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re: Cant stand this guy in my new GF's social circle
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:44 am to Jreily85
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:44 am to Jreily85
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Have you tried talking to her? Telling her that you're not comfortable going out with this guy often? Maybe start suggesting other places to go?
If you try to have an honest discussion with her without sounding like a jealous controlling a-hole and she still insists on being around him, then it may be time to cut her loose.
I've certainly daydreamed about this option, but isn't vocalizing my hangups going to make her even more excited and turned on about spending time with this guy? I'd clearly be elevating him above me.
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Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:45 am to Jreily85
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Yeah....Those weirdos tend to stick together.
If you guys saw "Midnight in Paris" with Owen Wilson where his fiancee is enamored with the pseudo-intellectual professor and wants to hang out with him all the time and is sleeping with him, that's exactly how I feel. I am Owen Wilson in this situation.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:45 am to SirWinston
Ask her who has a bigger dick.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:45 am to SirWinston
Just knock him out. He will get the memo.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:45 am to SirWinston
You're insecure, that's the problem.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:46 am to prplhze2000
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You're insecure, that's the problem.
I am definitely insecure in this situation. How should I address this IYO?
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:48 am to BRgetthenet
BTW I'm not like some bitchy cuckold, guys. Our sex is fantastic - and she spends most nights with me already. I am not insecure in the nuts and bolts of our relationship, just the 3 times in 4 weeks of being exclusive that we've hung out around this prick.
I agree that I'm insecure and unhappy and beta in this one situation and I"m trying to figure out how best to handle it.
So far the options seem to be:
A) break up with her
B) Ignore him/it and try to improve the situation subtly next time
C) confront her about it
I agree that I'm insecure and unhappy and beta in this one situation and I"m trying to figure out how best to handle it.
So far the options seem to be:
A) break up with her
B) Ignore him/it and try to improve the situation subtly next time
C) confront her about it
This post was edited on 11/24/14 at 4:49 am
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:49 am to SirWinston
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Guy definitely seems like a threat to me
If you honestly think this, you need to nut the frick up and lock down your gal. Jesus Christ.
And don't cry about it on the internet at 4 in the goddamn morning.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:49 am to TbirdSpur2010
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If you honestly think this, you need to nut the frick up and lock down your gal. Jesus Christ.
How? I don't know what this means.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:49 am to SirWinston
It's all about how you handle it. And it's a very tricky situation.
Start finding other shite to do. Don't necessarily come right out and discuss this guy. Just start bringing her other places. If she doesn't go along with it, then maybe discuss how you don't really know anyone and you prefer to hang out with her or introduce her to some of your friends.
If she still insists on hanging out with this guy, especially if yall are exclusive...then she is putting him before you and you need to leave her.
Start finding other shite to do. Don't necessarily come right out and discuss this guy. Just start bringing her other places. If she doesn't go along with it, then maybe discuss how you don't really know anyone and you prefer to hang out with her or introduce her to some of your friends.
If she still insists on hanging out with this guy, especially if yall are exclusive...then she is putting him before you and you need to leave her.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:50 am to SirWinston
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I agree with this, but how do I broach or get this across without being an insecure beta? Do I really have to break up with her?
"Hey, I know A is your friend and all, but it's a real drag to have to hang out with this guy, he annoys me. What do you think about doing XYZ instead of going to the bars next time?"
Of course you ought to have a pretty good idea of what XYZ can be beforehand. Like with any problem you're having in a relationship, it's important that you (a) clearly identify the problem, (b) have a realistic solution and (c) don't make the problem about the person you're dating if it's not explicitly about them (as it's not here).
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:51 am to SirWinston
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How? I don't know what this means.
It means if you are threatened by some other dude while your sex with your chick is supposedly so great, either the dude isn't really a threat or your sex isn't so great.
And it sounds like you have trust issues with your girl to boot, which is never a good sign.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:54 am to SirWinston
Trust me. She is not the right girl for you. If the sex is good, then GREAT! What you don't want is an exclusive commitment w the wrong person. Stop caring! Or get out of it
Posted on 11/24/14 at 4:54 am to SirWinston
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I've certainly daydreamed about this option, but isn't vocalizing my hangups going to make her even more excited and turned on about spending time with this guy? I'd clearly be elevating him above me.
No, not really. As long as you don't make it about your insecurities with the attention he gets from her, you're not elevating anyone. You have enough reasons from your descriptions if you have to explain - the guy apparently is in love with himself/has a big ego, since he always talks about himself; he's a bit of a sleaze since he just spends his time schmoozing women despite being in a relationship. He's annoying. Not wanting to hang around annoying people doesn't make you inferior to the annoying people.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 5:01 am to SirWinston
Start by having plan B's in place where y'all lhave to be somewhere else and don't stay long.
Or have something better to do and limit your time around this guy.
But from what I've read, this situation is forcing you to examine your weak social skills and work on them. You do come off in this thread with a pretty over inflated self worth that wants a lot of attention from the girl and her group.
This makes you too high maintenance in my book. Back up and chill. Check out the art of charm or something like thst and work on your social skills.
Or have something better to do and limit your time around this guy.
But from what I've read, this situation is forcing you to examine your weak social skills and work on them. You do come off in this thread with a pretty over inflated self worth that wants a lot of attention from the girl and her group.
This makes you too high maintenance in my book. Back up and chill. Check out the art of charm or something like thst and work on your social skills.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 5:02 am to Bullfrog
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Check out the art of charm or something like thst and work on your social skills.
Thank you - I will look this up.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 5:03 am to SirWinston
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I feel like a 16 year old girl waiting for her to call me back, when only a month ago I had tons of options, etc.
You feel like one cause you're acting like one. It starting to sound like you're not mature enough yet for a real relationship. If your girlfriend is passionate about this subject and you actually like her then try to educate yourself so you can share that passion with her and maybe she won't feel the desire to talk to him so much about something dear to her.That's what a real man in a healthy relationship would do. C'mon guy I'm relatively young and even I know this shite.
This post was edited on 11/24/14 at 5:07 am
Posted on 11/24/14 at 5:04 am to SirWinston
Trust me...don't let her walk all over you. If you give a woman the impression that you will let her treat you like a doormat, nine times out of ten, she will.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 5:05 am to SirWinston
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A) break up with her
Damn this dude is up in your head. How long have yall been dating?
Posted on 11/24/14 at 5:15 am to SirWinston
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