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SeauxWhat
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:20 am to Topwater Trout)
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Tell her no to sex one time and she will never say no again.
I try, yet fail every time 
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PhillyTide 
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:31 am to snow517)
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Pumpkins 
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:32 am to snow517)
I don't understand why men marry women who don't want to sleep with them...........
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buddhavista
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:33 am to Pumpkins)
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I don't understand why men marry women who don't want to sleep with them...........
when they are dating, they have sex.
The ring on the finger can shut the legs.
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Pumpkins
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:35 am to buddhavista)
It makes no sense that she would stop enjoying it afterwards....
Hm... she must have only cared about getting a ring, and therefore put out to get what she wanted...
You guys need to marry women who actually enjoy sleeping with you.
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Breesus 
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:37 am to Pumpkins)
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You guys need to marry women who actually enjoy sleeping with you.
And enjoy being around you. If you arnet as comfortable sitting on the couch watching TV as you are in the bed having sex as you are at a party in public with her family around, odds are she aint the one.
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Boats n Hose
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:40 am to Pumpkins)
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buddhavista
Member since Jul 2012
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:44 am to Pumpkins)
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It makes no sense that she would stop enjoying it afterwards....
Hm... she must have only cared about getting a ring, and therefore put out to get what she wanted...
You guys need to marry women who actually enjoy sleeping with you.
Well its pretty common complaint among men, so there must be a reason. I am going to bet that it comes down to neglecting the person you are with, once you have it locked up.
So the men don't date the wife, or take care of her and the woman let the sex thing slip a little bit.
I dunno. This isn't really a problem in my life, but I do hear people complain about it.
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Pumpkins
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:46 am to buddhavista)
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Well its pretty common complaint among men, so there must be a reason. I am going to bet that it comes down to neglecting the person you are with, once you have it locked up. So the men don't date the wife, or take care of her and the woman let the sex thing slip a little bit. I dunno. This isn't really a problem in my life, but I do hear people complain about it.
But you see, this is making it seem like women only have sex to please their so.
Shouldn't it be enjoyable for both?
I hear it as a common complaint too, and I don't understand it.
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NoHoTiger
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:52 am to buddhavista)
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So the men don't date the wife, or take care of her and the woman let the sex thing slip a little bit.
A lot of it comes down to forgetting that your wife/husband is an actual person and not just your wife/husband and mother/father of the kids. On a regular basis, schedule a date night. Send the kids to grandma's house or hire an overnight babysitter and stay in a hotel. Talk about things other than the bills, the mortgage, the kids and what they need at school. Give each other alone time. Spa days, fishing trips, hunting trips. And for frick's sake, turn off your goddamn phone. If it's that important they will leave a message.
If you want sex, TELL YOUR PARTNER!!!!!!
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asurob1 
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:52 am to Pumpkins)
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But you see, this is making it seem like women only have sex to please their so.
Shouldn't it be enjoyable for both?
I hear it as a common complaint too, and I don't understand it.
The longer you are with a woman the less sex you will enjoy with that woman. That is a fact.
For one early in a relationship there is a lot of sex because of the whole, I may never get to have sex with this person again psyche everyone goes through.
Then there is the whole sex is for making babies and when the babies are made we dont need as much sex.
And naturally age takes it toll. Mother nature didn't mean for women to be having babies into their late 30s and 40s so once again...cool things like menopause kick into gear....less sex.
The key is to make the sex you are having terrific. Enjoy what she can give you. Even if it means your not getting as much intercourse as you want.
Again, make her feel special and dont make it about the sex and you might find that suddenly you are having too much sex again.
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Breesus
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:53 am to buddhavista)
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I am going to bet that it comes down to neglecting the person you are with, once you have it locked up.
100% this. You have to work to be a great person. It isnt easy.
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Commando
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:55 am to WikiTiger)
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10% of men and 9% of women have had anal sex in the past year
Is this disparity from doubling up on the same woman, or switching sides?
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asurob1
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:56 am to Breesus)
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100% this. You have to work to be a great person. It isnt easy.
yup. If you want your partner to make you feel special.
You might need to remember to make her special. Dont spend the night watching monday night football with the boys...and then not understand why she isn't lubed up and ready to go after the game.
It's about time spent.
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TexasTiger05
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:58 am to asurob1)
Good Lord, people actually discussing this at a mature level without throwing out all women are ugly whores, etc? I'm shocked! Huzzah for this thread
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buddhavista
Member since Jul 2012
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 11:59 am to Pumpkins)
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But you see, this is making it seem like women only have sex to please their so.
well I do think that does happen pretty frequently. The wife probably enjoys sex but is tired or not feeling sexy, so she might have sex to please the partner, and then end up enjoying it.
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Shouldn't it be enjoyable for both?
I hear it as a common complaint too, and I don't understand it.
Yes, but sometimes sex gets boring with the same person. You got to mix it up a little bit, and I think that guys sometimes forget that.
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ArRazElle
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 12:51 pm to lurkr)
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It's really not complicated, takes time and effort down both sides of the street.
Absolutely.
I know for those of us who have been married for some time, children are not the only thing getting in the way of alone time.
After a while, it seems husband & wife usually start taking each other for granted, albeit unintentionally. There are so many other issues (chores, bills, cleaning, jobs, kids, etc.) to attend to that are daily and never ending, we begin to run the household as a kind of business with us being business partners. We almost have to de-program and make a concerted effort to get back into the romantic, man & woman, husband & wife roles.
Although spontaneity is good, sometimes I think we have to create or schedule time for each other to sit down and communicate as husband & wife and not just business partners. Talking and truly listening to each other, uninterrupted, without distractions on a regular basis is so important to feeling connected, intimately, especially for a woman. If a married couple's life has become so busy and business-like that there is little real, intimate communication, the sexual relationship suffers.
I think it's a good idea to actually schedule times throughout the week for a couple to have conversations in which the business part of the relationship (money, chores, household maintenance, jobs, even children, etc.) are not allowed to be discussed. This creates a flirty, date-like environment conducive to romance, and for a lot of married women, that is what we feel is missing from our daily lives & routines, and is key to a good sexual relationship with our spouse.
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MOJO mod
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 1:10 pm to ArRazElle)
Nice post.
Been a good read...wife and I married 12 years and dated since we were 15 in high school. Hard to keep things interesting with kid and work obligations. One thing for sure I think we can all agree on. When the wife wants something (boob job, lasik, new car, new house, pool, boob job again, diamonds)....the game is much easier. 
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molsusports
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 1:12 pm to WikiTiger)
Look at the difference between what partnered/married men and partnered/married women report from different age groups.
What do you think about this?
Notice the partnered women who are at least 70 category? Are they sleeping with younger men or are they remembering the frequency different than men?
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Jahel
Member since Nov 2011
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| re: How to increase frequency of sex for married couples thread (Posted on 12/11/12 at 1:14 pm to Breesus)
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Breesus
how many hours do you spend on TD? It's a special person who would allow that right?
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