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Is there any hope for this relationship?

Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:18 am
Posted by Ghostfacedistiller
BR
Member since Jun 2008
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Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:18 am
Long story short, a very good friend of mine sent me a variety of texts last night basically saying he never gets laid anymore, has not in his physical current home (been about a year), and says he's not sure why married, etc. This is very rare for him to open up or complain about anything really. He's a very successful engineer and great friend, teammate, etc.--giving almost to a fault.

Anyway, I've know both of them an their families since middle school, they got married senior year of college, they've only slept with each other (as far as I know), been married about 10 years. I don't live in the same state and never have since they've been married so I don't know their day-to-day but seems like they're pretty distant the last few years. They have had a lot of trouble getting pregnant and spent a lot of money for no baby. She was adopted and apparently had a really shitty life until about 8 or 9 when she hit the jackpot in terms of families (very wealthy family). She carries a lot of issues.

If she's done with sex, he's not, and the love is seemingly gone, is there any hope? I know the answer but want perspective. I know this happens all the time but it's hard to see with close friends. I'm planning to talk to him this evening and want to be helpful, instead of the usual dick jokes and booze/strip club/prostitute solutions.
This post was edited on 3/10/14 at 10:24 am
Posted by 4LSU2
Member since Dec 2009
37316 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:19 am to
Sounds to me like they are simply married.
Posted by IT_Dawg
Georgia
Member since Oct 2012
21722 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:20 am to
See a psychiatrist. If that don't work. Move on.
Sorry for your troubles dude.
Posted by Topwater Trout
Red Stick
Member since Oct 2010
67589 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:21 am to
nope
Posted by Larry
Collierville, TN
Member since Jul 2004
5454 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:21 am to
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If she's done with sex, he's not, and the love is seemingly gone, is there any hope?


Probably not. Every relationship has rough patches though. When it stops being a "patch" and more of the norm then there is no hope.
Posted by LNCHBOX
70448
Member since Jun 2009
84053 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:21 am to
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If she's done with sex, he's not, and the love is seemingly gone, is there any hope?


Not in my opinion.
Posted by SouthOfSouth
Baton Rouge
Member since Jun 2008
43456 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:21 am to
:inb4openrelationship:
Posted by RBWilliams8
Member since Oct 2009
53417 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:22 am to
They need to talk it out
Posted by Darth_Vader
A galaxy far, far away
Member since Dec 2011
64380 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:22 am to
Sounds like they either never realized or forgot that loving someone is not something that just "happens", it's a willful act you either choose to do or not do. It takes work and if they're willing to put in the work that goes into a loving marriage it can work, if they're not willing to do it then the marriage is done, simple as that.
Posted by donRANDOMnumbers
Hub City
Member since Nov 2006
16899 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:23 am to
Sounds like marriage
Posted by MMauler
Member since Jun 2013
19216 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:24 am to
I know a girl in the same situation. Very cute girl and her husband has little to no interest in her. She'll walk around the house naked (which is not like her at all) just to try and get his attention, but he hardly even notices. They do have a kid and that's the big reason she doesn't want to leave him. She really likes the guy, but now she's seriously wondering if he is gay.
Posted by Darth_Vader
A galaxy far, far away
Member since Dec 2011
64380 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:24 am to
quote:

Sounds like marriage


Not a good one.
Posted by ForeverLSU02
Albany
Member since Jun 2007
52147 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:25 am to
quote:

basically saying he never gets laid anymore, has not in his physical current home (been about a year), and says he's not sure why married
Sounds like a normal marriage to me

quote:

They have had a lot of trouble getting pregnant and spent a lot of money for no baby
and
quote:

She was adopted and apparently had a really shitty life until about 8 or 9
is why
quote:

She carries a lot of issues



They should seek professional help
Posted by MWP
Kingwood, TX via Monroe, LA
Member since Jul 2013
10399 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:25 am to
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no baby


If no kids, probably not.
Posted by bigberg2000
houston, from chalmette
Member since Sep 2005
70006 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:26 am to
She needs her toes sucked.
Posted by Peazey
Metry
Member since Apr 2012
25418 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:26 am to
Let me make sure that I'm reading this right. It's been a year since they have had sex? Something seems seriously wrong.
Posted by LNCHBOX
70448
Member since Jun 2009
84053 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:26 am to
quote:

Sounds like marriage


It really doesn't, and this joke is beyond not funny.
Posted by Buddy Garrity
Member since Mar 2013
4224 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:26 am to
i'll knock her up for him
Posted by tgrbaitn08
Member since Dec 2007
146214 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:26 am to
sounds shes having sex



























just not with you
Posted by LNCHBOX
70448
Member since Jun 2009
84053 posts
Posted on 3/10/14 at 10:27 am to
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Sounds like a normal marriage to me


Not having sex for a year sounds like a normal marriage?
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