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lovelsu 
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/21/13 at 12:55 pm to TexasTiger05)
Unfortunately, speaking from experience (I lost my dad and mom within 7 months of each other) here are the things that went over the best:
1. Baked ham with rolls for sandwiches.
2. Crawfish bread
3. One neighbor the day before the funeral brought over paper plates, plastic cups, forks, knives and napkins - this was really helpful.
4. Sandwich platters
5. Cheese & vegetable trays
All of these items were for guests arriving from out of town for the funeral and then for everyone coming back to the house after the funeral.
I have actually never heard of bringing food a month after the funeral but is is very thoughtful.
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/22/13 at 2:37 am to TexasTiger05)
If everyone signing up is bringing pasta and one dish meals, I'd consider fresh vegetables as at least part of the meal. I also think they might be tired of sandwiches by then. I'd consider roasted chicken, pork loin or roast and rice and gravy with fresh green beans and salad with a nice dressing. Roasted vegetables are also a nice touch.
I did a big herb roasted pork loin with a gravy for the meat and purple hull peas with a salad of romaine, strawberries, candied pecans and a vinaigrette the last time I made a bereavement meal. The folks said it was a great change from funeral food casseroles and sandwiches and that it reheated easily.
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/22/13 at 2:46 am to Rohan2Reed)
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a bottle of whiskey
Pretty much this. I can't even eat food for 3 days when I'm upset about something stupid. A loss of someone I love would make me skinny to the point of dead. Bringing a couple bottles of wine would be my savior.
eta: That all being said, I like the fresh veggies idea. Something new and different.
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/22/13 at 3:40 am to Rohan2Reed)
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A simple chicken spaghetti (even add velvetta cheese to it)
what the?
Don't knock it fool, it's very good and easy enough to make. The cheese makes chicken spaghetti much better.
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/22/13 at 4:15 pm to TexasTiger05)
Last funeral for my family someone brought a tray of chicken minis from Chick Fil-A and put it in the family room at the wake. Those things never had a chance. I don't have access to a Chic Fil-a so it was extra good.
I think they will very much appreciate you bringing something a little different. It's a very nice, thoughtful gesture.
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tigerzballzdeep
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/22/13 at 4:23 pm to Dark Tiger)
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A simple chicken spaghetti (even add velvetta cheese to it) is always an easy meal to fix and heat up, etc..
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Zach
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/22/13 at 4:34 pm to TexasTiger05)
I did a big lasagna with French bread when the neighbors lost their teenage daughter in a car accident.
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/22/13 at 6:25 pm to TexasTiger05)
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Something not always thought about is a nice dessert. A little something like that can really put the thought over the top. Maybe brownies or cupcakes.
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/22/13 at 6:44 pm to lovelsu)
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I have actually never heard of bringing food a month after the funeral but is is very thoughtful.
In my experience, this happens when someone really young dies. People want so much to help, knowing (or imagining) how difficult it is to lose a child. They worry that the grieving parents might not be functioning enough to put a meal together.
Having said that, I have no idea what the case is for the OP.
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Gris Gris
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/23/13 at 1:17 am to Darla Hood)
I bring things after the fact quite often. People are inundated with food and folks right after a loss. Then, it suddenly stops for the most part. I find that people are very appreciative after time goes by that the loss and they are still remembered. This can be the hardest time.
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Stadium Rat
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/23/13 at 4:44 am to Gris Gris)
Here are a bunch of traditional ideas with recipes:
Deep South Dish - Traditional Southern Funeral Foods
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TexasTiger05
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/23/13 at 5:17 am to Darla Hood)
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In my experience, this happens when someone really young dies
Yes, unfortunately that's the case in this situation.
Mentioned it before, but I signed up on a website called Take Them A Meal where you're able to better organize who brings what so they're not bombarded with stuff for 2 weeks, and then nothing. The family will also know who is coming, what day/time, and what they're bringing. Great idea imo.
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/23/13 at 9:53 am to TexasTiger05)
I recently had a death in the family, cold cuts with a couple loaves of bread was nice as was a brisket that someone brought. We had close to 2 dozen people at my parents at any given time. So stuff that was easy to serve to that many people worked out well.
Throw in some paper plates and plastic flatware too. We tore through that stuff quickly.
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/23/13 at 10:06 am to Gris Gris)
I like the pork roast because it can be served with rice or potatoes and vegetable sides, then the leftovers can be used for sandwiches..
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| re: Taking someone who is grieving a meal (Posted on 1/23/13 at 12:26 pm to BayouBengal)
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Throw in some paper plates and plastic flatware too. We tore through that stuff quickly.
I bring this sort of thing initially. Lots of plates, cups, flatware and bottled water. Sometimes, the liters of soft drinks with that.
Devil, I agree on the pork. They can have a balanced meal with that and sandwich leftovers. Same with a roast.
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