greiving the loss of someone you love
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Posted by MikeD on 2/4 at 9:03 pm to meauxjeaux2
I can hold out until then funeral most of the time... then 'Amazing Grace' hits and


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Posted by Merck on 2/4 at 9:26 pm to meauxjeaux2
My dad died last Wednesday, funeral was Saturday. He had been wasting away since the week before. He had a stroke right after New Year's and just never recovered. I spent a lot of time breaking down in his room the last week. Happened at least once or twice a day. Especially when he lost all consciousness. I hated so much that he was just laying in that bed.

My dad got run over by a car when he was 20. His leg broke at a complete right angle. It was just like Tyrone Prothro's injury. Except this was in 1951. They wanted to amputate, he didn't and he didn't trust them not to do it anyway. Forced them to use a local anesthetic so he could sit up and watch them operate to make sure they didn't. He was that freaking tough. Seeing him so weak was killing me, for his sake. It was instantly real to me everyday that he was gonna die because he was never that weak, never that frail in his life. But when he died there was nothing left. I haven't cried since.

My mom died 4 years ago. Found out she had lung cancer on Jan 11. They told us she probably had about 6 months with or without chemo. And I was ok because it still wasn't definite. Docs always say shite like that and then the person lives another 6 years. So that didn't mean anything, right? Exactly one month later, Feb 11, she died in the middle of the night, in her own bed, with absolutely no warning. Then I lost it cause then it was real. I cried everyday for weeks. I still cry over her now sometimes.

I think it will hit you when you don't expect it to. You'll probably think you're prepared because you've been ok so far. It might not be until the day she goes, but something will happen that makes it real for you and you won't be able to control it. You'll wonder what the hell happened to being prepared.


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Posted by Isabelle on 2/4 at 10:56 pm to meauxjeaux2
You are in the shock phase. It's normal. When police came to our home and told us our son had been killed in an accident, I couldn't cry. When I called my oldest daughter to tell her of her brother's death, I asked her why I couldn't cry. Within a few days, I couldn't stop crying, after that everytime I said my son's name, I cried.

You're ok. Take it one day at a time. Bless you.



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Posted by JordonfortheJ on 2/4 at 10:58 pm to meauxjeaux2
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Maw Maws


southerners

No one person grieves the same. /thread
sorry to hear that though



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Posted by USMCTiger03 on 2/4 at 10:59 pm to meauxjeaux2
Sounds like you got to enjoy having her around for a long time.


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Posted by Zed on 2/4 at 11:03 pm to meauxjeaux2
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My Maw Maws liver has shut down and she'll be gone within the next two weeks or so but I find myself unable to cry.
My granddad died last year. I felt bad, but never cried.



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Posted by BananaHammock on 2/4 at 11:41 pm to meauxjeaux2
The tears will come. Trust me. I lost my sweet grandmother last year and I still think about her all the time.


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Posted by meauxjeaux2 on 2/4 at 11:43 pm to USMCTiger03
Two,Maw Maw is 93 and has survived a massive heart attack and breast cancer a decade ago. I feel so lucky to have such a great person around in my life.
Thanks y'all for all the stories. Helps out a lot.



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Posted by brbengalgal on 2/10 at 12:11 pm to Lpmann3
I know someone in hospice right now. It is my first exposure to it. It has been quite horrifying because it has revealed to me that hospice is nothing more than euthanasia.

Why would they give someone oxygen but let them dehydrate and starve to death?

Is this a result of the new healthcare laws?


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Posted by NorthTiger on 2/10 at 12:18 pm to Lpmann3
Stages of grief

Shock
Denial
Anger
Sadness
Acceptsnce



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Posted by RBWilliams8 on 2/10 at 12:20 pm to meauxjeaux2
It will hit you later. If its something you expect then it's not as big of a shock. But later when it actually happens you'll grieve at some point.


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Posted by 9Fiddy on 2/10 at 12:20 pm to meauxjeaux2
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I don't think I'm doing it right.
My Maw Maws liver has shut down and she'll be gone within the next two weeks or so but I find myself unable to cry. She's pretty much my favorite person ever. Old school cajun French from Raceland and she's most awesome person ever.
I know she's going and I don't want her to go but I'm acting like its no big deal.
is wrong with me? I'm biggest a-holes ever.

You'll get there. My mom died when I was 14. I, of course, cried at the time, but I never realy greived. I pushed all the hurt down and hid it. I was 33 when it finally all came to the surface and I could let it all go. It's all a matter of timing.



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Posted by HerbEaverstinks on 2/10 at 12:36 pm to meauxjeaux2
At the funeral, when they do the granny role call, and they stand up one by one raising their cast iron skillets in the air and yell "Here!"

Then, the guy at the pulpit says "meauxjeaux2's granny .... meauxjeaux2's granny ...."




that's when


yeah



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