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VetteGuy 
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Mandeville
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5239 posts
| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:12 pm to When in Rome)
I joke and kid about being a chauvinist all the time.
(NoHo, more sammichs!  )
The fact is, there is a lot more to marriage that just being "the boss."
You are taking on a tremoudus responsibility in being the head of the household. It is best to be married to someone that shares the same values and beliefs as you do.
Any man that treats his wife like a possession is clueless. And he's missing the real value of a marriage.
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VetteGuy
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Mandeville
Member since Feb 2008
5239 posts
| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:15 pm to keakdasneak)
Well, we disagree, obviously.
If you were inferring that I think of her as a possession, you are incorrect.
My point is that if we had those types of fundamental differences, we wouldn't be discussing marriage anyway.
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TigerintheNO
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New Orleans
Member since Jan 2004
18929 posts
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| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:19 pm to WG_Dawg)
My wife asked me if I wanted her to take my name, I told her do you want me to introduce you as my wife or babys mamma.
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RhodeIslandRed
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Adrift Off the Spanish Main
Member since Aug 2009
2807 posts
| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:25 pm to RedMustang)
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The "macho caveman males" on here amaze me. You expect women to take your name even if they don't want to? If women asked you to take their name, would you? If not, then you are a hypocrite. You can't "demand" that they take your name if you wouldn't be willing to do the same for them. It's just a name and if women aren't comfortable taking yours, let them keep theirs, go with a hyphenated name, or choose a new last name. There is no woman who should marry a man who demands that they take their name. If a man is that close minded, he would start demanding other things as well. Marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship.
Get me a beer and fix me a sandwich.
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RedMustang 
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| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:28 pm to VetteGuy)
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You are taking on a tremoudus responsibility in being the head of the household
Who decides which one is the "head of the household?" Is it the man or the woman? Why is there a need for one? A marriage isn't a corporation, it's a PARTNERSHIP!
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jmcs68
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Member since Sep 2012
8954 posts
| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:29 pm to VetteGuy)
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Any man that treats his wife like a possession is clueless. And he's missing the real value of a marriage.
No truer words have ever been spoken...
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RedMustang
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| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:30 pm to RhodeIslandRed)
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Get me a beer and fix me a sandwich
Get me one and make me a pie while your at it.
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Sir Drinksalot
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Member since Aug 2005
6783 posts
| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:30 pm to RedMustang)
I know your kind.
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jmcs68
LSU Fan
Member since Sep 2012
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| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:31 pm to RedMustang)
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Who decides which one is the "head of the household?" Is it the man or the woman? Why is there a need for one? A marriage isn't a corporation, it's a PARTNERSHIP!
God did in the Bible. A rib was taken from Adam to make the Eve. It also states that a wife should be as one with her husband.
This post was edited on 2/4 at 7:34 pm
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Geauxtiga
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Member since Jan 2008
24361 posts
| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:33 pm to ShoeBang)
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We got married and she took my name.
And when you get divorced she'll take everything else.
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RhodeIslandRed
LSU Fan
Adrift Off the Spanish Main
Member since Aug 2009
2807 posts
| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:36 pm to RedMustang)
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Get me one and make me a pie while your at it.
Sure, I'll get you a beer, but you'll have to supply the pie.
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theOG 
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| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:37 pm to keakdasneak)
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What does a name have to do with two becoming one? It is a label. Names and labels are in their nature symbolic.
its not just the name hombre, its a symbol of shared values. my wife and i were just like he and his wife, this topic did not need to be discussed. and if it was a topic that needed to be legitimately discussed then we wouldn't share traditional marital values. if that were the case, we wouldn't be married.
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lsunurse
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Scottsdale, AZ
Member since Dec 2005
65102 posts
| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:38 pm to castorinho)
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Whew, glad you cleared that up
This is the OT, I knew I had to make sure that was included in the retelling of the story.
I'm dropping my middle name and taking my maiden name as my middle name. I can understand if you keep your last name due to a professional attachment to it, but otherwise I don't see why you wouldn't.
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keakdasneak
LSU Fan
Korea
Member since Dec 2006
6664 posts
| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:42 pm to theOG)
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its not just the name hombre, its a symbol of shared values. my wife and i were just like he and his wife, this topic did not need to be discussed. and if it was a topic that needed to be legitimately discussed then we wouldn't share traditional marital values. if that were the case, we wouldn't be married.
A symbol nonetheless. Remove the symbol and the shared values still exist. The real thing is what is important, not the symbol.
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VetteGuy
LSU Fan
Mandeville
Member since Feb 2008
5239 posts
| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:43 pm to RedMustang)
A marriage is absolutely a partnership, but at some point, the buck has to stop somewhere.
You should certainly value your wife's wise counsel, but the husband and father is the leader of the home.
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Indfanfromcol
LSU Fan
LSU
Member since Jan 2011
6729 posts
| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:43 pm to WG_Dawg)
Would not care.
But my children would have my last name. That would be a deal breaker if my s/o wanted to keep her last name.
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theOG
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| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:45 pm to keakdasneak)
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A symbol nonetheless. Remove the symbol and the shared values still exist. The real thing is what is important, not the symbol.
you do your thing and i'll do mine, i'm not trying to convince you.
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lsunurse
LSU Fan
Scottsdale, AZ
Member since Dec 2005
65102 posts
| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 7:47 pm to theOG)
Chicks that insist on doing the hyphenated name thing, not for work/professional purposes, tend to be high maintenance and annoying as frick.
Just from my observations
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When in Rome 
USA Fan
Telegraph Road
Member since Jan 2011
20824 posts
| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 8:28 pm to lsunurse)
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Chicks that insist on doing the hyphenated name thing, not for work/professional purposes, tend to be high maintenance and annoying as frick.
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PurpleandGold Motown 
Alabama Fan
Leon, Nicaragua
Member since Oct 2007
11000 posts
| re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name? (Posted on 2/4/13 at 8:32 pm to Indfanfromcol)
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But my children would have my last name. That would be a deal breaker if my s/o wanted to keep her last name.
I suppose the girls could have her last name. They are going to give it up anyway, right?
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