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And a point of clarity - when i say hotel living …she isn’t holed up in a hotel - she is just traveling to different cities but the past week as been w/ our youngest

I think she is having a manic episode. My MIL is manic/depressive and when she goes manic she does and says all kinds of crazy things that make no logical sense. Just to name a few:

1) Spends money like crazy.
2) "cuts off" anyone in her life that tries to call her out on her BS.
3) Tries to contact old HS and College BFs (That are usually married) to try to "catch up".
4) Explodes on anyone and everyone that doesn't just go along with her.
5) Acts like everyone else is the problem.
6) does what she wants, when she wants to and to hell with whoever it screws over.

She has done worse to others but the last time I ever went along with anything she wanted to do when she was manic: she invited me (my wife was working), my children, 2 of her (underage) nieces and my parents to a "brunch" to see her HS Bf play in a band after church. When we got there it was a bar. They wouldn't let my kids in (obviously) and she declared she was staying and the rest of us could leave. She then got the ex BF to drive her home and was kind of pissed that his wife was there too "because the wife never like her." Well bitch, I wouldn't like you either if I were her

She now on the right medicine and hasn't had any bad episodes in years and she's awesome when she's regulated. But when he's manic, it's terrible. The point of my post isn't to call my MIL crazy but to point out that she had similar actions as your wife but with the right treatment she lives a normal life.

Also the manic episode will eventually turn into a deep depressive state where she won't get out of bed and may contemplate suicide. Just a heads up on the whats to come.

This post was edited on 5/20/24 at 12:28 pm