re: Complicated marriage/legal question involving finances

Any chance y’all can get a babysitter and just have a night just you two?

She’s your wife. Put fault, blame, details, etc, in the future. Connect with her, empathize with her, let her know you’re on her side. She’ll bring you into her inner circle and you’ll figure out what to do. Stop trying to fix and have all the common sense answers. Just listen. Give her a teammate when she’s feeling like she’s all alone in a sea of people.