re: I just found out I have 3 year old son

Be a father and be around.. it's not hard but I admit it's easier in my situation bc I'm married and living with the mother..

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Then you should know it only gets harder

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It gets different. Not necessarily harder. Some people handle the young years better, some the older, some neither, some both.

Consider dating mom.

Pull out game weak af

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Any positive advice would be greatly appreciated.

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I'd probably have advised against an OT thread

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She broke it off with me after she found out she was pregnant and reconciled with her husband. She didn't tell anyone, so I went about my way not knowing. Now, they are divorced, and she calls me out of nowhere to let me know about him.
I apologize to Cosmo for my previous comments. Anti-trashy comment recended

WTF is this. She raised the child the first 3 years with her husband knowing it was your child.

Anyway, just be a dad. If you are a good guy it will translate to the patience it takes to raIse a child.

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Congratulations! Just be a good father to him. Unfortunately, the mother will probably take most of your money and still limit access. Don't trust her and be guarded about what you say. Get an arranged visitation schedule and hold her to it. She will try to use you for her convenience. Don't allow that to happen. You are his father, not her babysitter.

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This has already been taken care of through the courts. I moved very quickly after knowing he was my son, so I had my friend, who is an attorney, draft papers addressing all of that, and she agreed and signed. Again, the legal aspect, including child support, has already been signed-off on by the judge.

Congratulations! It seems like you have a great attitude.

My advice is: He's a malleable individual. Get to know and respect him. Teach him to identify and accomplish goals. You can't change the world in a weekend. Buy "Love and Logic" for early childhood, which describes how to effectively raise the little beasts. It has a couple chapters on co-parenting. Good luck, do well!

The best thing you can give him is your time. The second best is to read with him every night at bedtime. Hope you can shared custody for 50/50. Be sure he gets an intro to the arts as well as athletics.

Getting started early on thread of the year, aren't we?

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Congrats on doing the right thing. You should consider a few sessions for yourself with a child psychologist to ease this very significant event for the kid. Good luck!

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I've already talked to a child psychologist about how to transition my son's mindset of who I am to him. I've received some pretty good advice I think. I just want my son to love me as much as I already instinctively love him from the moment I met him. It's different when you've never known your own son.