Anyone here every give a eulogy?

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I'm not sure where to start

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Start by smiling and then you will find that the writing will comr naturally. I have heard some wonderful eulogies over the years and the best ones are those that make people smile and remember the good times.

I ain't ready yet. Hope to keep my perfect record going. Knocks on wood.

I've seen grown arse men lose it up at the alter and have to take a few moments. Always an emotional deal.

If I am asked to give it must mean I was close to this person. I don't think I would do very good. I have problems just going to funerals.

I had to give one for my grandfather. I started thinking about memories that stood out to me and wrote those down, then developed it from there. Those are the things that stay with me, thats what you should share.

My brother and I wrote one. But there was no way either of us could hold it together to actually read it. Had to get someone else to read it for us.

Just talk about the man. Tell things everyone knew about him and then tell some things that only people close to him knew. A funny story or 2 thrown in is always great.

Speak from the heart.

Tell some personal stories that others might not know.

Thank everyone for their support.

Gave eulogy for my maternal grandfather and my father. Speech for my Pawpaw Was tough. I could not even tell you what I said for my dad's funeral. Totally winged it. Was still in a total haze of despair and disbelief.

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know to hit on his accomplishments and hobbies, etc. Just looking for some insight.

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I did my dad's a couple of years ago - outline it for sure.

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i'm pretty good with speeches

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Unless your dad would have wanted you to "give a speech" - don't do that. Tell a story, instead. Tell the story he would want you to tell.

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1. Where he came from - 2. the environment that shaped him - 3. the things he accomplished - 4. the things he enjoyed - 5. and what he leaves behind.

That was my rough outline and I think it went fairly well. Don't be a slave to a chronological narrative and don't just recite his resume like he's applying for a job. Capture at least 1 or 2 funny things and 1 or 2 bittersweet things (for tone) - unless that would be inappropriate for his personality then skew it one way or the other.

Write some stuff down and practice it (not a speech though).....the reason is it will take a little of the "emotion" off it when you have to do it for real. Second, like someone else said, make a joke or 2 about something you and your Dad shared. IF you and your Dad ever had a beer together, take one up there with you. It's an emotional time but talk about all the good shite you 2 had together.