I know a pretty reasonable and smart girl; young (23), has an MPH, pretty, smart, has a lot going for her .
She met a mutual friend, kicked it off with him, but decided she didnt want it to continue to courtship (guys too short and young for her (21 YO senior that plays football at Georgetown)).
Now in her defense, lil brudda is pretty immature and has made waayy too many "game" errors, via text/Skype (who shows up for a Skype date with no shirt). Fact is, he doesn't deserve her. He's got ALOT to learn
When she asked me for advice, I told her be brutally honest with him, and lay it out there. Men appreciate that more than they dancing, dodging and diving. She opted to dance around the issue, and come up with alibis/lies for missing a date/not responding to texts. To him, there is still a chance. So she never closed the gate and allowed him to increase his creepiness.
All she had to do is tell him "i just moved to the city and I'm focused on getting my life going" or better "I just don't see this working. We're in 2 different places in life"
Instead, her lying has dragged this out. Shes a great friend of mine, but this reminded me that all women will find the route of most resistance and drama and will ultimately choose the non sane option
This post was edited on 8/30 at 1:51 am