re: 7 months pron free

i read this as 7 months free pron.

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it’s weird seeing folks type pron

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you new here?

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There was a time when the internet was for good wholesome things

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It still is; self control makes all the difference.
It does bring like interests together.

What amazed me is that nobody I knew gave two shits about audiophile stuff and video gear. That's what happens when growing up in hicksville.

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extremely low sex drive

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only having sex once every 1-2 weeks lol

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I know this is the OT but IMO every 1-2 weeks doesn’t sound like extremely low although for me the diff between a week and two is big.
For me, 1x/wk is okay, 2x/wk is ideal and 1x/2wks is really pushing being tolerable. I’d say Day 10 (since last) I start getting really bothered about it.

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I know this is the OT but IMO every 1-2 weeks doesn’t sound like extremely low although for me the diff between a week and two is big.
For me, 1x/wk is okay, 2x/wk is ideal and 1x/2wks is really pushing being tolerable. I’d say Day 10 (since last) I start getting really bothered about it.

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yea big difference between 1x per week and every other week.

for me 3-4x is perfect, 2x is a great though.

I consider them wanting less than 2x per week low for a female mid 30s to 50ish(menopause)

if i have to go more than 7 days though i start bitching a little

but it also depends. sounds like his wife is not into even touching him or foreplay in between. i think if they could get a schedule of 1x per week and then agree that some other day during the week she will help him in some form, that would help him be a lot happier.


but all this shite takes work and lots of communication. got to make sure you arent in a mosquito cycle where you do something and expect attention or intimacy in return. lots of work on himself to make sure he is attractive emotionally and that he is warming her up all day, not just tapping her on the shoulder asking for sex or waiting for her to initiate.


is he following the rule of 7 where they are going on date night every 7 days, a night or two alone staying outside the home every 7 weeks and taking a week long vacation every 7 months.

are they praying together and saying prayers for each other? is she getting one every time they have sex? do they need to use toys to spice it up?

lots of questions and even with the medicine im sure there are things he could do to help the situation but sounds like its a no go subject to bring up so sounds like they need counseling so they can get out that there is a disconnect there.

but unless they communicate its not gonna happen. seen this break up many of marriages after about year 10.

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I'm curious to ask those who went through this what were the negative effects when you were deep in it and what changes you saw when you got to the other side?

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Wouldn’t say I was ever ‘deep in it’ but in my single days would jerk it to pron pretty regularly. Caught myself not going on dates or simply not as excited for the real thing.

The last straw for me was when a hot chick I had been after surprisingly threw it on me one night and I couldn’t really get it up since having a couple beers but mostly because I had jerked it twice earlier that day. That was the last time we talked.

Stopped then in there and never had that problem again. Also noticed I naturally seemed to be getting a lot of random attention from females after not spanking it for a while. Something in the endorphins or hormones I guess. Can’t explain it but there was a very noticeable difference in communications with the opposite sex.

Interesting. Women do know when the competition is ramped up but I've never heard what you described. I've never had an issue but the 8 months after Ida were particularly rough for me. I found myself wanting to watch porn more as an escape. Found it interesting I was going to that the way people go to drinking or smoking

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well good luck lasting in a marriage and not have her resent you and just give you duty sex. its ok though, a healthy and fulfilling marriage isnt for everyone and if you arent willing to work at it...dont expect it to work well. in all seriousness if your first reaction to that was what in the monkey frick....you are the exact guy im talking about that needs to start doing some self evaluation

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duty sex the juice just ain’t worth the squeeze anymore, baw. It’s more of a tough man competition that I am going to win.