Funeral / Wake etiquette | TigerDroppings.com

Posted byMessage
Skeeter 79
LSU Fan
Prairieville, LA
Member since Nov 2007
2127 posts
 Online 

Funeral / Wake etiquette


please settle an argument...

You're in the receiving line at a wake or funeral - and you briefly speak to a family member of the deceased that you know pretty well and they're crying...

You say the standard: "I'm really sorry for your loss"

Question: is it ok to follow that up with "stay strong" or something similar to encourage that person hold it together?

Or should you just express sympathy and move on?

Whats says the OT?







Back to top
Share:
slim thug
Member since Apr 2010
8004 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


i think you're way overthinking it





Back to top
BRgetthenet
Golf Board Smash Lab™ CEO
Member since Oct 2011
59558 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


Dump some of your 40 on the groud and give them a blunt.





Back to top
  Replies (0)
Big Lake
LSU Fan
Member since Jul 2011
3839 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


Just move on being in those receiving lines is the worst. No one wants to be reminded over and over again that their loved one died





Back to top
  Replies (0)
Mr Fusion
LSU Fan
TX
Member since Dec 2010
6547 posts
 Online 

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


Don't fart audibly





Back to top
  Replies (0)
Paige
LSU Fan
Vice President of the OT
Member since Oct 2010
52238 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


Express sympathy and move on. Why do they need to stay strong?

I'm sorry for your loss is the only appropriate thing to say






Back to top
BRgetthenet
Golf Board Smash Lab™ CEO
Member since Oct 2011
59558 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


He could just say hey.





Back to top
tiger rag 93
LSU Fan
Baton Rouge
Member since Oct 2007
782 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


quote:

i think you're way overthinking it


This. Just give your condolences and move on. Add an uplifting phrase if it seems appropriate.






Back to top
  Replies (0)
JAMAC2001
LSU Fan
Upstate, NY
Member since Jan 2013
1171 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


Don't say a word. Do a moderate eye squint, remain tight lipped and do a slow "no" nod. Your body language will say "damn shame, way too soon"

eta: I don't advise looking in the casket either.



This post was edited on 2/2 at 10:47 am


Back to top
  Replies (0)
Paige
LSU Fan
Vice President of the OT
Member since Oct 2010
52238 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


yeah Hey is also appropriate





Back to top
  Replies (0)
TheBob
New Orleans Saints Fan
Metairie
Member since Jun 2005
12479 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


Did you hear the one about the Jew, the Catholic, and the Colored Boy?

Remind him/her that it's a doozie and move on.






Back to top
tankyank13
Florida State Fan
Nola
Member since Nov 2012
2177 posts
 Online 

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


Tell them they are causing a scene, suck it up ya wuss





Back to top
  Replies (0)
Tiger Ryno
USA Fan
Member since Feb 2007
51951 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


the bible says to mourn with those who mourn...

there is no need to offer encouragement...let them know you are hurting too because they are hurting...mourn with them.






Back to top
  Replies (0)
Skeeter 79
LSU Fan
Prairieville, LA
Member since Nov 2007
2127 posts
 Online 

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


quote:

Express sympathy and move on. Why do they need to stay strong?


yeah, thats the argument.

Person A says that encouraging words are a good thing at a wake. Person B says express sympathy and move on.

just getting opinions on the topic...






Back to top
OMLandshark
Ole Miss Fan
Member since Apr 2009
37872 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


quote:

You say the standard: "I'm really sorry for your loss" Question: is it ok to follow that up with "stay strong" or something similar to encourage that person hold it together? Or should you just express sympathy and move on?


I'd say you're over thinking it. Both of those are fine. Just don't say "it was all part of God's plan" or "God was ready for him to come home", especially if they are middle aged or young, since that would send just about anyone who knows the way the world works into a rage.






Back to top
BRgetthenet
Golf Board Smash Lab™ CEO
Member since Oct 2011
59558 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


quote:

Did you hear the one about the Jew, the Catholic, and the Colored Boy?


Colored boy? What the fu.................

I'll show you colored boy.






Back to top
  Replies (0)
Tiger Ryno
USA Fan
Member since Feb 2007
51951 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


I agree...I believe in God and my faith is what held me together last year when we lost our baby son, but I did not appreciate people telling me "well God just needed him more than you do right now"...just idiotic...some people just can't help themselves





Back to top
brewhan davey
USA Fan
Audubon Place
Member since Sep 2010
25502 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


Grief is the most powerful aphrodisiac





Back to top
Paige
LSU Fan
Vice President of the OT
Member since Oct 2010
52238 posts

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


I have an aunt and a friend who lost young children

They both said that anything besides expressing sympathy sucked






Back to top
  Replies (0)
magildachunks
Member since Oct 2006
11055 posts
 Online 

re: Funeral / Wake etiquette


I was 16 when my mother died.

I hated when people would come up and tell me "Sorry for your loss." I never knew how to react to it. "Thanks"? That seems wrong or something.

And during the wake, I barely even heard what people were saying to me. I eventually just went outside and smoked cigarettes and hung out with my friends.








Back to top
  Replies (0)


Back to top