<- Been coaching little league for years.
bring out the local HS coach to watch your team. he'll get a look at future possible talent and you'll get advice from someone who's been there done that.
Very true. We're lucky in my hometown in that the HS is very supportive of youth rec sports (baseball, basketball & football). The coaches hold regular clinics and many of the players come to practices and work drills with the boys as well. This is huge because these kids look up to these HS players and really respond well to them.
W's and L's don't matter till HS anyway
This is true... to an extent. The thing a youth coach has to remember is that above all else, his job is to teach kids the following;
1. Fundamentals of the game
2. Teamwork & sportsmanship
3. Doing things right on and off the field
But at the same time, winning does matter. And I'm not talking about us coaches or the parents. Winning matters to the boys. I've coached for years and have noticed the older they get the more winning matters. It can and does directly affect how much, or little they enjoy the game.
The key is that you have to find a balance of your main goals stated above with having a winning program. But it's not as had as many think. It's been my experience that if you focus on the three things I listed above, more often than not winning will take care of itself.
have a pool or pizza party at the end of the season
This is a must.
don't scrimmage a girls' softball team
Never had that issue come up.
don't carry that many kids. it makes it easier to give them all playing time
This can ruin an entire season for kids. I have 12 boys on my team. I think the ideal is 11 or 12 at this level. But even with this number there are times where it's difficult to get them all in. The biggest problem with having too many kids on one team though is that it limits the time you have as a coach to do one on one teaching of game fundamentals.