re: Wife’s uncle is disrupting care plan for her father who has dementia

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Surely some OT enforcer will take the old dude's knees out

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Now this is gaslighting.

Maybe the uncle is right?

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My wife and her uncle both have power of attorney on the will. I think the MIL does as well.

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$10 million.

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does your FIL and his brother (uncle) own a family business, investment property, land together ?
How did he get POA when it should have been your MIL and your wife ?
is the uncle included in the living will stating he gets a % or $$$ from the estate once that time comes ?

I was in a similar situation as my FIL was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and dementia prior to his passing in 2017. His then wife (2nd wife) had an attorney notarize a will, and divorce papers "after his diagnoses" and when he was in a nursing home and didn't even know who he was. That bitch took the house, his car, emptied his checking and savings accounts, signed over his monthly oil check royalties to my FIL's brother, antique furniture, shotguns and rifles, and quit paying the nursing home bill. In the amended will, my FIL left nothing to his 2 daughters and 6 grandchildren. My wife didn't find out until her azzhat uncle showed up at the funeral home bragging about getting the oil royalty checks. If either the ex- or my wife's uncle were confronted alone by my wife today, I truly believe she would go 100% SONIC on their arse with a lead pipe and beat them to within an inch of their life.

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How did he get POA when it should have been your MIL and your wife ?

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You can give your POA to a total stranger if you want to. Not advisable but there's no law against it.

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interdiction or curatorship is the way to go

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As someone in a similar situation what rights do you have as a curator?

Also, how does the court go about choosing an undercurator?

What an entitled a-hole.

You need to beat his arse.

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I don’t know what angle you have here but you need to stay the hell out of his business. How did you even get on his HIPAA release anyway? Are you SURE you legally can be there for his appointments? Or would we find that maybe you are snooping around where you shouldn’t be?

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I’m not an internet tough guy and definitely not a real life one but if someone said this to me about one of my parents, I’d tell them to pick the Sonic.

Wife should get power of attorney and you should tell the brother to go fock himself. Man up.

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Long story short; he sees what’s coming down the pike for him and he’s flexing on your Dad’s situation bc he can still flex.

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This. Seeing his brother deteriorate is a wake up call for him about his own age, mortality and future. The uncle is resisting reality because he doesn't want to accept it.