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The Myth of the Alpha Male
Posted on 7/8/14 at 10:40 pm
Posted on 7/8/14 at 10:40 pm
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beta as frick amirite?
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There are a lot of false dichotomies out there — left brain vs. right brain, nature vs. nurture, etc. But one really persistent myth, that is literally costing human lives, is the distinction between “alpha” and “beta” males.
As the story typically goes, there are two types of men.
“Alpha” males are those at the top of the social status hierarchy. They have greater access to power, money, and mates, which they gain through physical prowess, intimidation, and domination. Alphas are typically described as the “real men.” In contrast are the “Beta” males: the weak, submissive, subordinate guys who are low status, and only get access to mates once women decide to settle down and go searching for a “nice guy.”
This distinction, which is often based on observations among other social animals (such as chimpanzees and wolves) paints a very black and white picture of masculinity. Not only does it greatly simplify the multi-dimensionality of masculinity, and grossly underestimate what a man is capable of becoming, but it also doesn’t even get at the heart of what is really attractive to women.
As the expression goes, when all you have is a hammer, all you see are nails. When we impose just two categories of male on the world, we unnecessarily mislead young men into acting in certain predefined ways that aren’t actually conducive to attracting and sustaining healthy and enjoyable relationships with women, or finding success in other areas of life. So it’s really worth examining the link between so-called “alpha” behaviors (such as dominance) and attractiveness, respect, and status.
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Conclusion
It is neither the alpha nor the beta male that is most desired by women.
Taken together, the research suggests that the ideal man (for a date or romantic partner) is one who is assertive, confident, easygoing, and sensitive, without being aggressive, demanding, dominant, quiet, shy, or submissive. In other words, a prestigious man, not a dominant man.
In fact, it appears that the prestigious man who is high in both assertiveness and kindness is considered the most attractive to women for both short-term affairs and long-term relationships. This research should offer some assurance that the genuinely nice, passionate kid who learns a culturally valued skill can be immensely attractive.
Further, seeking to become a prestigious man is not only the surest route to success with women, but achievement in any area of life.
Thus, I think a much more effective and healthier route for men having difficulty attracting women is not to attempt to cultivate the traits of the stereotypical, dominant “alpha,” but to cultivate the traits of the prestigious man. This means developing a skill that brings value to society, and cultivating a stable sense of identity. Such a route will not only make you more attractive to women, but will also create the most satisfying life for yourself in general. In my view, attempting to don the persona of the “alpha” is analogous to building a house of cards. There’s no stable foundation supporting your worth.
It’s time we shed these black and white categories, and embrace a much more multidimensional concept of masculinity. The most attractive male is really a blend of characteristics, including assertiveness, kindness, cultivated skills, and a genuine sense of value in this world. The true alpha is fuller, deeper, and richer.
beta as frick amirite?
Posted on 7/8/14 at 10:42 pm to hawgfaninc
Only betas will read that shite...tl;dr
Posted on 7/8/14 at 10:42 pm to Paige
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This as first is funny.
Posted on 7/8/14 at 10:43 pm to hawgfaninc
whoever wrote this is prolly a virgin
Posted on 7/8/14 at 10:44 pm to Mr.Perfect
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What's happening....?
lame arse pussy stuff.
Posted on 7/8/14 at 10:46 pm to hawgfaninc
alpha males breed with alpha females in nature
if that applied to humans, alpha males would be breeding with women like this
if that applied to humans, alpha males would be breeding with women like this
Posted on 7/8/14 at 10:48 pm to LSU1NSEC
because alpha means super buff
Posted on 7/8/14 at 10:49 pm to hawgfaninc
Let me sum that up in one clear concise sentence.
If you want to get pussy, don't act like one.
If you want to get pussy, don't act like one.
Posted on 7/8/14 at 10:49 pm to hawgfaninc
Tl/dr
But it's most definitely wrong.
But it's most definitely wrong.
Posted on 7/8/14 at 10:49 pm to hawgfaninc
this thread is going to hurt some feelings
Posted on 7/8/14 at 10:50 pm to hawgfaninc
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beta as frick amirite?
Posted on 7/8/14 at 10:51 pm to hawgfaninc
I agree with this. I am not attracted to stereotypical alpha males. But, that doesn't mean I'm attracted to wimps.
Posted on 7/8/14 at 10:52 pm to drunkenpunkin
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I agree with this. I am not attracted to stereotypical alpha males. But, that doesn't mean I'm attracted to wimps.
you're a girl?
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