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Rohan2Reed
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


My gf and I have had this discussion. She's the same way .. last in line and her father didn't have any sons and he has no brothers. We came to an agreement that she would take my last name legally, she would continue to use her maiden name for work, our kids would have my last name but her maiden name would be our first daughter's middle name.





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yellowfin
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


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Cheaper for her not to any way.



How does it save you money?






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10888bge
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


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How does it save you money?

She didn't change it. Never got around to it after the honeymoon. Now frick if I am giving any more money to the gov't even if it is just to add my last on to hers.






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kingbob
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


very important. Only self-rightious bitches wouldn't take the guy's name. If she really loves you, she'll be honored to take your name. If she doesn't want your name, she doesn't really want you. She probably just wants your money and your pride.





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Brettesaurus Rex
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Baton Rouge
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


I guess that depends on how she feels about not having the same name as her kids. If she did that then forced you to have your kids last name the same as hers then I think that would cause more of an issue than if she just wanted hers to stay





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donRANDOMnumbers
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


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My gf and I have had this discussion. She's the same way .. last in line and her father didn't have any sons and he has no brothers. We came to an agreement that she would take my last name legally, she would continue to use her maiden name for work, our kids would have my last name but her maiden name would be our first daughter's middle name.


not necessarily my situation as i am the name sake. my wife is changing her name legally to mine, but is still considering keeping her maiden name for professional reasons as a doctor.

kids will take my last name, no argument there.






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NaturalBeam
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


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i would NEVER marry a woman who wouldn't take my last name.
I thought this way before I was married. It was never an issue, as my wife always wanted to take my name.

But after a couple of years of marriage, I look back and wonder why it was so important. If she told me she wanted to change back to her maiden name today, not a single frick would be given.






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jimjackandjose
Member since Jun 2011
1831 posts

re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


Ended an engagement over this issue.

And yes I had discussed the importance with her before multiple times. She said she wanted to change it multiple times. Then push came to shove and she thought her name was more important that mine.

Ending the engagement worked out. She now has two kids with two daddies out of wed lock.






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Queen
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


I'm getting married in May and have these episodes where I don't want to lose my last name. I don't consider myself feminist, but It could just be separation anxiety because it's been my name my whole life and I started a career with it.

I would definitely change it once we have kids if not before. I think I've come to terms with having the maiden name be my middle, maybe using two names for a year or so until people get used to it.






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Bmath
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TX
Member since Aug 2010
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


While several female family members chose to keep their birth name, my wife took mine.

We both felt that it better symbolizes us forming a single family. It also eliminates any potential confusion once we have kids.

Biologically speaking, I think it is important for men to carry their fathers family name because of the passing of the Y chromosome.

At the end of the day the traditional naming system predominantly used in the US is not universal. Also, record keeping has greatly improved, and I guess I understand some women's aversion.






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fishfighter
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


I'm old school. Would be a deal breaker if she didn't take my last name.





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BomagATM
New Orleans Saints Fan
Orange Beach, AL
Member since Aug 2011
379 posts

re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


It would be a deal breaker for me. That is just the way it is supposed to work.

That being said, I think there should be some sort of asterisk attached. Once the divorce is final, the name needs to revert back.






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tigerinthebueche
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


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have any brothers, so she didn't want her family name to basically end if she changed it. Her husband didn't seem to care really.


Did you and I meet recently?






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lsuhunt555
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


If a woman is insisting on it because of professional reasons, I can understand. If it's just because she believes she doesn't need to, then it probably wont last.





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Bmath
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TX
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


Now that I think about it my Y chromosome argument is conflicted as we all get our mitochondria from our mom.
Hmmm






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PurpleandGold Motown
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Leon, Nicaragua
Member since Oct 2007
12541 posts

re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


Don't care. Any potential children will have my last name not hers.





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foshizzle
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Washington DC metro
Member since Mar 2008
29517 posts

re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


IDGAF.

I suspect she would take my name eventually anyway just because society still expects it. But that isn't my problem, so she can make the choice.






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Queen
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Member since Nov 2009
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


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That being said, I think there should be some sort of asterisk attached. Once the divorce is final, the name needs to revert back.


IIRC, this is actually a pain to do. Knew a woman who just didn't want to pay hundreds of dollars for the paperwork.

My boss is actually married for the second time and still has her first husband's name. Like Mrs. Lady OldHubsName NewHubsName. She uses two because a) she owns a business and it was kind of necessary to use her old name at least for a while and b) she has kids with her ex-hubs' last name.

Still weirds me out though.






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tigerinthebueche
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Erwinville, LA.
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


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If a woman is insisting on it because of professional reasons, I can understand. If it's just because she believes she doesn't need to, then it probably wont last


why wouldn't it last? My wife never took my name. We've been at it for years.






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REB BEER
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The South
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?


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i would NEVER marry a woman who wouldn't take my last name.







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