re: Complicated marriage/legal question involving finances

Bro, I hate to tell you this, but your wife is 100% fricking another dude. She’s living in a hotel and withdrawing copious amounts of money? Yeah, she’s shacked up with some dude in this hotel smoking crack and letting him rearrange her guts. Time to lawyer up ASAP.

I’ve seen on here drugs, adultery, etc. Let me throw out another possibility:

You stated somewhere on here that your wife is in her late 40s and her erratic and odd behavior recently started. It could be menopause. I am a woman who has gone though it. I got tired of my now ex-husbands shite and finally left him - once menopause hit. All those unresolved and continuing issues finally boiled over.

CAREFULLY suggest to her she may be going through menopause and ask her to get her hormones checked. Does she have a regular DR or GYN? Call them. Tell them what is going on with the changes in her behavior. Ask them if it may be menopause and if they can recommend hormone testing at her next visit…Then, figure out how to get her to go in for a checkup.

Did I read you are the bread winner? Does that mean you make most of the money or all of the money? Does she work? If not, she needs to get a job.

Change your direct deposit to go into your new personal account. However, be certain to continue financing family obligations as usual - whatever that is. This includes YOU taking over the task of paying the bills which should be easy now a days with autopay features most banks offer for free.

Most importantly, until you can figure out what is going on with your wife you have a moral obligation to protect your children.

If you have the funds, hire a private investigator to follow her - preferably one recommended by your divorce attorney.

Remember, hiring a divorce attorney does not mean you are divorcing. It means you are gathering necessary information and preparing yourself for what may come.

Just my $.02.

To me it seems like she’s building a war chest of funds to file. She’s going to need somewhere around 5-10k to do everything in a non amicable divorce. Her behavior sounds about on par for bat shite crazy, but it doesn’t constitute certifiably nuts by a doctor.

You need to get a lawyer first thing in the morning and get the ball rolling. Protect your money. Cut her off from pulling cash.

What do the kids know? Seems like they might see stuff that you might not Know or hear.

Buckle up because you’re about to get fricked

This is basically the plot of Casino. OP is Ace Rothstein.

Do you know which hotel she is at? I’d go there and check on the welfare of my kid if I were you.

Or at least call and have the police do a welfare check on your kid. Moms having mental breaks can absolutely do something tragic.

sounds like shes trying to make a nest egg for a future long term departure.

i think you need to stop fricking with a therapist and start talking to a lawyer.

You can bypass a phone bill with a burner phone

I found an article on the subject. It may (may not) be beneficial.

Why Some Women May Develop Psychosis in Midlife.
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