Lost my best friend this week

You're only doing the eulogy? Just talk about the good times, make it light. Say something about him being strong all the way to the end.

My dad, who's not a preacher but a very good speaker, was asked to do the funeral for one of his friend's wife's dad and brother who were raging alcoholics and otherwise pieces of shite. They were never involved in church and not saved. He said that was one of the hardest thing he's ever had to do because everybody at the funeral knew those two guys were burning and they had no faith to speak of.

Eta: my condolences, bud. That's such a shitty situation. frick cancer.

Pray about it.

Focus on the lives he touched and the wonderful legacy he will leave behind. The smiles he brought to people's faces.

Share why y'all became friends and what you saw in him early on that made you know he was a good guy.

Sorry to hear that.

Friend of mine for 20 yrs passed a week ago. Pretty fricked up.

ETA. Not trying to take anything away from your thread. Just sharing that I had a similar situation.

I'd add that you can tell everyone what you loved most about him and what you admired in him as a person and give examples

Talk about the roles he filled well: father, husband, friend, employee/boss, hobbiest, etc.

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Pray about it.

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Great advice...

Think of solid values and how he personified them...When you think of Faith, you think of him. When you think trust, you think of him. When you think of the limitless love he had and SHARED, you think of him...

Prayers for you and the family and Titus...

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Tread cautiously and lightly on the creativity angle, just my $ 0.02.

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Of course. Don't make stuff up out of the blue.

What I mean is relate the stories like a fisherman: the 5lb bass caught at the lake is 10lbs by the next weekend when he's telling his friends about it.



On another note, if you're not accustomed to public speaking
-use note cards or something with you speaking points to remind you of the topics/stories you want to cover. But try to avoid reading straight from it.
-carry a handkerchief or tissue. If you get emotional, don't worry about it. Collect yourself and continue. Don't cut yourself off and sale your friend short just because you're crying.
-if this is an Irish wake type situation, be careful. I've seen it get embarrassing with inappropriate language/stories.

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because everybody at the funeral knew those two guys were burning and they had no faith to speak of.

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Cremation is pretty common. I don't know why that would make it hard.

To the OP, something(s) about him caused you to see him as a best friend; I would think that those traits and experiences would be a great starting point for a eulogy.

Just speak from the heart.

Tell a funny story. Share your love of your friend with others.

It's rough to give a eulogy. You'll do fine. People will understand

I've done one (25 years ago, and I can still recite it almost verbatim). My dad does them all the time. Talk to his family for information to add to what you already know. Tell the story of his life in 5-10 minutes. What he was like, Your job is to shed light on your friends life. what he liked and did not like, share memories of things he did, why he was great. Talk about his children, his wife, everything. Make them laugh and cry.

I've lost a lot of people I have been close to and friends my age started dying a few years back. It sucks. I'm sorry for your loss. Good luck and don't be scared or nervous.