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BomagATM
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Orange Beach, AL
Member since Aug 2011
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re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


It sounds like you really care about them and their mom. Good for you dude.

I am very leery of introducing my kids to just anyone. So it's cool that it's working out for y'all.






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Lester Earl
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re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


yea, i know more single girls with kids than girls with kids that are still with the baby's dad





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FLBooGoTigs1
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jacksonville, FL.
Member since Jan 2008
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re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


Sounds like you are happy that's what matters. Big big bonus if the kids are good and they like you and vice versa. Women with baggage isn't a disease. Most women dating in 30's have at least one. Good luck





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9Fiddy
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19th Hole
Member since Jan 2007
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re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


You need to figure out what you want to be. If you want to be a father figure and they need that, then that is what you should do. You have to understand that being a father means being their best friend sometimes and someone they can't stand to be around sometimes. No kids likes to be disciplined. They will test you. They will push as far as you let them. But in the end, when the chips are down, they'll run to the person who was always there for them no matter what. You need to make sure they know you are that person, and you'll be fine.





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mattz1122
Houston Fan
Member since Oct 2007
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re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


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yea, i know more single girls with kids than girls with kids that are still with the baby's dad



Damn dude. I thought you were from a nice part of NO.






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Lester Earl
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re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


just seems like the norm. most are good girls from good families.





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Flair Chops
Miami (FL) Fan
boone county mating call
Member since Nov 2010
33523 posts

re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


Haven't read the thread, but if you love the woman, you'll make it work. It's not easy, but you will find a way.





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VetteGuy
LSU Fan
Mandeville
Member since Feb 2008
10601 posts

re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


Well..

You will learn to become a dad, in time.
It's not a quick, automatic deal.

Since they are tiny tots you will have the opportunity to earn their respect. You can't be their friend, your role is too important for that.

Have a long talk with the mom. Make sure you share the
same ideas about discipline. It can only work if you are on the same page. Understand that you are the leader of the home, wether you are their biological father or not.

Best of luck.






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Bubb
Member since Mar 2010
2809 posts

re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


You'd rather a single woman in her 30s that's never been married or had kids? That's more suspicious to me...





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LSUFan3434
LSU Fan
Iowa, LA
Member since Sep 2006
15906 posts

re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


when I started dating my wife, that was part of the deal... she had two from her previous marriage. it takes time, but if you already like the kids.... go for it.





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VetteGuy
LSU Fan
Mandeville
Member since Feb 2008
10601 posts

re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


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You'd rather a single woman in her 30s that's never been married or had kids? That's more suspicious to me...


Agree.

31, 32..maybe.

34+, gonna be full of issues.






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Napoleon
New Orleans Saints Fan
Member since Dec 2007
33769 posts

re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


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Way to long

Didn't read



I'll never understand why people get in a thread they are not interested in. Just to post TL;DR.

It's a sign of a lack of intelligence.



We have been together for six months. But I feel different with this one.






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St Augustine
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Member since Mar 2006
42085 posts

re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


dude it sounds like you are doing a great job...they will become attached as hell at that age. Just support them and above all be kind to them. It'll come easy enough if you care about them. There isn't a perfect parent out there nor is there a magic formula, but if you use common sense and listen to them they will often show you how to treat them themselves (and I don't mean just give them whatever they ask for )

As far as having one of your own, I'm 32 as well and my wife is 30. We had our first last November. Nothing in this world comes close to seeing your little one for the first time. We were married for 5 years and were completely content traveling, making money, and doing what we wanted to do when we conceived him. Couldn't imagine not having him in my life now. Good luck, you'll do fine.



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fr33manator
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Baton Rouge
Member since Oct 2010
46981 posts

re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


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I don't have any experience with this situation so take this fwiw...you may be uncomfortable being a "step-dad" now, but if yall are truly serious, you will grow into being their "real dad" since they are so young.


Ummm. What about their actual dad?






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Napoleon
New Orleans Saints Fan
Member since Dec 2007
33769 posts

re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


what's weird is I tried meeting the dad twice and he backs out each time.

I'm the first person she dated after him to meet the kids.

I like them, they fight over who gets to sit next to me and such.

I've known my gf since third grade but never really talked to her other than Facebook. that's how we started talking.







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horndog
LA-Monroe Fan
Member since Apr 2007
10789 posts

re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


It aint going to work, imo.





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Napoleon
New Orleans Saints Fan
Member since Dec 2007
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re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


the actual dad seems to be a good dad, pays child support splits custody.







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Napoleon
New Orleans Saints Fan
Member since Dec 2007
33769 posts

re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


what's weird is I tried meeting the dad twice and he backs out each time.

I'm the first person she dated after him to meet the kids.

I like them, they fight over who gets to sit next to me and such.

I've known my gf since third grade but never really talked to her other than Facebook. that's how we started talking.







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fr33manator
LSU Fan
Baton Rouge
Member since Oct 2010
46981 posts

re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


So maybe he isn't exactly thrilled with the fact about some other guy usurping his position.

Whether you intend to or not, you represent a threat.

It's biological.






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windshieldman
New Orleans Saints Fan
Member since Nov 2012
1288 posts

re: Dating a girls (serious) with kids, in your 30's.


My wife had 2 girls when I met her. Their dad is, I guess you can say in their life. He gets them on avg about one weekend a month. I dont discipline them near as bad as I will my 2 boys when they get older. They are good kids though and wife and I have a great marriage, so far.

Dont try to compete with their dad and never talk bad about their dad either to them. I have to bite my tongue all the time b/c he lets the girls down quite a bit. Only times Ive gotten into it with their dad was in pvt and I would hope they never find out.






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