How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?
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re: How important is it to you for your wife to take your last name?
Posted by VetteGuy on 2/4 at 7:12 pm to When in Rome
I joke and kid about being a chauvinist all the time.
(NoHo, more sammichs! )

The fact is, there is a lot more to marriage that just being "the boss."
You are taking on a tremoudus responsibility in being the head of the household. It is best to be married to someone that shares the same values and beliefs as you do.

Any man that treats his wife like a possession is clueless. And he's missing the real value of a marriage.





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Posted by VetteGuy on 2/4 at 7:15 pm to keakdasneak
Well, we disagree, obviously.

If you were inferring that I think of her as a possession, you are incorrect.


My point is that if we had those types of fundamental differences, we wouldn't be discussing marriage anyway.



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Posted by TigerintheNO on 2/4 at 7:19 pm to WG_Dawg
My wife asked me if I wanted her to take my name, I told her do you want me to introduce you as my wife or babys mamma.


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Posted by RhodeIslandRed on 2/4 at 7:25 pm to RedMustang
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The "macho caveman males" on here amaze me. You expect women to take your name even if they don't want to? If women asked you to take their name, would you? If not, then you are a hypocrite. You can't "demand" that they take your name if you wouldn't be willing to do the same for them. It's just a name and if women aren't comfortable taking yours, let them keep theirs, go with a hyphenated name, or choose a new last name. There is no woman who should marry a man who demands that they take their name. If a man is that close minded, he would start demanding other things as well. Marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship.


Get me a beer and fix me a sandwich.



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Posted by RedMustang on 2/4 at 7:28 pm to VetteGuy
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You are taking on a tremoudus responsibility in being the head of the household


Who decides which one is the "head of the household?" Is it the man or the woman? Why is there a need for one? A marriage isn't a corporation, it's a PARTNERSHIP!



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Posted by jmcs68 on 2/4 at 7:29 pm to VetteGuy
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Any man that treats his wife like a possession is clueless. And he's missing the real value of a marriage.


No truer words have ever been spoken...



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Posted by RedMustang on 2/4 at 7:30 pm to RhodeIslandRed
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Get me a beer and fix me a sandwich


Get me one and make me a pie while your at it.



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Posted by Sir Drinksalot on 2/4 at 7:30 pm to RedMustang
I know your kind.


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Posted by jmcs68 on 2/4 at 7:31 pm to RedMustang
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Who decides which one is the "head of the household?" Is it the man or the woman? Why is there a need for one? A marriage isn't a corporation, it's a PARTNERSHIP!



God did in the Bible. A rib was taken from Adam to make the Eve. It also states that a wife should be as one with her husband.


This post was edited on 2/4 at 7:34 pm

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Posted by Geauxtiga on 2/4 at 7:33 pm to ShoeBang
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We got married and she took my name.
And when you get divorced she'll take everything else.





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Posted by RhodeIslandRed on 2/4 at 7:36 pm to RedMustang
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Get me one and make me a pie while your at it.

Sure, I'll get you a beer, but you'll have to supply the pie.



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Posted by theOG on 2/4 at 7:37 pm to keakdasneak
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What does a name have to do with two becoming one? It is a label. Names and labels are in their nature symbolic.


its not just the name hombre, its a symbol of shared values. my wife and i were just like he and his wife, this topic did not need to be discussed. and if it was a topic that needed to be legitimately discussed then we wouldn't share traditional marital values. if that were the case, we wouldn't be married.






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Posted by lsunurse on 2/4 at 7:38 pm to castorinho
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Whew, glad you cleared that up



This is the OT, I knew I had to make sure that was included in the retelling of the story.


I'm dropping my middle name and taking my maiden name as my middle name. I can understand if you keep your last name due to a professional attachment to it, but otherwise I don't see why you wouldn't.



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Posted by keakdasneak on 2/4 at 7:42 pm to theOG
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its not just the name hombre, its a symbol of shared values. my wife and i were just like he and his wife, this topic did not need to be discussed. and if it was a topic that needed to be legitimately discussed then we wouldn't share traditional marital values. if that were the case, we wouldn't be married.


A symbol nonetheless. Remove the symbol and the shared values still exist. The real thing is what is important, not the symbol.



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Posted by VetteGuy on 2/4 at 7:43 pm to RedMustang
A marriage is absolutely a partnership, but at some point, the buck has to stop somewhere.
You should certainly value your wife's wise counsel, but the husband and father is the leader of the home.




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Posted by Indfanfromcol on 2/4 at 7:43 pm to WG_Dawg
Would not care.
But my children would have my last name. That would be a deal breaker if my s/o wanted to keep her last name.



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Posted by theOG on 2/4 at 7:45 pm to keakdasneak
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A symbol nonetheless. Remove the symbol and the shared values still exist. The real thing is what is important, not the symbol.


you do your thing and i'll do mine, i'm not trying to convince you.



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Posted by lsunurse on 2/4 at 7:47 pm to theOG
Chicks that insist on doing the hyphenated name thing, not for work/professional purposes, tend to be high maintenance and annoying as frick.



Just from my observations



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Posted by When in Rome on 2/4 at 8:28 pm to lsunurse
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Chicks that insist on doing the hyphenated name thing, not for work/professional purposes, tend to be high maintenance and annoying as frick.



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Posted by PurpleandGold Motown on 2/4 at 8:32 pm to Indfanfromcol
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But my children would have my last name. That would be a deal breaker if my s/o wanted to keep her last name.


I suppose the girls could have her last name. They are going to give it up anyway, right?



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