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Legit question for Atheist on the OT Board
Posted by beebefootballfan on 6/8/14 at 10:12 pm10
Need to ask you guys a very serious question.
Last night a family member passed away and his parents asked if I would do the funeral service. I am stuck in a what to do scenario as he was an Atheist. They are RC's but have requested that I perform the funeral in a manner that would respect him and his beliefs.
My question to you is what would you like done at your funeral? My thoughts where mainly the normal stuff IE Reading of the Obituary, A time where his close friends had a few moments to reflect on his life and what it meant to them, and then finish up by sharing my stories about us growing up together.
I really want to honor his families wishes and give him a proper and respectful funeral so give me your ideas.
If you come in here to start some type of religious debate or make rude comments please refrain. While it is a touchy subject, I would prefer that you respect my family member.
Last night a family member passed away and his parents asked if I would do the funeral service. I am stuck in a what to do scenario as he was an Atheist. They are RC's but have requested that I perform the funeral in a manner that would respect him and his beliefs.
My question to you is what would you like done at your funeral? My thoughts where mainly the normal stuff IE Reading of the Obituary, A time where his close friends had a few moments to reflect on his life and what it meant to them, and then finish up by sharing my stories about us growing up together.
I really want to honor his families wishes and give him a proper and respectful funeral so give me your ideas.
If you come in here to start some type of religious debate or make rude comments please refrain. While it is a touchy subject, I would prefer that you respect my family member.
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by Jones on 6/8/14 at 10:13 pm to beebefootballfan
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A time where his close friends had a few moments to reflect on his life and what it meant to them, and then finish up by sharing my stories about us growing up together.
leave it at that. dont make a giant production out of it.
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by jrodLSUke on 6/8/14 at 10:13 pm to beebefootballfan
The funeral is for the family. It is OK to respect them and their wishes.
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by HempHead on 6/8/14 at 10:14 pm to beebefootballfan
I'd like a huge funeral pyre, Viking style, but I doubt my family would oblige.
A simple memorial service without religious overtones would be fine by me.
A simple memorial service without religious overtones would be fine by me.
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by The Third Leg on 6/8/14 at 10:14 pm to beebefootballfan
Edited because I misread the OP.
You should just tailor it to his life. Tell a few stories, make it jocular, but respectful. Atheists tend to be light hearted, I am. I wouldn't mind some Jesus cruiser saying he was still going to pray for me to go to heaven even though he knew I didn't believe in it.
You should just tailor it to his life. Tell a few stories, make it jocular, but respectful. Atheists tend to be light hearted, I am. I wouldn't mind some Jesus cruiser saying he was still going to pray for me to go to heaven even though he knew I didn't believe in it.
This post was edited on 6/8 at 10:19 pm
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by TheWalrus on 6/8/14 at 10:14 pm to beebefootballfan
I wouldn't see anything different than a normal religious funeral, just leaving out the "he's in a better place or watching down on us" type stuff.
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by madamsquirrel on 6/8/14 at 10:15 pm to beebefootballfan
The last two funeral home services I have been to included slideshows of the persons life and music was played in the beginning and end.
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by SpartyGator on 6/8/14 at 10:15 pm to TheWalrus
Yep, just look at it as a time to reflect and honor their life.
This post was edited on 6/8 at 10:16 pm
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by Salmon on 6/8/14 at 10:17 pm to beebefootballfan
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My thoughts where mainly the normal stuff IE Reading of the Obituary, A time where his close friends had a few moments to reflect on his life and what it meant to them, and then finish up by sharing my stories about us growing up together.
there you go
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by LSUZombie on 6/8/14 at 10:19 pm to beebefootballfan
Just read this and modify where needed.
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You want a physicist to speak at your funeral. You want the physicist to talk to your grieving family about the conservation of energy, so they will understand that your energy has not died. You want the physicist to remind your sobbing mother about the first law of thermodynamics; that no energy gets created in the universe, and none is destroyed. You want your mother to know that all your energy, every vibration, every Btu of heat, every wave of every particle that was her beloved child remains with her in this world. You want the physicist to tell your weeping father that amid energies of the cosmos, you gave as good as you got.
And at one point you'd hope that the physicist would step down from the pulpit and walk to your brokenhearted spouse there in the pew and tell him that all the photons that ever bounced off your face, all the particles whose paths were interrupted by your smile, by the touch of your hair, hundreds of trillions of particles, have raced off like children, their ways forever changed by you. And as your widow rocks in the arms of a loving family, may the physicist let her know that all the photons that bounced from you were gathered in the particle detectors that are her eyes, that those photons created within her constellations of electromagnetically charged neurons whose energy will go on forever.
And the physicist will remind the congregation of how much of all our energy is given off as heat. There may be a few fanning themselves with their programs as he says it. And he will tell them that the warmth that flowed through you in life is still here, still part of all that we are, even as we who mourn continue the heat of our own lives.
And you'll want the physicist to explain to those who loved you that they need not have faith; indeed, they should not have faith. Let them know that they can measure, that scientists have measured precisely the conservation of energy and found it accurate, verifiable and consistent across space and time. You can hope your family will examine the evidence and satisfy themselves that the science is sound and that they'll be comforted to know your energy's still around. According to the law of the conservation of energy, not a bit of you is gone; you're just less orderly. Amen.
-Aaron Freeman.
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re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by Fletch F Fletch on 6/8/14 at 10:21 pm to HempHead
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A simple memorial service without religious overtones would be fine by me.
My friends know I want zero religious anything, but I'd certainly like an open bar so people can get lubed up and tell all the stories they want. And no suits...you wear a suit, that means you didn't even know me, so no admittance. Just a bunch of friends and family drinking margaritas
Keg on my coffin
As for the religious aspect, in your case, I personally wouldn't mind someone saying something like "fletch wasn't religious, but if you'd like to silently pray for whatever and to whoever, you're more than welcome". Something simple like that.
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by foshizzle on 6/8/14 at 10:21 pm to beebefootballfan
I also think the Viking funeral pyre would be pretty cool. But honestly it's about what the family wants, I won't care because I'll be dead.
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by Melvin on 6/8/14 at 10:22 pm to beebefootballfan
I really don't care what they do with me when I die because I'll be dead. If my family members want to have a Catholic funeral for me to make them feel better that's fine. But they could just throw me in the trash for all I care.
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by bradwieser on 6/8/14 at 10:22 pm to beebefootballfan
make a joke like, he's all dressed up with nowhere to go.
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by Traffic Circle on 6/8/14 at 10:22 pm to Fletch F Fletch
You need to start a big fire and dance around with snakes and stuff like that. They want to see a show.
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by GreatLakesTiger24 on 6/8/14 at 10:23 pm to bradwieser
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make a joke like, he's all dressed up with nowhere to go.
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by CorkSoaker on 6/8/14 at 10:25 pm to beebefootballfan
Let me guess, you're 24 years old?
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by Btrtigerfan on 6/8/14 at 10:27 pm to beebefootballfan
I don't believe in atheists.
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by The Third Leg on 6/8/14 at 10:29 pm to bradwieser
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make a joke like, he's all dressed up with nowhere to go.
Some good work today, Brad.
This post was edited on 6/8 at 10:32 pm
re: Legit question for Atheist on the OT BoardPosted by saintsfan1977 on 6/8/14 at 11:02 pm to The Third Leg
Simply talk about the good in his past, his life, etc. I'm getting cremated so my family doesn't have to make a big deal out of it. Told my wife to dump the ashes outside the door of the crematorium. My kids will be asked to do the same when they are of age.
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