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Skeeter 79
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Funeral / Wake etiquette

please settle an argument...

You're in the receiving line at a wake or funeral - and you briefly speak to a family member of the deceased that you know pretty well and they're crying...

You say the standard: "I'm really sorry for your loss"

Question: is it ok to follow that up with "stay strong" or something similar to encourage that person hold it together?

Or should you just express sympathy and move on?

Whats says the OT?


slim thug
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re: Funeral / Wake etiquette
i think you're way overthinking it


BRgetthenet
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Dump some of your 40 on the groud and give them a blunt.


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Big Lake
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re: Funeral / Wake etiquette
Just move on being in those receiving lines is the worst. No one wants to be reminded over and over again that their loved one died


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Mr Fusion
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Don't fart audibly


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Paige
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re: Funeral / Wake etiquette
Express sympathy and move on. Why do they need to stay strong?

I'm sorry for your loss is the only appropriate thing to say


BRgetthenet
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re: Funeral / Wake etiquette
He could just say hey.


tiger rag 93
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re: Funeral / Wake etiquette
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i think you're way overthinking it


This. Just give your condolences and move on. Add an uplifting phrase if it seems appropriate.


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JAMAC2001
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re: Funeral / Wake etiquette
Don't say a word. Do a moderate eye squint, remain tight lipped and do a slow "no" nod. Your body language will say "damn shame, way too soon"

eta: I don't advise looking in the casket either.
This post was edited on 2/2 at 10:47 am


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Paige
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yeah Hey is also appropriate


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TheBob
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re: Funeral / Wake etiquette
Did you hear the one about the Jew, the Catholic, and the Colored Boy?

Remind him/her that it's a doozie and move on.


tankyank13
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Tell them they are causing a scene, suck it up ya wuss


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Tiger Ryno
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re: Funeral / Wake etiquette
the bible says to mourn with those who mourn...

there is no need to offer encouragement...let them know you are hurting too because they are hurting...mourn with them.


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Skeeter 79
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re: Funeral / Wake etiquette
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Express sympathy and move on. Why do they need to stay strong?


yeah, thats the argument.

Person A says that encouraging words are a good thing at a wake. Person B says express sympathy and move on.

just getting opinions on the topic...


OMLandshark
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re: Funeral / Wake etiquette
quote:

You say the standard: "I'm really sorry for your loss" Question: is it ok to follow that up with "stay strong" or something similar to encourage that person hold it together? Or should you just express sympathy and move on?


I'd say you're over thinking it. Both of those are fine. Just don't say "it was all part of God's plan" or "God was ready for him to come home", especially if they are middle aged or young, since that would send just about anyone who knows the way the world works into a rage.


BRgetthenet
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quote:

Did you hear the one about the Jew, the Catholic, and the Colored Boy?


Colored boy? What the fu.................

I'll show you colored boy.


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Tiger Ryno
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re: Funeral / Wake etiquette
I agree...I believe in God and my faith is what held me together last year when we lost our baby son, but I did not appreciate people telling me "well God just needed him more than you do right now"...just idiotic...some people just can't help themselves


brewhan davey
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re: Funeral / Wake etiquette
Grief is the most powerful aphrodisiac


Paige
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I have an aunt and a friend who lost young children

They both said that anything besides expressing sympathy sucked


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magildachunks
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re: Funeral / Wake etiquette
I was 16 when my mother died.

I hated when people would come up and tell me "Sorry for your loss." I never knew how to react to it. "Thanks"? That seems wrong or something.

And during the wake, I barely even heard what people were saying to me. I eventually just went outside and smoked cigarettes and hung out with my friends.




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