re: What’s the boards opinion on the term “gaslighting”

You didn’t tell me Jr was suspended from school this week?

Yes I did. You just don’t remember.

Wuuut? I’d forget my son got suspended from school ?

Yeah, you really should pay more attention. By the way I made some changes on the house plans with the architect.

You did what ?

Yeah I didn’t want to bother you because I knew you were stressed about our son being suspended from school.

FML.

Now endure this for years or even decades. And you will understand. It’s always a setup for the next thing. And you will be on both a “ need to know basis” and also blamed to friends and family for things that never occurred. Thus the word malevolence. And if you don’t know what you are looking at, you very well might begin to question your reality. Gaslighting is real. Hang out with a legit narcissist and learn the hard way. Or be smart and abort fast because you recognize what you are experiencing.