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Have women bitten off more than they can chew w/(family courts/marriage/divorce)
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:15 am
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:15 am
I know about 5+ women either through friends or family right now, in their 20s or 30s, in long term relationships who have been waiting on a proposal, even in some circumstances begging to get it, but it's not coming.
In one case, the girl (my wife's friend-no pics sorry) I know is nearing the end of her biological clock, which has now been shortened due to some medical reasons she needs to address in about 5 years, that will keave her infertile. Yet she keeps getting strung along by some dude, about getting engaged, and it's pretty obvious he just isn't interested in taking that step.
Then I still have a number of friends (men) still in their 30s without the slightest interest in marriage or starting a family.
I understand all the reasons. But it still sad to me that our government and court systems seem to almost be encouraging young people from having families. And scaring men away from marriage due to the "rigged" nature of how divorce turns out.
As for the girls, many of them are putting this stage off and focusing on their careers. But their biological instincts start kicking in sometime in their 30s, and become depressed when they can't get a man to their standards who wants to marry them.
In one case, the girl (my wife's friend-no pics sorry) I know is nearing the end of her biological clock, which has now been shortened due to some medical reasons she needs to address in about 5 years, that will keave her infertile. Yet she keeps getting strung along by some dude, about getting engaged, and it's pretty obvious he just isn't interested in taking that step.
Then I still have a number of friends (men) still in their 30s without the slightest interest in marriage or starting a family.
I understand all the reasons. But it still sad to me that our government and court systems seem to almost be encouraging young people from having families. And scaring men away from marriage due to the "rigged" nature of how divorce turns out.
As for the girls, many of them are putting this stage off and focusing on their careers. But their biological instincts start kicking in sometime in their 30s, and become depressed when they can't get a man to their standards who wants to marry them.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:18 am to burger bearcat
i'm not saying avoiding getting married/starting a family is the way to go, BUT there has never been fewer pros and more cons to that life than right now. 3/4 of these broads under 35 can't clean or cook and half of them have tattoos and vape.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:20 am to burger bearcat
I know quite a few people who had parents get divorced when they were a little older like 14+ and that has had an impact on their visions of marriage. I think seeing one parent mistreat the other has made them extremely cautious.
ETA: but yeah also as said above, a lot of young people (mostly women) screw around literally for 10 years or more not trying to do anything serious and then hit a point in their life and panic.
ETA: but yeah also as said above, a lot of young people (mostly women) screw around literally for 10 years or more not trying to do anything serious and then hit a point in their life and panic.
This post was edited on 1/27/23 at 6:22 am
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:22 am to burger bearcat
Anecdotal story time, a local man recently committed suicide in my area after he lost badly in a child custody case and was being forced to pay an ungodly amount for child support.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:22 am to burger bearcat
Funny I know a lot of single career women in their 30’s and I can only think of one who I’d consider “desperate” for a man.
Hell, Gwen Stefani is having a baby in her 50’s. Women aren’t nearly as limited as men think we are. Or at least the ones in my circle aren’t.
Hell, Gwen Stefani is having a baby in her 50’s. Women aren’t nearly as limited as men think we are. Or at least the ones in my circle aren’t.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:23 am to GreatLakesTiger24
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3/4 of these broads under 35 can't clean or cook
Right. Alot of them must thing men want a "career woman". And are completely out of touch. Men want a woman who is going to take care of the house and the kids, give them respect, not get fat, and have regular sex. That's pretty much it.
This post was edited on 1/27/23 at 6:25 am
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:23 am to burger bearcat
I think it’s women waiting a long time while most of the “good” men are either in serious relationships or already married by the time they wake up and decide they want more than a f boy.
Also. There’s a greater percentage of undesirable men out there who make terrible partners and either don’t commit or cannot function in an equitable partnership.
It’s not one or the other, it’s definitely both. I will have to raise my daughter to ensure she does have a viable career for the reason above; but there’s no reason she can’t cultivate a career at the same time that she’s dating or even married. You can and should probably have both.
Also. There’s a greater percentage of undesirable men out there who make terrible partners and either don’t commit or cannot function in an equitable partnership.
It’s not one or the other, it’s definitely both. I will have to raise my daughter to ensure she does have a viable career for the reason above; but there’s no reason she can’t cultivate a career at the same time that she’s dating or even married. You can and should probably have both.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:24 am to burger bearcat
Unless you are just a guy that is dead set on having children it's not worth it. Way too big of a risk long term for just companionship and the potentially have kids.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:26 am to burger bearcat
Well yeah, men are wising up. It’s not a bad thing. Maybe the next generation of girls will actually learn how to cook/clean instead of stressing about which series to watch on Netflix while sipping on their pumpkin spice latte.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:26 am to burger bearcat
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And scaring men away from marriage due to the "rigged" nature of how divorce turns out.
Rigged is an understatement. A buddy of mine has been paying child support for the last three years and over the course of the last six months, he’s been overpaying as a result of an error made by the female caseworker. He overpaid to the tune of about 5k and you know what the state told him? Whoopsies. There’s nothing we can do to get your money back.
I used to take a different stance regarding marriage, but after seeing first hand all of the ways the state relishes fricking over the man at every opportunity, I don’t blame any man for not taking that risk.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:27 am to GreatLakesTiger24
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3/4 of these broads under 35 can't clean or cook
You must be around losers: I don’t see this in my world.
I don’t think a woman knowing how to cook matters this day in age. But everyone, regardless of gender, needs to know how to clean. Don’t even get me started on grown men who don’t even know how to do their own laundry.
EDIT: I’m a 35 year old woman, and a real good cook. Definitely not why I’m a good wife, however.
This post was edited on 1/27/23 at 6:33 am
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:27 am to burger bearcat
I’m 42, have a gf (no pics), and neither one of us want marriage. She’s done it and didn’t like it. I’m at the age where I’ve never been married and it doesn’t interest me, nor does having my own children. When I was single, most women from 33-40 had given up as well and basically focused on the gym and their careers. Some wanted children out of wedlock, just so they could check the kid box, but never commit to actual marriage. Marriage isn’t what it used to be. It used to be one of the big goals in life, but that’s fizzled away.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:28 am to questionable
Because the only things that make women a good partner are cooking and cleaning?
Never change, OT. Jesus
Never change, OT. Jesus
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:28 am to burger bearcat
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In one case, the girl (my wife's friend-no pics sorry) I know is nearing the end of her biological clock
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:28 am to burger bearcat
More guys are waking up and realizing that in most cases, marriage is financial suicide from a statistical perspective.
Plus, who wants to marry a mid 30s former ho bag that slept her way through life in her 20s?
Good for these guys avoiding modern day slavery produced by the divorce courts.
Plus, who wants to marry a mid 30s former ho bag that slept her way through life in her 20s?
Good for these guys avoiding modern day slavery produced by the divorce courts.
This post was edited on 1/27/23 at 6:30 am
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:28 am to burger bearcat
Traditional society, for all of its claimed (sometimes claimed correctly) mistreatment of women, was set up expressly to protect women and children. Everyone will understand what’s been done eventually. Hopefully it’s not too late.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:29 am to tigerbandpiccolo
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waiting a long time while most of the “good” men are either in serious relationships or already married by the time they wake up
Someone on Reddit made a comment very similar to this the other day that seemed to ring true more often than not. "...all the people who had good childhoods with loving role models (who set good examples) found each other pretty early and got to settle down while everyone else is out here trying to frick their trauma away."
Obviously not universally true. I know several late 30s/early 40s folks that really great people and are single purely from not putting themselves out there.
But I think a lot of the reason both men and women can't find good partners when dating as adults is because the good partners.. have good partners. Mature, reasonable people found other mature, reasonable people when they were younger and they still remain married.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:30 am to dyslexiateechur
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Women aren’t nearly as limited as men think we are. Or at least the ones in my circle aren’t.
I didn’t see that coming.
Posted on 1/27/23 at 6:31 am to burger bearcat
Why do the courts stop at divorce raping men? A woman should get half if she dates a man too
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