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Hammertime
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


Tell her that she can absolutely go out there, but to just give you a head's up on if and when she will be going. Probably talk to her a little bit, ask how everything had been going, and basically get closer to her so she will feel comfortable talking to you. More trust will be built that way, and it'll benefit both of yall. It probably won't work, but try and steer her in a better direction. Get her a new job, help her find a place to stay, get new phone #, etc

Doesn't sound like you mind her being there so much, but it does sound like you're worried what will happen to your stuff when her BF gets out of jail.



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LSU1NSEC
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


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She's growing pot on your land


i considered that possibility - been checking all over - haven't found anything but she could be






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LSU1NSEC
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


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Doesn't sound like you mind her being there so much, but it does sound like you're worried what will happen to your stuff when her BF gets out of jail.


I'm not worried about her b/f. I'm worried about liability. She's very comfortable talking to me - always has been - i just get the vibe that she views me as some kind of father figure






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Giantkiller
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


There is a barrage of trouble around the bend. I'd do whatever it took to get away from this. It's a mess. Help her out but I'd be slowly moving away from this impending trainwreck.





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shutterspeed
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


Seriously, though. These kinds of damaged little tricks set up licks all the time. Make sure you're not being too naive about the intentions of a pretty little damaged female showing you some attention.


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SmackoverHawg
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


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Make sure you're not being too naive about the intentions of a pretty little damaged female.

Yep. Don't underestimate her.






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northshorebamaman
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


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i considered that possibility - been checking all over - haven't found anything but she could be

The fact that you considered that isn't a great sign.






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LSU1NSEC
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


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There is a barrage of trouble around the bend. I'd do whatever it took to get away from this. It's a mess. Help her out but I'd be slowly moving away from this impending trainwreck.




man, that's exactly what I've been thinking. she's tried to see how much she could manipulate me early on and I told her to knock it off - wasn't playing that game with her






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Mr. Hangover
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


True





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Hammertime
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


I've been in jail a few times, and I can tell you that you should not trust anyone who has been in jail for longer than a couple of months. No matter how cool you think he thinks you are.....he'll steal your shite





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LSU1NSEC
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


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I've been in jail a few times, and I can tell you that you should not trust anyone who has been in jail for longer than a couple of months. No matter how cool you think he thinks you are.....he'll steal your shite



truth






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rebeloke
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


Needed information: how did she find out about/gain acces to your property and what is the nature of your work relationship?





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LaBornNRaised
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


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She's growing pot on your land


This. It is easily this.






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LSU1NSEC
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


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Needed information: how did she find out about/gain acces to your property and what is the nature of your work relationship?


she's been coming out to the farm with her kids - maybe twice in last 3 years. She used to go out there as a kid and hang out with my female cousin - when she found out my place was out there she was just amazed about the coincidence.

Maybe she views that area as some type of oasis to get away from everything - I don't know - a peaceful place to go while her life is falling apart around her.

I'm just trying to be delicate here - don't want to kick someone who's down.






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LSU1NSEC
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


quote:

She's growing pot on your land


This. It is easily this.



i've looked several times... nothing growing






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Revelator
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


I understand that it's your property and there is a liability factor involved in just letting her wonder around, but be gentle. She sounds as though she doesn't have much left in life and probably is very confused and lonely. You may be able to help her turn her life around?





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northshorebamaman
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


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i've looked several times... nothing growing

It's only June. Depending on the size of your land it could be hard to spot. I don't really think that, but who knows.






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LSU1NSEC
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


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I understand that it's your property and there is a liability factor involved in just letting her wonder around, but be gentle. She sounds as though she doesn't have much left in life and probably is very confused and lonely. You may be able to help her turn her life around?


Yep, I would hate to crush someone who's life is literally going to shyt and views you as some fragment of stability.

I doubt I can help her turn her life around though. I give her best advice I know how to give.






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UncleLester
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


Tough situation. I feel for you.

Is there a female friend that you can get to try and talk to her and offer her some friendship? I can't imagine losing a young daughter like she said she did.







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rebeloke
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re: Complicated situation. Advice appreciated. Will try to be brief.


So she had permission to go with her kids but doesn't have an open invite?

To be honest with you I can relate. I played golf with someone I never met who told me about him fishing at our family farm because he was friends with our neighbor. People take liberty with unoccupied residences. I would secure my property better. I would get a local to look after your place for a fee. I would tell her that unfortunately your going to have ask her to not come on your property anymore. Tell the sheriff about this situation so you will be prepared to act.






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