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An appeal, please. On occasions this former member of the clergy will be asked
Posted on 8/29/16 at 10:58 am
Posted on 8/29/16 at 10:58 am
to perform the funeral service of another's loved one in which the relationship was casual, at best. It is awkward for all involved and I can only ask that we avoid, to the best of our abilities, such moments by taking a few minutes of prior planning to establish expectations/wishes...of the deceased, their loved ones and the one being asked to do the service.
Officiating in such times is difficult enough and a moment of pre-planning lends itself to calmness in a difficult time.
Yes, I still do funerals but for people I know very well and where prior discussions have been had.
Thank you.
Officiating in such times is difficult enough and a moment of pre-planning lends itself to calmness in a difficult time.
Yes, I still do funerals but for people I know very well and where prior discussions have been had.
Thank you.
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Posted on 8/29/16 at 10:58 am to wfallstiger
Good talk
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:02 am to wfallstiger
You been into that wine and crackers a little early, Padre?
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:03 am to wfallstiger
You could have just said some words and chucked him in the clay.
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:05 am to fr33manator
Chunked
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:06 am to wfallstiger
Cocaine is a hell of a drug.
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:07 am to Clyde Tipton
LOL...no, just had a similar call/request and we opted not to have me do the service, which is fine, as what was requested of me was not part of my pastoral experience. Further, the relationship with the deceased was casual, at best.
I don't like not being able to honor a request and a bit of planning could have avoided such, that's all.
I don't like not being able to honor a request and a bit of planning could have avoided such, that's all.
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:09 am to wfallstiger
Didn't Jesus condemn the Pharisees?
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:10 am to wfallstiger
Stepfather and son are ministers--sometimes you gotta step up to the plate and plant 'em even though it's a bit awkward. Appeal noted, however.
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:10 am to wfallstiger
So should I get to know you very well so we can have discussions about prior planning of my funeral?
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:12 am to shiftworker
Would be helpful, yes
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:17 am to wfallstiger
What denomination we talking here?
I'm Southern Penta-non denominational Witness.
I'm Southern Penta-non denominational Witness.
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:17 am to wfallstiger
but then you give me one of those awkward talks trying to convert me where I endure it only to not be rude. frick all that noise.
I'll haunt my family if they have one of those preacher types at my funeral talking about how I was a good man and jesus was my savior and all that bs.
I'll haunt my family if they have one of those preacher types at my funeral talking about how I was a good man and jesus was my savior and all that bs.
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:20 am to wfallstiger
Its about the dead guy not you old sport.
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:22 am to Makinbacon
quote:
Chunked
He isn't going on top of hashbrowns
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:25 am to wfallstiger
I've done many funerals for people I'd never met. Difficult yes, but I know it's a blessing to the family just to have someone do their funeral. It's impersonal but the family knows that.
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:46 am to wfallstiger
Go up on your hourly rate or get Tourette's syndrome.
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:50 am to captainahab
A real minister always answers the call. Rain sleet or dark of night.
Posted on 8/29/16 at 11:52 am to wfallstiger
Let me add this - I can recall clearly my father's rage at a particular priest who officiated at my great aunt's funeral. He kept referring to her by her first name - like he'd known her all his life, when she never went by her first name and hated it, actually. She went by the diminutive form of her middle name.
Flash forward to my father's funeral - now, he was nominally catholic (an adult convert, at that), but had not been to mass in many, many years. The only priest he gave a single shite about was way too old and way too retired to do anything.
So, I did the eulogy - splitting duties with my sister. We knew him. We said the words to send him off. It is better that way 100% of the time. Now, if a member of the clergy is close to the deceased and that's what the family wants? I'm fine with that. But I don't want any strangers saying the words, because that makes it all bullshite.
Flash forward to my father's funeral - now, he was nominally catholic (an adult convert, at that), but had not been to mass in many, many years. The only priest he gave a single shite about was way too old and way too retired to do anything.
So, I did the eulogy - splitting duties with my sister. We knew him. We said the words to send him off. It is better that way 100% of the time. Now, if a member of the clergy is close to the deceased and that's what the family wants? I'm fine with that. But I don't want any strangers saying the words, because that makes it all bullshite.
Posted on 8/29/16 at 12:09 pm to Ace Midnight
Thank you.
To your point, have eulogized my Mother, Father-in-Law and Mother-in-Law, what wonderful, eternal moments.
Will not be doing my Father's service, is a nominal Catholic, he loves Father Frank so Father Frank it is
To your point, have eulogized my Mother, Father-in-Law and Mother-in-Law, what wonderful, eternal moments.
Will not be doing my Father's service, is a nominal Catholic, he loves Father Frank so Father Frank it is
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