Do you have a life event or regret you just can't get over? (long)

I'm being one hundred percent serious here, go seek help. Most insurances cover therapy. Utilize it. It helped me with some shite I couldn't move past.

ETA: Ahh, just reread and said you tried counseling. I don't know what to tell you. Time heals all I suppose

im not sure any therapy could help me get over something like that. holy frick

I was going to recount something of my own, but it's trivial compared to your story. Beating yourself up for the rest of your life won't bring him back. Make your life count for something positive. That can never be anything but an awful experience, but try to use it as a springboard to do some good in the world in honor of your friend. You are living for two people now.

Wow I am so sorry this happened to you and your friend. Understandable you would still feel a great amount of guilt about it(even though you do understand it was just a tragic accident).


Are you a religious person in any way?

Damn, dude. That's tough. Are you Christian by any chance? I just read this book called, "Searching for and Maintaining Peace." It was only 100 pages and it rocked my world. Maybe it could help you? It's technically Catholic, but I found it had advice that could really help in all kinds of situations.

Damn, man. Sorry to hear it.

It may not mean much coming from a stranger, but just want you to know you did the right thing going out and getting your bud that night. Nothing about what happened changed that you were a good friend to him that night by picking him up.

Deep down, in this dimension or the next, your buddy is grateful for you and understanding of where you both find yourselves. He'd likely be heartbroken to know the pain you're feeling.

All I can recommend is to make your life extraordinary. For him and for you. It's weird, but had this not happened, you wouldhave gone on living a normal, meaningless life like almost every single one of the rest of us reading your thread.

But you have the chance and the calling to live at a higher level and do things for him, yourself and others that you wouldn't have ever thought about before. All I can do is wish you luck and encourage you to do every little small thing you can to make it a net positive. That may sound ridiculous to hear, that you can make it a net positive... but you simply pursuing that does the job.

Good luck and prayers sent.

If only. An accident. A mistake brought about by choices that the injured party himself was certainly a part of.

Luckily, in this life one mistake does not define who were are as people, else what kind of a fricked world would we live in?

Yet you are letting one mistake define or control you. Do not. Make your peace with it. There was no malice, no intent. Stop holding yourself to this ridiculously high standard.

What his name ?

Maybe this isn't the thread to express all this. Let's not get the OP's thread whacked because it turned into a religious debate.

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my statement wasn't about the OP's choice... it was about the omnipotence of the entity of the religious faith he was being advised to seek.. and basically, my stance, again, is that religion is not always a cure all when times get rough.... some people love to rely on their religion when shite hits the fan, but when times are good, it's nowhere to be found...

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Then the comprehension of you and those like you is incredibly flawed. I've seen those who have faced incredible tragedy turn to their faith to find peace even in the face of unbearable pain because they understood.