Dude, I could write a book about how shitty my in-laws are to me but I will try to keep it short. I'm from MS, wife is from AL. We've been married for 10 yrs and have 3 kids. I have always been good to her and treated her like a queen. I have always shown her parents respect and expect the same from them. They however seem to be all butthurt because my wife decided to move to MS to be with me instead of staying in AL. Her dad is a drunk and her mom just enables his BS. I have just had to avoid confrontation for years in order to keep the peace. MIL has actually made comments to my wife about wishing she would have ended up with one of her ex's. (he was physically abusive to her) My wife has tried to the point of tears to please her parents. Within the past 2 years or so she has started to come around and see that her parents and even her sister are just a cancer to her and our family. She has begun to seperate herself from them. She does't bend over backwards to please them. We no longer are trying to do holiday gatherings in 2 different states. We do our thing with my family here and they are invited, if they come then great, if not then bfd.
Just do your thing and treat her with respect. If they can't see that you are a good guy by the way you treat her then give em one of these
and go about your business.