she couldn't give it to me since I wasn't going through her with the loan
If you are going outside official channels she could get in trouble if she were to give you the score, I don't blame her one bit.
But it won't hurt your credit to have multiple pulls in a short period, the formula takes "rate shopping" into account. Even if it's been a while one extra pull isn't a big deal unless you are *just* on the border. In that unlikely event you might want to plead your case with a lending officer, it doesn't hurt to ask.