"The Friend" article in this month's Esquire

I'd like to read it, but its kind of difficult to read from the web site. I will just go out and buy a copy.

Well done

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That is perhaps the worst website on the internet to try and read something on.

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agreed, but that's the link his friends are passing around

Great friend and story, but not how I would like to go. Put me down like we do our four legged friends.

Well written article. Your boy Dane is a badass and a great friend.
The writer makes an excellent point in that we, as a culture don't discuss death. And death is brutal. But it doesn't have to be
Therefore, when it comes knocking on our door we are totally unprepared.
If, as a Judeo- Christian society, we expect to go to heaven, or the perverbial "better place" or whatever then why do we fear death so much.

The truth is it's going to happen anyway. I work in the ICU and the number of ignorant and uninformed decisions I've had to deal with is stunning. It's going to happen anyway.
Is life on a ventilator and tube feelings and sedation for another couple of months worth it? Trach the pt and put in a tube for feeding so your loved ones heart can keep beating?
Send them off to the nursing home?

Some may see this as some nurse who just wants to off his patients b/c I'm some lazy POS. But the hardest thing for me to do at work is to keep someone alive (because it he end of life can be pushed off into the distance, for a time) but at the cost of quality of life.

So before I get off the soapbox and if there is any point to this, talk to the folks who matter to you about what you or they want to do when it gets to that point.
Maybe it won't come for years but maybe it comes unexpectedly and you really don't want to be faced with a catastrophe and then a decision

TLDR/steps off soapbox