with work and values alone time

This is a normal thing, right? I'm used to usually seeing the person I'm with much more regularly, but I think that's maybe due to the fact that I lived with the last person that I dated (for 2-3 years) so I'm used to seeing that person every day and being much more involved. Is this generally how normal relationships go?
Posted by lsunurse
Member since Dec 2005
128950 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:00 am to
Well are you content with that? Cause there isn't really a "normal". Gonna vary with each couple.
Posted by LSUGrrrl
Frisco, TX
Member since Jul 2007
32796 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:01 am to
Normal. My husband and I dated that way for the first year of dating.
Posted by NeverRains
Texas
Member since Jun 2012
3010 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:03 am to
Seems to be fine now. But just whatever you two can live with and are happy with. As your relationship goes on and it gets more serious, y'all probably will start to gradually spend more time together. If something feels wrong though, don't be afraid to bring it up
Posted by SuperSaint
Sorting Out OT BS Since '2007'
Member since Sep 2007
140462 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:04 am to
Sounds like one person is unhappy and that person sounds like you. Either man up and explain it to her of get it pushed to the side over and over until you resent her.

Grab your balls bro or quit being a bitch is my advice.

Things aren't that hard but you people make it much more difficult than it really is.

Sending good vibes your way Godspeed. Bc
You may need it.
Posted by lsuwontonwrap
Member since Aug 2012
34147 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:09 am to
1-3 times a week is fine for 5 months in. As long as you are both happy, who cares?
Posted by hg
Member since Jun 2009
123586 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:14 am to
Catching feelings bruh.

No bueno
Posted by ALWho
Earth
Member since Oct 2014
612 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:23 am to
I fell you bro. I've been seeing this woman for about 3 months. I only see her 4 to 6 times a week, hardly ever on weekends. I can't figure out what she does with her "alone" time when she's not at work.


ETA: No bullshite, do yall (four letter word) each other? What is normal? Answer is whatever you both want to do is just fine.
This post was edited on 2/28/15 at 1:29 am
Posted by Loveland Tiger
Colorado
Member since Nov 2014
5259 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:25 am to
Sounds fricking perfect. Enjoy the space.
Posted by LSUGrrrl
Frisco, TX
Member since Jul 2007
32796 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:26 am to
quote:

I fell you bro. I've been seeing this woman for about 3 months. I only see her 4 to 6 times a week, hardly ever on weekends. I can't figure out what she does with her "alone" time when she's not at work.


Damn. ONLY 4-6 times a week? Creepy that you expect more than that.

ETA: No weekends isn't good tho
This post was edited on 2/28/15 at 1:27 am
Posted by ALWho
Earth
Member since Oct 2014
612 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:30 am to
I added an edit, because I'm clowning, but trying to help.
Posted by 9Fiddy
19th Hole
Member since Jan 2007
64017 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:32 am to
Sounds pretty normal to me. Enjoy having your space and time to take care of yourself.
Posted by DWaginHTown
Houston, TX
Member since Jan 2006
9856 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:33 am to
You sound like a needy chick
Posted by LSUGrrrl
Frisco, TX
Member since Jul 2007
32796 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:33 am to
Your post freaked me out a little.
Posted by buckeye_vol
Member since Jul 2014
35236 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:34 am to
quote:

Damn. ONLY 4-6 times a week? Creepy that you expect more than that.

ETA: No weekends isn't good tho

Maybe I'm wrong but I think was being sarcastic (the alone time moment seemed especially so). If not, nearly everything coincidentally contrasted the OP (frequency, days he sees her).

Edit: I guess I took too long to post this as he already admitted the joke.
This post was edited on 2/28/15 at 1:36 am
Posted by SuperSaint
Sorting Out OT BS Since '2007'
Member since Sep 2007
140462 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:36 am to
Man she is fricking someone else.

Next time smell her phase and see if it smells like sex. If she tells you know, you have your answer and need to ditch this hoe asap!!!!


Posted by LSUGrrrl
Frisco, TX
Member since Jul 2007
32796 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:36 am to
Yeah. I didn't catch that. Of course, I don't understand why the OP is worried about only seeing his girl 3 times a week.
Posted by FloridaMike
Member since Dec 2012
1524 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:39 am to
That sounds perfect
Posted by buckeye_vol
Member since Jul 2014
35236 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 1:40 am to
quote:

Yeah. I didn't catch that. Of course, I don't understand why the OP is worried about only seeing his girl 3 times a week.
Yeah. Unless he's not presenting key details, it seems quite normal, especially considering when he sees her. Maybe I'm biased though because I think busy and driven is a positive.
Posted by lsu480
Downtown Scottsdale
Member since Oct 2007
92876 posts
Posted on 2/28/15 at 2:02 am to
I've been in a kind of similar situation for a year but we have never talked about being exclusive and started hooking up right when we met. We met a year ago and see each other 1-2 times a week and that's it, and never talk besides when we hang out. I like her but it's perfect so I am not complaining!
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