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re: Wife and I are thinking about adopting
Posted on 4/20/14 at 6:07 pm to Hammertime
Posted on 4/20/14 at 6:07 pm to Hammertime
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Something about shopping your kids does not sit right with me. Then, the fricked up kid that needs a family the most will get screwed. I couldn't live with myself knowing that I bailed on a kid that needed help
Maybe it is okay with some people, but those kids deserve better than that
They certainly do. The Moms who have so little regard for their kids that they just name them sequentially, i.e. Seven, Four, etc. Or "Mistake".
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Posted on 4/20/14 at 6:12 pm to Slingscode
My take without reading the thread, all kids need loving no matter what. If y'all need kids to for fill your life's, go for it and thank God for people like y'all. 
Posted on 4/20/14 at 6:17 pm to fishfighter
quote:your better then that fish
for fill your life's
Posted on 4/20/14 at 6:40 pm to fishfighter
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My take without reading the thread, all kids need loving no matter what. If y'all need kids to for fill your life's, go for it and thank God for people like y'all.
It's certainly not for everyone. In our case, we have been rewarded much more than we have given. Unfortunately, that is not the case in many adoptions. And certainly not to say that ours hasn't been without its issues. When we are struggling with him, we have to be careful to remember the place he started from and then it's easy to see his growth.
Posted on 4/20/14 at 6:50 pm to i am dan
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Hope I don't catch hell for this, but we would like to adopt an American caucasian child.
I really think this is bullshite reasoning. The kid in a Chinese orphanage needs your help more than a foster kid in the US. I've volunteered for a Chinese orphanage, and it is the single most depressing place on planet Earth (aside from Liberia or North Korea). Girls all over the place and they don't know how to handle them, and they're screwed to a life in the sweatshops or prostitution. Foster kids, while still bad, still aren't on the same level. Patriotism in this instance is complete bullshite.
I can however understand that you wouldn't want to raise a kid who is under 2 again, and China doesn't offer that as much, so I'm not going to light your arse over this.
Posted on 4/20/14 at 6:54 pm to LSU Piston
quote:Why when there are plenty of kids here that could use a good home
How about foreign-born?
Im 31 and aint never met a good cop, but I AM DAN may change that
(I think I remember him being a copPosted on 4/20/14 at 6:54 pm to i am dan
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Just less friction in life. I have nothing but respect for people who adopt outside their race, but it's not something I'm prepared to deal with.
I don't think Asians are really discriminated against at all. If I had to take a guess, she'd get more shite for being adopted than being Asian when she was in school. You'll be subjecting your kid to that regardless.
Posted on 4/20/14 at 6:59 pm to OMLandshark
Have you adopted? If not, try not to judge. Choosing to parent an adopted child involves many additional challenges that birth parents don't encounter.
For instance, adopting a child of a different race involves the adoption being "obvious" to strangers. many children find this difficult and involves addressing racism in an already complicated issue. Many children don't like random people to know they are adopted. If a parent doesn't feel comfortable taking on the additional challenges on top of the adoption issue, then it's great they know that in advance.
For instance, adopting a child of a different race involves the adoption being "obvious" to strangers. many children find this difficult and involves addressing racism in an already complicated issue. Many children don't like random people to know they are adopted. If a parent doesn't feel comfortable taking on the additional challenges on top of the adoption issue, then it's great they know that in advance.
Posted on 4/20/14 at 7:09 pm to Broke
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Yeah, I'm out. Too much money for me.
I'm imagining she was blonde hair blue eyes. Way more Chinese girls and less than half the price. If and when I get married and have kids, I'm certainly adopting a Chinese girl.
Posted on 4/20/14 at 7:13 pm to SG_Geaux
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Good luck. It is easy to adopt girls from China, and almost impossible to adopt a boy.
I'd venture to say that it is literally impossible for a foreigner to adopt an Asian male from China. There are infertile women over there as well, and adopting a male child is a no-brainer for almost every Chinese family.
Posted on 4/20/14 at 7:42 pm to i am dan
If you have about 10 grand to spare go for it
Posted on 4/20/14 at 7:45 pm to OMLandshark
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I don't think Asians are really discriminated against at all. If I had to take a guess, she'd get more shite for being adopted than being Asian when she was in school. You'll be subjecting your kid to that regardless.
In my experience, people don't bat an eye when I tell them my child is adopted. For those that I elect to tell more of the story to, they want to help this young man out in ways that I would have never guessed. Our community has been very good to him.
Posted on 4/20/14 at 8:25 pm to i am dan
Honestly I don't think you'll have a problem finding one. Hell I don't even know you but I'd give you my cousins kid tomorrow since you sound like a great guy. She's doing time and her 10 year old isn't wanted by anyone. He's actually a decent dude despite his mom . Point being there are too many unwanted children out there.
Posted on 4/20/14 at 8:28 pm to i am dan
dont do it
get a dog off of craigslist instead
get a dog off of craigslist instead
Posted on 4/20/14 at 8:29 pm to BeerMoney
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Honestly I don't think you'll have a problem finding one. Hell I don't even know you but I'd give you my cousins kid tomorrow since you sound like a great guy. She's doing time and her 10 year old isn't wanted by anyone. He's actually a decent dude despite his mom . Point being there are too many unwanted children out there.
I hope he finds a home soon.
Posted on 4/20/14 at 8:34 pm to i am dan
Nothing like bumping a 2 month old thread...
Posted on 4/20/14 at 9:37 pm to OMLandshark
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Girls all over the place and they don't know how to handle them, and they're screwed to a life in the sweatshops or prostitution. Foster kids, while still bad, still aren't on the same level.
Hey, do me a favor and go to your local strip club or where the prostitutes handle business in your city and do a survey of how many were in the care of the system at one point of their life. The statistics for children that grow up in the American foster care system are horrible and there's not much to recommend the system
That being said, to the OP you can check with your local Child Welfare agency about doing emergency placements. For example, if a child is suddenly placed in the states custody and a temporary Foster Parent is needed for a short period they would contact you for placement until more permanent arrangements could be made. This would allow you to test the waters of Foster/adoption to determine if it's a fit for you. Just a suggestion
Posted on 4/20/14 at 9:44 pm to i am dan
I can give you this advice.
Groucho Marx had several children, one was adopted.
When asked about his adopted child Marx would always reply, "One of them is adopted. I don't remember which one."
If you adopt, always keep that attitude.
Groucho Marx had several children, one was adopted.
When asked about his adopted child Marx would always reply, "One of them is adopted. I don't remember which one."
If you adopt, always keep that attitude.
Posted on 4/20/14 at 10:07 pm to SavageOrangeJug
My wife and I adopted my oldest son. We went through the state. His mom was a druggie and lost her kid and we adopted him. We fostered him for 2 years before she lost her rights and we then officially adopted him. Best decision we ever made. He is such a sweet and loving kid. He was a baby when we got him and we are slowly going through the process of explaining that he is adopted. We have 2 biological kids as well and I love that kid just as much as the other ones.
After going through the state process, I have seen some crap and the state government is ridiculous. If you go through the state, just remember most of the older kids are in foster care for a reason and most, not all, have some issues. Some can be worked through, some can't. There are plenty of kids that do need good homes and I hope you can give them that.
Good luck.
After going through the state process, I have seen some crap and the state government is ridiculous. If you go through the state, just remember most of the older kids are in foster care for a reason and most, not all, have some issues. Some can be worked through, some can't. There are plenty of kids that do need good homes and I hope you can give them that.
Good luck.
Posted on 4/20/14 at 10:12 pm to i am dan
We adopted our daughter. Birth mother had already had two children taken away, birth father here illegally. We were able to do it pre-birth, so she came home from the hospital with us. It ain't cheap, but worth every penny, ten-fold.
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